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Where is the Spark?

When You’ve Lost Your Motivation....

Question:

Is there any point in doing a mitzvah, like giving charity or praying, when I am not motivated, have lost interest and don't really understand its significance?

Answer:

Sometimes our behavior is dictated by social pressure or necessity. But many times we choose to do good things on our own. There can be three reasons why we make that choice:

If you have lost interest then you have just been given an amazing opportunitya) Understanding—We appreciate the significance of a good deed and have fully internalized its importance. We can explain it to ourselves and to others. This mitzvah now reflects a value that we are determined to live by.

b) Feeling—We have developed an emotional attachment to good deeds. We love helping people, or get tremendous satisfaction from teaching others. The passion and love might be a consequence of our understanding, or might simply be instinctive. Whatever the case is, it is our emotion that inspires us to act.

c) Perseverance and commitment—This is when we have lost the spark of enthusiasm. We no longer understand why we get excited. Just deep down we still know that it is important, so we keep going and "force" ourselves to fight apathy and to act.

Although it would appear that the latter is far from ideal, the opposite is true. When our behavior is a consequence of intellectual understanding or a strong emotional feeling, it is not completely selfless. It is "I" that understands and "me" that feels. Our ego is still there, albeit in a positive way. However, when we do something despite the absence of feeling or emotion, there is no self interest—it is being done because it is right. It is driven purely by a commitment to goodness and moral behavior.

So if you have lost interest then you have just been given an amazing opportunity—to do good just because it is good.

Don't lose it and act now.

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Posted: Feb 8, 2009
A mitzvah idea
When our children were young, I would occasionally take them for a walk around our block midmorning. We each carried a plastic grocery bag and picked up trash as we talked about the importance of doing our part to create a G-dly environment.

They were young and some could say they were being "forced to do mittzvah," But, they didn't complain. Now as older teens they speak of their childhood of "forced services" with fondness. They now do mitzvahs without prompting.

They reached this maturity through obedience. The obedience came first, the blessings and understanding came later.
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: Feb 6, 2009
B'nai Mitzvah projects
I taught Hebrew school for 4 yrs, and the students were required to participate in mitzvah projects as one of the requirements for being B'nai Mitvah. Someone asked me what is the purpose of "forcing" a child to do a mitzvah, how can it be meaningful if they have to do it. My reply was, by making this a requirement, we get the kids to "get in the practice" of doing mitzvot. As they become involved in the mitzvah project, and we frequently let them choose the project, hopefully they would be stimulated to do mitzvot on their own. They will derive a good feeling about themselves, and see how their good deeds helped others.As they practice, they will form the habit for the future. There are a lot of things we "don't feel like doing" but we do them anyway. Start with simple things, help a senior citizen reach an item on a high shelf, let someone merge in traffic ahead of you, help a mother a get her stroller on the bus while she is holding her baby. Soon it will be a habit you'll enjoy.
Posted By Rachel Garber, Phila, PA USA

Posted: Feb 6, 2009
loss of motivation
It is easy to do good when we are motivated, however to do good when we are in the dump, blue, not motivated, makes us the supreme being G-d planned for his world. Everyone has his ups & downs. It is easy to hide, to give up, to feel sorry for ourselfs, but to still feel the need to fulfill the mitzot of caring for Laws of our Maker pleases G-d that indeed gave us spirit to continue his work on earth. He never gave up on us, even when we did not merit his love, so to we never forsake his Laws in good times or bad times. This makes our people merit that we are made in his image. Thank G-d.
Posted By Stan Frank, Montreal, Quebec

Posted: Feb 5, 2009
Commitment
Thank you so very much for putting into words that encouragement. Now I understand.
I've been applying the c) reason. It feels empty to do good deeds when my heart isn't in it, yet I do it anyway. There's no joy or satisfaction except in knowing that G-d wants me to do this.
Now I know Why it is important.
Self matters not at all ! But, the enemy would have us second guess and be self absorbed. Thank you for the helping me.
Posted By Anonymous



 


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