There's more to giving than being nice. The world rotates on its axis, the galaxies and stars continue moving—because of giving. Nothing we own is really ours to begin with—G‑d gives to us so we can give to others.
Giving is a mitzvah and a responsibility. As such, it comes with its own set of dos and don'ts:
The Obligation:
You're walking down the street and someone asks for food. The mitzvah says, you have to give something. If he asks for money, you're allowed to make some inquiries to determine if he's legit. Nothing in your pocket? Show some empathy, provide some kind and uplifting words. In no case can you just keep on walking.
Nothing in your pocket? Show some empathyStandard Jewish practice is to give at least 10% of net income to charity. There's plenty written on what's considered net—and on when tuition fees and other mitzvah-related items can be deducted from the ten percent. Speak with your rabbi about your specific issues.
Since giving is a mitzvah, it doesn't just help others—it lifts you up as well. That's why we keep a pushka (charity box) on prominent display in home and office. Just drop a few coins in the pushka every so often, at least once a day.
The Recipient:
Give tzedakah (charity) to the needy, Torah schools, Jewish institutions, and/or humanitarian causes. A family member who is in difficult financial straits takes precedence over non-family. Likewise, local poor and charitable organizations take precedence over their faraway counterparts. And charitable causes in Israel take precedence over (non-local) charities in the Diaspora.
The Upshot:
No other mitzvah evokes as powerful a divine response as tzedakah. It makes sense: you take care of others, and G‑d takes care of you. Our sages taught that tzedakah brings atonement and protects against harsh heavenly decrees.
It's interesting to note that there in the Rambam's discussion of charity he first explains at length the core point: the importance of helping all Jews. Only then does he address making inquiries before donating.
Here's another angle. Let's say you give charity to someone who uses it for bad things. That was their choice and you've still fulfilled the mitzvah of charity. After you gave, it's between the recipient and G-d. And if you know they will use the money poorly, consider giving clothes or food.
Furthermore, the fact that the Torah tells us to check first (except on Purim where we give to anyone who asks), means that it's not personal, rather part of the way we fulfill the mitzvah
Safed, Israel
There are so many iterations of hurt, and even gifting, as in our time, our love, can make one wonder. Why this story? Why that story? And why when we gift then, are we so subject at times to great hurt.
marshfield, ma
Toms River, NJ USA
Any thoughts or guidance would be appreciated or how others deal with this as well
Medford, MA
Toms River
If one does not respond to this assignment, then this opportunity will be given to another and thus merit the reward for the righteous act.
Sherman Oaks, CA
Sometimes it's overwhelming and we simply feel bereft. I think it's the motive force that is important, namely, when we consciously search ourselves, and feel about every request, and wrestle with this, that it is in that wrestling with that still small voice, that God resides and that is the mandate, namely the angst, that the question itself is hanging, to give, or not, to give. And a feeling not of guilt but sadness when we don't, and hope that person will make it through, that divine Providence will lend that helping hand. We do what we can, but we cannot do for everyone. This is the struggle within.
marshfield hills, ma
Thane West, India
Tzedakah is NOT "charity." It is "justice." In the case of someone in need, it is the person's right to assistance and it is not our right to withhold assistance.
Ram"bam tells us how to give assistance and the order of distribution (i.e., family first, then extended family, > community > etc.)
chabadrh.org
Net vs. Gross income .
Now we can put an end to this ...thank you again
winnipeg, mb.,ca.