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How to Beat Addiction



Question:

What does the Torah teach about drug addiction and breaking free from it? For instance: Why does man beg G‑d for help and still remain in addiction. It is as if religions are powerless to defeat the monster of addiction. Can you give me some insight?

Answer:

In truth, all of us are addicts—to our habits, to our emotions, to our limited perception of reality. The first step of progress out of our little boxes is to acknowledge, recognize, and surrender to a truth higher than our own. So you are right: No religion, no outside force, can defeat a man's addiction—as long as that man refuses to allow in a glimmer of light from outside his dark, cramped prison; as long as he cannot acknowledge that his own addicted mind cannot untie knots in which it has tied him; as long as he cannot hang on tight to a rope thrown to him from beyond.

This is why a Jew says the "Modeh Ani" as soon as he opens his eyes each morning, to say, "Although I feel myself to be the center of this world, I acknowledge Your presence as the Author of this world. You are bigger than me." With those words, we punch a hole in an otherwise sealed existential prison. We open ourselves to freedom.

The very concept of Torah implies that we all have free choice to direct our lives. We are never helpless. G‑d never gives us more than we can handle. But it's always with the condition that we recognize how small we are—and so we don't try to go it alone.

An addict, too, has free choice. He has the choice to continue going it alone—something akin to trying to dig himself out of a pit or pulling himself up by his own hairs—or to call out to someone above the pit who can throw him a rope.

The mind that has sunk itself in a mess is lost to that mess. Only someone who is not bound and tied can untie the bonds of another and offer him a hand to pull him out. Paradoxically, it is that first move of surrender that allows the addict to win over his addiction.

Perhaps if you can tell me more about your experience with addiction, I may be able to target in on your concerns.

In the meantime, let me know if this helps.

Rabbi Tzvi Freeman for Chabad.org


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Posted: Feb 3, 2010
beautiful, noble, good and pure
Wow, I loved reading your story
Anonymous in St Petersburg. Just so, any beauty in nature such as sunlight hitting a leaf is so splendid.
the love of our G-d is so ineffably gorgeous and huge and compassionate and kind
--and none of these words could possibly express the breath-taking splendor of G-d
and the Light of His love.
But sunlight on a leaf and a shaft of light at 3:30 or so in the afternoon,
If only we would take time--just a moment
to let the Light in and share the wonder and the awe
with everyone He puts in our path.
Posted By shirley

Posted: Feb 2, 2010
note: remember the pain -- it may get you through
i am a recovering alcoholic. through the grace of the Almighty and the fellowship of AA (and my sober friends) -- when i haven't been too lazy to make it meetings or pick up the telephone -- i've been able to stay away from that first drink for a bit over 21 years now. (i hit a low point in my life in November, 2009. without going into details, i took three sips of wine -- i keep wine in the house to cook with on occasion -- and promptly spat them out: they tasted horrible.
what does the Torah teach us about addiction? perhaps nothing -- at least overtly. but if we are able to love and trust FULLY in the Almighty, and to always remember it is our DUTY to (at least try) always be GRATEFUL for the splendors of G-D's greatest gift to us, our world and the people in it -- and i mean ALL people, or nearly all (there are always exceptions) -- this may be both a start and subsequent sustenance. sometimes sunlight hitting a leaf just so is, or can be, all i need to get me through the day.
Posted By Anonymous, St. Petersburg, FL

Posted: Dec 7, 2009
Does your addiction keep you warm?
The reason i created this title is after 18 years (Thank G-d) of freedom fr addiction to alcohol, I realise that I had a lot of illusions; and they did sort of keep me warm and feeling not so alone.
My drink was my friend for a long long time. It ruined my life but it still was my best friend.
I had this delusion that I weas so lonely and so bored that I had no other recourse but to drink to get away fr it all.
One who is in this kind of hold fr the disease--and it is a disease--tends to blame everyone or think of yourself as a victim of circumstances.
But, as I recently told a woman who said she was just going crazy
You are a daughter of Abraham, a daugher of Sarah--of the Most High
First of all addiction is idolatry because if you put G-d first you could not "worship"money or gold or certainly not drugs
Call upon G-d and He will answer.
Try saying at leas the Shema in the morning and at night and feel the power surge through You
He has all Power
the addiction has none
Posted By shirley, westlake vill, ca



 


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