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An honest look at why and how we get pulled into dysfunctional relationships, and some practical insights for rising above the chaos.

Emotional Sobriety

Emotional Sobriety

Spiritual Tools for Dealing with Dysfunction

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Rabbi Shais Taub is Creative Director at Jewish.TV. He is the author of G-d of Our Understanding: Jewish Spirituality and Recovery from Addiction. He and his family make their home in Pittsburgh, PA.
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February 5, 2013
I love it!
BH I listened to your lecture very often!!! It makes me really see clearly! To hear it comming from a Rabbi and seeing how Torah talks about these lessons too.....Its amazing!! thanks! I really apriciate it!
Anonymous
March 13, 2012
G-D of Our Understanding
Dear Rabbi Taub; Thank you so much for your book; it's what I call intense. I love it so much that I've read it twice and carry it around with me to access your thoughts on the various subjects. I am a gentile that loves the way you think and teach. You truly are a gift to all of us in recovery.
Mr. Christopher Beeker
March 12, 2012
Talk on Co-Dependency
Timely and Time-tested. Thank you!
Barbara
Modesto, CA
February 11, 2012
Co-Alcoholics versus Codependency
I loved your talk, so forgive me if I am mistaken. In your talk it sounds as if you have co-alcoholics or co-addicts confused with codependents in general. In every example where you included the alcoholic or addict you seemed to be making a seperation with the codependent. I came into AA and then Al-Anon in 1978/79 when there was a definite seperation between the two addictions; those addicted to chemicals and those addicted to intensity or if you will the family members of the alcohohic. Most of the alcoholics and/or addicts, if not all, that I know are also codependent. It is a common thought in the Northwest, where I live, that the next step in sobriety after AA, is recovery in Al-Anon or other co-dependency groups. Maybe you believe so as well, but I couldn't tell from this talk. It is not uncommon in the meetings I go to in AA to talk openly about what we have also learned in the other groups, like Al-Anon, as it pertains to our sobriety and recovery.
Daniel DeGrandpre
Vancouver, Washington
January 11, 2012
Wonderful
I am fairly new to Judaism (about 4 years) but have been in dysfunction and addiction - both self and familial - my entire life. Your perspective is fresh, and it's like you're speaking right to me about my life. Thank you.
Traci
Chicago Ridge, IL
January 3, 2012
Appreciation
Dear
Rabbi Shais Taub,
Shalom thanks because there is truth and enlightenment in this,
your sincerely

.
victor fatherheart consoler
234, Nigeria
January 2, 2012
Dear Rabbi;will you speak in Orange County,Ca.?
I am a Gentile who finds your perspective on sobriety refreshing and meaningful. What part about AA isn't spiritual? It's all spiritual! A correct understanding ads depth, meaning and great value to the new way I choose to live. Thank you Rabbi. You are helping me to understand myself and the world around me. You are also helping me to live a better life and quite possibly improve lives around me from my life being improved. Thank You.
christopher beeker
Costa Mesa, Ca.
January 2, 2012
thank you so much. that was so good, I laughed and I cried and there was so much truth and enlightenment that I am very grateful to you
Rose
Collingwood, Canada
January 2, 2012
Emotional Sobriety
It took me 63 years, my life, to become emotionally independent from a very controlling family. There was so much inside of me that would help in the progress of a successful life, my way, in G-d's way. But they had a way to control my thoughts and all the gift Hashem had given me. But I must use Josef, from the TaNak, as an example. I am the 7th child. grew up from home to home in my family. Was abused from most of the people I can remember, physically, verbally, as well sexually. It is a miracle, that my independense now, came from the Eternal G-d of Yisrael. To HIM I owe my life in every sense. Now I can say that I AM FREE. I watched this video before, and this is the second time I was able to watch it again. Thank you Rabbi Taub it has taught me a great deal. And I love your jokes. I believe that Hashem, Blessed be He, gave me many gifts to work w/my hands. I also believe that I am an inborn artist. My paintings are getting the meaning I wanted to convey in them. Thanks be to G-d.
Anonymous
Mesa, Arizona, USA
November 15, 2011
Emotional Sobriety
Dear Rabbi Taub,
I could never find the words good enough to express how much truth you spoke here; not to mention how I've been effected, moved, inspired by this lecture.
My words sound so trite I don't know what to say frankly. The wisdom, the stories all the ingredients you shared made/make invalueable life lessons. Twenty seconds after u finished I splashed my keyboard with the most spontaneous tears I've ever shed. I surprised myself with the suddenness of my outburst. I actually felt joy and I hate the word" happy" but that's what I felt. Flourished is the right word. I can count on one handhow many times in my life I have known what authentic joy is. .
Boundaries, no limits, "victim"defined as a role as opposed to who personis. Gentile joke rocked. Must tell parents!? Don't want to offendI Yikes.U impacted my life.Would I go back after this lectured? u gave me a new lens. Why did I cry Rabbi?
gratefully ur's,
melrose
MelLY rOSE
Portland , Or
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