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Learning how to heal from emotional pain from the past is not just about feeling better. It’s about removing the one thing that most blocks us from living our true lives.

“You Ruined My Life!”

“You Ruined My Life!”

Getting Over Resentment

Rabbi Shais Taub is a renowned speaker and noted scholar on Chassidic philosophy. He is the author of G-d of Our Understanding: Jewish Spirituality and Recovery from Addiction. He and his family make their home in Pittsburgh, PA.
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November 7, 2015

this truly helped me to reflect on my attitude regarding my feelings on persons who have wronged me....and, yes, I understand that all has happened for a is G-d's will for my story and my life's experience and lessons.....Thank You!!!!!!
wendy ostrich
August 1, 2015
tiny problem
... I just downloaded the lecture and sort of hit a wall after a couple of minutes.Certainly,the pain reflex exists so that we back out of the situation.

But,saying that feeling that pain at a later point is never warranted/productive is a logical fallacy.
Why? Because there might just be times,we could not get out of the Situation.
Children cannot escape abuse.
In a case such as this,the pain we feel into adulthood still serves a purpose.
By confronting it,we can back out now.

Some occurences in life simply can't be compared with stumping your toe.
Broken ribs will take longer not only to heal,but to stop hurting.

Sorry for the impulsive rant,guess you hit a nerve there.
Maybe,this was what I needed.
Aaron Lemke
July 12, 2015
Thank you Rabbi Taub for this amazing talk, it is somethIng that I have been thinking a lot about lately. Question: How does one know if when one is being mistreated that he is to view this as an act coming from God, or maybe right now my role is to stand up for myself? If my boss is mistreating me, am I to say "God is the author of my life, he is orchastrating this, my boss is just the supporting cast", or do I say to myself "This is my God given mission right now to stand up to my boss and try to prevent the abuse?"

If anyone has some insight it would be appreciated.Thanks.
January 17, 2015
thank you :
it was so clear . thank you for the message...
you are so funny !!!!!!
and still deliver ..
you have talent......
G-D runs the show
we just show up...(simple)

the hot do story had me on the floor...HA---ha

(you have the change) great delivery , made sense

one question ?

this video must be watched 2x...there is alot in this...

Rabbi taub..- you are Wise..
Pedro Quezada
December 21, 2014
Your words have helped me more than I can articulate. You also made me crack a smile with your sense of humor.
December 9, 2014
Wow! Thank You! You are something incredible Rabbi.
Lakewood NJ
October 2, 2014
This is so revealing. I am not Jewish, but I am a Kabbalah student and have actually changed!! But your words just before Yom Kippur make me think about so many things. I think this is God's way of telling me: This is what you have to do. I will keep coming back to your video until I can assimilate every bit of learning. Blessings.
July 25, 2014
Thank you!
This was an answer to my prayers. God is the author of my life. God Bless You!
June 10, 2014
My cousin mentioned this talk in a conversation. The topic is very healing and unbelievably important. Thank you for making this accessable.
April 26, 2014
question please ?
First of all, I learn a lot from this video. I said learn & not learned because each & every time I repeat this video I learn something new. Thank you.
I am curious, when you use the term 'resentment' does that only apply to the classical situation when someone is a recipient of a negative act or speech and no reconciliation was ever accomplished or just something like having a more clever & intelligent sibling or parent or child which you think limits your abilities? Thank your for all your efforts.
Yaakov Ben=Shmuel
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