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Understanding the difference between “living” and “existing” helps us understand why it’s sometimes so hard to like the people you love.

Liking the People You Love

Liking the People You Love

The Philosophy of Relationships

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Liking the People You Love: The Philosophy of Relationships

Understanding the difference between “living” and “existing” helps us understand why it’s sometimes so hard to like the people you love.
Relationships, Life
Rabbi Manis Friedman, a noted Chassidic philosopher, author and lecturer, is dean of Bais Chana Women's Institute of Jewish Studies.
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Lola Florida December 1, 2016

Incredible! Even though I was raised Catholic, and I practice my religion, I listen to your teachings! you bring light and perspective to my life! Reply

Anonymous Dominican Republic August 13, 2016

So delightful to listen to and experience. Every step of the way - profound, thought provoking, enriching.... Thank you! Reply

Anna Budapest November 25, 2015

thank you Thank you very much for this beautiful lecture. Loved it. Reply

Anonymous nyc May 22, 2014

That was one of the simplest, most stunning and profound things I've ever heard. You live when you're not worried about your needs and wants. That's usually a luxury most people (think they) can't afford. But everyone can, when they know that living a life of values, for Jews, Torah/Mitzvot enlarges their life. Reply

Anonymous May 16, 2014

For Rivka Habitual sinning can be frustrating.It seems your lack-of-love-for-self stems from this problem. It is imperative you deal with it. You are one step closer to repentance by recognizing the sin. It sounds like you are willing to change but are you sincerely penitent? Have you asked G-d for forgiveness?Have you asked Him for strength to overcome the sin?Have you sought counsel from your Rabbi? Maimonides asked,"What constitutes complete repentance?"He answered, "He who is confronted by the identical situation wherein he previously sinned and it lies within his power to commit the sin again,but he nevertheless does not succumb because he wishes to repent and not because he is too fearful or weak". Being at peace with G-d will rekindle your love for self. I hope I helped if even a little. Reply

Rivka NY May 14, 2014

Not loving nor liking oneself How does one resolve not liking nor loving oneself
for repeating the same wrong in spite of trying so hard to change without success ? Reply

Patricia Kadoche Thornhill, Canada May 13, 2014

Thank you Rabbi Friedman for this wonderful thought provoking shiur....very much enjoyed it. It helped me to think differently between existing and living. Reply

Chavah Kwiatkowska Latvia May 12, 2014

L'Chaim! Dear Rabbi, thank you very much for this deep and inspiring lecture full of paradoxes! Reply

Helena May 11, 2014

Wow fantastic it is so incredible Rabbi. THANK YOU! Reply

nancy telaviv, israel June 3, 2012

u are so incredible rabbi.!!! i love watching and listening to your lectures..sooooo inspiring!! Reply

Jose Clearwater February 11, 2012

Existence and Life Incredible teaching. I will be listening to this often. It has brought life to my existence. Awesome. Reply

Cathy NY, NY April 1, 2011

life What a wonderful and inspiring speech. I made my life enriched and my existence smaller. Reply

Claire silberston Paris, France March 21, 2011

I would like to know where you give your lectures and be informed.
I am a very beginner and i am eager to learn
Thank you Reply

Anonymous Jerusalem, Israel February 25, 2011

I have a tendency to get annoyed at people and then feel guilty about it. I realize now that the annoyance was all about my SPACE. Reply

chris manchester, uk via lchaim.org.uk February 20, 2011

liking the people you love very interesting look at life! enjoyed listening to you speak,thank you. Reply

Anonymous USA February 18, 2011

Liking the People you love Thank you Rabbi Friedman foryour lecture, your humor and your humanity!

Shabbot Shalom! Reply

Anonymous Nederland, USA February 16, 2011

Sir,
Thank you very much for an excellent lesson. I appreciated it. As a Christian, I would say, "To Life" in English. How do you spell that in Hebrew? Reply

izzy lhu February 15, 2011

To Anonymous, Santa Barbara, CA May G-D bless you in all your endeavors and strengthen you. And may we all be reunited with our loved ones very soon with the coming of Moshiach and the Resurrection of all our brethren currently in the World of Truth. Reply

Linda Longueuil, quebec February 11, 2011

liking the people you love Very comical. fantastic, life learning lessons and lecture, was very interesting to listen to, as always, THANK YOU RABBI!!! Reply

Alla Kholina St.Petersburg, Russia February 9, 2011

Thans again! As always, You reveal the deepest things in a simple and understandable manner. Thanks again and again! Reply

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