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An honest look at why and how we get pulled into dysfunctional relationships, and some practical insights for rising above the chaos.

Emotional Sobriety

Emotional Sobriety

Spiritual Tools for Dealing with Dysfunction

Rabbi Shais Taub is a renowned speaker and noted scholar on Chassidic philosophy. He is the author of G-d of Our Understanding: Jewish Spirituality and Recovery from Addiction. He and his family make their home in Pittsburgh, PA.
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September 19, 2016
Thank you
Thank you Rabbi. I am not Jewish but came across this (via Google search on tools for emotional sobriety) at a much needed moment. Listening to your talk has given me peace and a renewed sense of hope that maybe, just maybe, I can begin a new practice in setting boundaries for self respect in an extremely challenging family situation. Thank you again.
Pittsburgh, PA
July 18, 2016
Dear Rabbi, thank you very much for your of the best I've heard on codependency...and I loved the jokes!
April 19, 2016
Rabbi,May Hashem send you and your family many blessings this Pesach. Your lesson on Emotional Sobriety and co-dependence,has restored my happiness to me. I will from now on only try to run my life and not others. I am hereby declaring that I will get out of Hashem's way and let him run things.I will no longer worry because I will know that things are in good hands. Thank You,
Ron Saffer
Tucson, z
February 15, 2016
Hillel's talks
Dear Rabbi,
May you be blessed.
Can you recommend specific texts in regard to Hillel's "Im ein ani li, mi li?" I'd like to work on my middot by studying your closure's subject more deeply.
Thank you for a wonderful lecture.
Tristan Convert
Lso Angeles
August 2, 2015
sensory processing disorder
Der Rabbi,
I really enjoyed your lecture.
It was a real eye-opener.
Thank you very much.

One point I would like to clarify.
Sensory processing disorder is just what the name tells you.
Some of the most extreme forms of it can be found in autistic individuals.

So please,let's not throw human beings with sensory issues in with self-absorbed people who don't like it when "things are off"-as you put it.

I,for instance,don't feel that the sun's bright light is off. No,it's natural! I still need sunglaases a lot more frequently than other people because it physically hurts me.

Is that just self-absorbed?
BTW I'm an ADHD'er not even an autist.
I respect your efforts in trying to get a message across,please respect that disorders are not the appropriate conduit for any such message.

Sincerely and with the best wishes for the future
Aaron Lemke
February 5, 2013
I love it!
BH I listened to your lecture very often!!! It makes me really see clearly! To hear it comming from a Rabbi and seeing how Torah talks about these lessons too.....Its amazing!! thanks! I really apriciate it!
March 13, 2012
G-D of Our Understanding
Dear Rabbi Taub; Thank you so much for your book; it's what I call intense. I love it so much that I've read it twice and carry it around with me to access your thoughts on the various subjects. I am a gentile that loves the way you think and teach. You truly are a gift to all of us in recovery.
Mr. Christopher Beeker
March 12, 2012
Talk on Co-Dependency
Timely and Time-tested. Thank you!
Modesto, CA
February 11, 2012
Co-Alcoholics versus Codependency
I loved your talk, so forgive me if I am mistaken. In your talk it sounds as if you have co-alcoholics or co-addicts confused with codependents in general. In every example where you included the alcoholic or addict you seemed to be making a seperation with the codependent. I came into AA and then Al-Anon in 1978/79 when there was a definite seperation between the two addictions; those addicted to chemicals and those addicted to intensity or if you will the family members of the alcohohic. Most of the alcoholics and/or addicts, if not all, that I know are also codependent. It is a common thought in the Northwest, where I live, that the next step in sobriety after AA, is recovery in Al-Anon or other co-dependency groups. Maybe you believe so as well, but I couldn't tell from this talk. It is not uncommon in the meetings I go to in AA to talk openly about what we have also learned in the other groups, like Al-Anon, as it pertains to our sobriety and recovery.
Daniel DeGrandpre
Vancouver, Washington
January 11, 2012
I am fairly new to Judaism (about 4 years) but have been in dysfunction and addiction - both self and familial - my entire life. Your perspective is fresh, and it's like you're speaking right to me about my life. Thank you.
Chicago Ridge, IL
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