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Learning how to heal from emotional pain from the past is not just about feeling better. It’s about removing the one thing that most blocks us from living our true lives.

“You Ruined My Life!”

“You Ruined My Life!”

Getting Over Resentment

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Rabbi Shais Taub is Creative Director at Jewish.TV. He is the author of G-d of Our Understanding: Jewish Spirituality and Recovery from Addiction. He and his family make their home in Pittsburgh, PA.
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July 25, 2014
Thank you!
This was an answer to my prayers. God is the author of my life. God Bless You!
Anonymous
June 10, 2014
watching
My cousin mentioned this talk in a conversation. The topic is very healing and unbelievably important. Thank you for making this accessable.
Anonymous
April 26, 2014
question please ?
First of all, I learn a lot from this video. I said learn & not learned because each & every time I repeat this video I learn something new. Thank you.
I am curious, when you use the term 'resentment' does that only apply to the classical situation when someone is a recipient of a negative act or speech and no reconciliation was ever accomplished or just something like having a more clever & intelligent sibling or parent or child which you think limits your abilities? Thank your for all your efforts.
Yaakov Ben=Shmuel
Yerushalayim
December 1, 2013
Question
After I have taken away the power from my tormentor (my brother) should I invite him to my child's wedding?
Anonymous
May 15, 2013
your book
Started reading your book: God of our understanding. It's brilliant. I love it, very clear. I am in AA & alanon. I hope you do some individual talks on the 12 steps for Jewish people. I already listened to most of Yisrael Pinson's talks , which are great. We need to refresh our prayer and meditation daily.
Lesly / Tzipora
Nova Scotia , Canada
May 13, 2013
brlilliant
Rabbi Taub. i didn't even finish listening to the lecture and stopped to write this long-long comment.

it is brilliant. just brilliant. for several years i listen to the lectures of the great Rabbis on the internet. 95% of them are very-very good. i heard many Rabbis, probably many dozens. you, Rabbi, stand alone. maybe it is not you, maybe this is just the topic of your lecture makes it great. in any case i propose you to move to Saint Louis. we have Chabad here, besides this is a baseball town, as you know. i would like to meet you and i would like you to be my Teacher. yes, i know - this is a wishful thinking and it will not happen. but i will also be happy if you continue to have more such lectures for many-many Jews.

this was you first lecture i heard. let me listen/watch some more and then we'll see if the offer to move to St. Louis still stands.

With great appreciation.
Arthur
st. louis
March 6, 2013
The Author of my life
I love the story you share about the author of your life. The fact that I ran on self will for so many years ( and can still fall into a rut at times) see this to be true. Your talk really simplified a lot of things for me.Thank you.
Coral
nanaimo, canada
centreforjudaism.ca
September 5, 2012
a life changer
Thank you Rabbi Taub. I have been struggling with recovery for a while, had therapy for PTSD, and your words are a gift to me. I totally agree that some therapy might be needed (previous comments), yet in the end resentment of deeds or events can only be escaped through giving the narrative of my life back to HaShem. Rabbi, thank you so much for contributing to my 'spiritual awakening'. And bless you for your book. Are there ever any retreats that you conduct? Thank you so much.
pat
New London, CT
July 3, 2012
Excellent
I am not Jewish but go to Hashem to ask when I need answers to questions.
I always get via an email, or videos like this one.
You are such a great speaker Rabbi,
Thank you and Hashem bless you and yours.
Anonymous
winnipeg, MB-Canada
July 2, 2012
To Anonymous, Monsey
I see you posted two separate comments. Allow me to answer both in one post.

1. When the resentment is at G-d, it is still a subtle form of idol worship. It is a form of SELF-worship because I think my way is better than His way. In other words, when I am angry at G-d, it means that I am imagining what reality would be like if I were G-d and I were running the show. In that case, I am the idol that I am worshipping. It's not healthy.

2. We close our eyes when we say Shema so that we can block out all distractions and contemplate pure Oneness. But we do not KEEP them closed! We open them and say "Baruch Shem K'vod Malchuso L'olam Vaed" which means that we should carry the Oneness of Shema INTO our perception of this busy and multifaceted world.

Thanks for the feedback.
Rabbi Shais Taub
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