The Talmud says that a man’s soulmate is chosen for him before birth. A poem dedicated by the poet to his wife.
Before I Took Up This Journey
Before G‑d opens his fist
to let a soul gently descend into this world,
He whispers a name, an occupation, a future bride:
“So-and-so, the architect
will marry so-and-so, the teacher’s daughter.”
If I lie asleep in my bed—
wherein the sages say a man’s soul goes back,
and he is partly dead—
if you must rouse me,
please, my wife,
do not even place your small hand
on my shoulders,
but whisper my name,
remind me that I am such-and-such a man
and you are the dark-haired daughter of so-and-so,
chosen for me
before I took up this journey.
From G‑d’s Optimism by Yehoshua November
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Good thing that you keep coming back to Chabad.org. Your thoughts are so optimistic and idealistic and dreamy. It makes one stop and think how things might be. If not now, then not when, but rather the sooner the better.
Yasher koach !
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There are people, around the world, making music and sharing in new and powerful ways.
One example of this is Playing for Change, in which musicians, pick up one song, and go around the globe, as others add to the song, and complete the circle and this is put on film. True soul music and there is one such video in which blind musicians are playing from all over.
This is a movement for change, and it does deeply affect people listening from all walks of life.
I am recently aware of an organization in tandem with this called Acting Together On the World Stage.
We are moving into a new state of consciousness, and the love expressed by Sam, here, is exactly where "it's at". Take heart. We are all of us, BELOVED, and yes, a moment in time is also, forever!
Cherish yourself, your moments of glad, and dance as Simchas Torah is all about getting to JOY.
Looking for a Messiah? Look at what's happening in the now and rejoice and be an instrument for love and change. We're in this together.
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Once you have found your soul mate, your true love, given to you by G-d, it matters not if it's for a fleeting moment, an evening, a day or a finite time: the love you shared will remain in your heart and soul forever.
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I come back to Chabad, again and again, because there are so many beautiful people on line, and some of these comments, so filled with love, and with yearning, make me glad to be here, though life is filled with such sadness, such as the loss described, and also the desire to fill out our own personal puzzles and find what is happy for each of us: another to share our deepest thoughts, our very selves.
Sam's words above from such a feeling level too made it so worthwhile to come back and read these comments.
You are all so wonderful and perhaps we, all souls, in finding each other here on line, and in reading between the lines are learning we're not alone, even when sometimes we feel so desperately alone and that G_d is bringing us together. Maybe just being here, provides solace and it is important to address and readdress these very human yearnings.
If any of us had that magic wand we would wish for each other a soul mate, someone to hear and know us in a tangible way.
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The words written by Sam of Castro Valley have so gripped me, as being some of the most beautiful I have ever read. You are right Sam - there is no greater gift - and it is in that receiving, and in that giving, that a soul mate will appear. Thank you that you did add something.
There are those of us for whom it is not in G-d's plan to be married, but there is always a soul mate to share creation and the wonderful love of the Creator.
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There are some cute messages in the ' soulmate ' post.
1. Whenever i see ' loyalty ' as part of love/marriage, it reminds me that loyalty is best applied to dogs.
2.So many people marry to escape loneliness, and settle for whoever. Isn't it easier to buy a dog ?
3. The most honest phrase and it rings true is : " if it is possible ". It's one of the biggest ' ifs ' in the search for love.
To going once, going twice ... hang in there, they say three times a charm. Also, the number 3 is the strongest numbers in all of kabbalah... 1+2 =3 , no other number is the sum of the two integers preceding it ... the triangle is the strongest structure ... triads such as 3 Patriarchs, CHaBaD - Chochma- Binah, Daat ... Chesed- Gevurah - Tiferet ... 3 spiritual pillars - study of Torah, prayer, mitzvot ...so lots of positives for man #3 to be your soulmate. But you still need to be vigilant.
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What a contrast in perspectives between these two posts.
The depressed person is like the Rebbetzin, so sad, doesn't know that a bad marriage is like Hell on Earth.
What jumps out at me is the philosophy of the Bal Tshuva. The Bal Tshuva having experienced a non- observant life, commences the life of a Tzaddik. The perfect Tzaddik is one who has been totally pious, perfectly observant his entire life. Yet, the Bal Tshuva having fallen so low is able to rise even higher than the perfect Tzaddik, for the perfect Tzaddik has overcome no challenges as faced by the Bal Tshuva. I wonder whether the ' 'Happily Divorced " have a higher quality of life than the ' perfectly married '. It is sad to see so many ' happy marriages ' that are kept intact by any number of reasons, but none of them love.
The Rebbetzin at the far end of the table couldn't be any further away from her husband. The age difference was just as wide apart. No children from the marriage. You call that ' Heaven ' ?
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In my first marriage there were both good and
bad times. He met someone else. We divorced.
Years later I married another Jewish man, who
I thought for sure was my soulmate. There were good times (mainly at the beginning) but
soon following were bad times. Many bad times. I wonder--was one of these men my soulmate or did I just never find him?
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I find so many beautiful comments regarding love and one's soulmate in comments posted here that I would prefer to read them all rather than adding my thoughts on the matter. One idea does come to mind though and that idea is of a loyal and total love of one's object of love, and love being returned in kind. I belive, if this is possible, there is no greater gift G-d gives a human being.
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i was sitting at a erev Shabbos dinner table with about a dozen people. At one end the rabbi was conversing in Yiddish. At the other end the rebbetzin was talking to a stranger in English She asked his marital status. He said " Happily divorced ". The rebbetzin replied " How sad ". The fellow smiled and said : rebbetzin, you know things about heaven: i know things about hell. " The rabbi overheard and cried " This is Shabbos. We must speak about good things ". The rebbetzin changed the topic to art on their walls. That was some segue ! The dinner didn't skip a beat. The rebbetzin was so polished. I was impressed by the whole scene.
When you travel, you learn a lot.
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