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The Importance of Peace

The Importance of Peace

Parshat Korach

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The rebellion that Korach fomented against Moses and Aaron is considered a classic example of a quarrel that was not for the sake of heaven. As our Sages say,1 “What is a machloket [dispute] not for the sake of Heaven? The machloket of Korach and his company.” In fact, the verse, “And one shall not be like Korach and his group”2 is understood by our Sages3 to be a biblical injunction against involvement in a dispute.

We present here a collection of teachings from our sages, of blessed memory, about the importance of maintaining peace, and the destructive potenial of anger and strife.

“Great is Peace”

The final paragraph of the six orders of the Mishnah states: “Great is peace, for G‑d found no other vessel for [His] blessings other than peace.” Meaning that G‑d only sends His blessings to a family, community, country, etc., if it is in a state of peace.

Ensuring that we, personally, are at peace with our fellows does not sufficeIn the case of a woman who is a sotah (suspected adulteress), the process of—hopefully—clearing her of suspicion involves erasing the name of G‑d.4 Based on this, our sages say:5 “The power of peace is so great . . . that G‑d’s holy name, written in holiness, is erased in water in order to bring peace between the sotah and her husband.”

It is even permissible to distort the truth in order to preserve peace. G‑d Himself did this, as did the brothers of Joseph.6

Ensuring that we, personally, are at peace with our fellows does not suffice. Rather, we must actively promote peace between others. As Hillel would say: “Be of the disciples of Aaron—a lover of peace, a pursuer of peace, one who loves the creatures and draws them close to Torah.”7 Our sages teach us that Aaron the high priest would employ various methods to bring peace to couples and friends who were not getting along. According to our sages,8 the mitzvah of brokering peace is one whose divine reward is enjoyed both in this world and in the next (as opposed to most mitzvot, whose rewards can only be expected in the World to Come).

A story I heard firsthand:

A groom once presented his dilemma to the Rebbe: “I would like my father and father-in-law to escort me to the chupah (wedding canopy), and my mother and mother-in-law to escort my bride—as per Chabad custom. My future in-laws, however, insist that they walk their daughter to the chupah, and that my parents should walk me to the chupah—as is the popular custom amongst most other Orthodox circles. How should we resolve this issue?”

The Rebbe responded: “Since a Jewish minhag (custom) is Torah,9 you should try to keep your/our minhag. This is true, however, only if you can accomplish this in a peaceful manner. If, however, it will cause discord in the family, you should back down. Since the entire Torah was given only to bring peace to the world,10 as the verse says11: ‘[The Torah’s] ways are pleasant ways, and all its paths are peace,’ it is not logical to allow a minhag to cause a dispute, thus countering the reason and purpose of the entire Torah!”

The Danger of Dispute

“The beginning of strife is like letting out water, and before you are exposed, abandon the quarrel.”12 A small leak in a dam can lead to a huge flood. It’s quite easy to close the small leak, but to fix it later, after the flood has let loose, is almost impossible. This is also true about arguments.13 One should always endeavor to stop an argument before it spirals out of control.

It's quite easy to close the small leak, but to fix it later, after the flood has let loose, is almost impossible . . .In fact, the Rosh says:14 “Do not remain in a state of dispute with your friend for even one day. And (rather) humble yourself before him and be the first to ask for forgiveness.”

Ahithophel, King David’s wisest advisor, joined the side of Absalom son of David in his rebellion against his father. When Ahithophel realized that King David’s side would be victorious, he went home to give his children his last will and testament, and then committed suicide. One of the pieces of advice he gave them was: Do not get involved in disputes—this after he realized that his involvement in a dispute cost him his life.15

The second Holy Temple was destroyed because of the sin of baseless hatred. The exile that has followed is the longest exile, because this sin is a very difficult for an individual to recognize within himself and rectify.16

Advice on How to Stay Away from Disputes

  1. “Never stop seeking friends and people who will love you. Do not minimize [the danger posed by even] one enemy.”17
  2. “Do not get angry about trivial matters against any person, lest you gather enemies for no reason.”18
  3. “Do not refuse the [requests of the] members of your city. Nullify your will before the will of others.”19
  4. “One should strive to never get angry. Bear embarrassment and don’t return it. Forgive one who sins against you. Whoever gets angry—if he is a scholar, he will lose his wisdom; if he is a prophet, he will lose his prophecy; if he was destined for a high office, he will lose that. Getting angry is like idol worship. It makes the Shechinah (divine presence) worthless in the person’s eyes. Whoever forgoes his anger is forgiven for all his sins.”20
  5. “Do not quarrel with anyone without cause, if he did you no harm.”21
  6. “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones . . .”“A man of wrath stirs up quarrels, but he who is slow to anger abates strife.”22
  7. “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”23
  8. “A gentle reply turns away wrath, but a distressing word stirs up anger.”24 Often, the same response can bring either resolution or conflict. It all depends on the tone of voice.
  9. “A passerby who becomes embroiled in a quarrel that is not his is like one who grabs a dog by its ears.”25 It’s bad enough that we have our own arguments; certainly we should not mix into someone else’s.

Pirkei Avot 5:17.


Talmud, Sanhedrin 110a.


See Numbers 5:11–31.


Bamidbar Rabbah 11:7.


See Genesis 18:13 and 50:16. See also Talmud, Bava Metzia 87b and Yevamot 65b.


Pirkei Avot 1:12.


Pe’ah 1:1, subsequently incorporated into the daily morning prayers.


See Tosafot on Talmud, Menachot 20b, s.v. Nifsal; Jerusalem Talmud, Pesachim 4:1; responsa of Rashba, no. 9.


A paraphrase of a Talmudic statement, Gittin 59b.


Ibid. 17:14.


See Talmud, Sanhedrin 7a.


Orchot Chaim 62.


Talmud, Bava Batra 147a (see II Samuel 17).


Talmud, Yoma 9b and commentaries there.


Orchot Chaim 90.


Ibid. 107.


Ibid. 119.


Rabbi Yitzchak Abohav, Menorat Hamaor, Sixth Candle, second rule, ch. 1, based on various sources. See also ibid., Seventh Candle, first rule.


Ibid. 15:18.


Ibid. 16:24.


Ibid. 15:1.


Ibid. 26:17.

Rabbi Aryeh Citron was educated in Chabad yeshivahs in Los Angeles, New York, Israel and Australia. He was the Rosh Kollel of The Shul of Bal Harbour, Florida, and is now an adult Torah teacher in Surfside, Florida. He teaches classes on Talmud, Chassidism, Jewish history and contemporary Jewish law.
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Norman Hauptman Yonkers August 27, 2017

Since the purpose of Torah is to bring peace to Earth, it is necessary to
1. Study, honor, apply Torah.(You shall be holy as I am holy)
2. Don't react to hate, fear, gossip, while proactively causing elevation, love, noble-honorable speech.
3. Know that Torah is true, the world is false.
4 You get better every day Reply

Anonymous ny June 6, 2013

peace Unfortunately this word is not so easy to come by unless you live in a cave outside of civilization. When people in your own family have jealousy between each other that is hidden (because of shame) even from themselves, the harm they do over the years with lies and passive aggressive actions split families and cause havoc. As a victim of this kind of dynamic in my own family I can attest to its destructive power. Even after I apologized to people who lied about me (gossip) in order to bring about peace those people still do not talk to me. None of their gossip was true I became the scapegoat and so peace may be my goal but it certainly was not theirs. So what now can one do? I seek peace in my life but it can only occur being separated from the mean spirited people whom I once lived and miss today. Reply

dara oreang ov, cambodai April 23, 2012

Thank you very much. it is really appreciated. Reply

Amenyedor Xorse Winna Accra, Ghsns April 19, 2012

PEACE this was really amazing.Can i get more Litereature On The Peace Of God In Todays Age?.
Thank You Reply

Chhem Dara Oreang Ov, Cambodia October 20, 2011

It is great for your ideal concepts to help the world get into peace. I really like yours. I'll share this to others in order that we will have no fightings and disputes anymore. Reply

Helen Coleman Santa Monica, CA September 4, 2011

Peace to all who reads this article Thank you for this article. I am forwarding copies of this article to all my BELIEVING friends, whom I call my Brothers and Sisters. Reply

Aryeh Citron Surfside, Fl June 26, 2011

Family Split Whenever there are arguements in families one has to be careful to show respect despite whatever issues the parties are disagreeing about. At the same time one has to maintain their own religious observance despite family pressures. There is no easy answer to your question. One should proceed with caution and seek advice of a Torah sage. Reply

dhn sc June 25, 2011

Do not minimize [the danger posed by even] one ene does this mean we should beware of those who would who seek to split up our family over differences in religious beliefs, even if they are family members? or do we honor them because they are our parents? Reply

a edwards June 22, 2011

peace well we aint got any at the moment in the world Reply

leah la, usa June 21, 2011

Having peace is not easy it was very nice but, it is a very useable article for people which do not have anger issue. the question is if somebody got hurt by lies and cheating how can these words help him to make peace with himself and the others? To me having peace is very complicated issue. thank you for the article. Reply

izzy ny June 8, 2010

Thanks! very well done! Reply

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