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Is a Convert Surrendering His True Self?



Question:

I saw in the Daily Dose:

But when you make your goal in life to be someone you are not, or to be part of a people that are not your own, that is the ultimate surrender. There is no greater captivity, for your essence and being have been locked away in a dark cell.

Can this also be seen as a shot across the bow directed towards a potential convert?

Response:

If I can divert just a bit, that will help to answer your question: The Talmud never talks about a "gentile that comes to convert" but "a convert that comes to convert." In English that makes no sense—how could you be called a convert even before you have converted?

But in Hebrew, the concept is entirely different. The word is "ger," and it does not imply being converted or transformed from one person into something else. Rather, a ger is simply one who comes from another people to live amongst us. Simply put, a ger is someone who comes to join the Jewish People.

So now, the language of the Talmud makes sense: It means, "A ger who comes to live amongst you." This is who he always was—always someone who did not fit in. He did not fit into the place from whence he comes, and now he comes from there to fit in among us. Eventually, he will be absorbed and become completely one of us—for, like himself, we are the people that never fit in amongst the nations. Perhaps it is for this that we are enjoined repeatedly not to remind the ger of his past and to accept him with no distinctions. For he was truly always one of us.


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Posted: Oct 13, 2009
A few comments on becoming a Gair ......
Those from the inside don't necessarily see the great beauty and awesomeness that Yiddishkeit holds.
Like a daily ritual, we grow accustomed to the laws, holidays, and culture.
Many years of living, breathing and existing as a Jew amongst other Jews, it is easy to forget sometimes and come to do things automatically.
Catching myself, I began slowing down and payng attention to the blessings I was making, remembering the joy and newness of a first shabbos, and the warmth of the holidays, the awe of a new mitzvah.
Memories of golden shabbos candle lights that flickered mysteriously in their holders and held my attention and my heart will be always treasured. This is what I wanted, this is what I chose and it chose me, because this is where my soul is, and where I belong.
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: Sep 28, 2009
I am Jewish
I am Jewish, my mother and my father were not to my knowledge, however I know that I am, it just all feels right. I have always been a black sheep in my entire family. Needless to say I did not do well in Sunday school. I just always knew there was only one G-d and that I was different from the rest of my family. Now all I need to know is what do I do next? I have realized who I am now where do I go from here?
Posted By Melzora

Posted: Aug 28, 2009
what is a jewish look anyway....
If we could see someones soul instead of their face or body, then we would see the person who is filled with light and those that are not. It would be so easy. Instead, both sides of the fence get caught up in generalizing only what is infront of their eyes and preconceived notions of what they were taught. When I was dating a Jewish guy and having dinner with his family for Thanksgiving, his mother stood up and told her son in a grand announcement, she didn't bring him up to marry Jesus Christ. I don't think I look like Jesus (I am a woman) but the meaning was apparent. I was totally embarrassed and never saw him again. I did eventually marry a Jewish man and now I am studying the Zohar and Kabbalah. Life is funny!!!!
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