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Why does Torah law allow polygamy?


Just to magnify your question somewhat, you'll note that Torah presents the original paradigm of marriage – that of Adam and Eve – as monogamous. Furthermore, virtually every instance of polygamy recounted in the Torah is related directly by the narrative to some sort of calamity—whether strife between competing wives, as was the case with Hannah and Peninah,1 or between rivaling half-siblings, e.g. Jacob's2 and King David's sons.3 Even the very verse4 in which the Torah provides a green light for polygamy frames it within an undesirable circumstance: "If a man will have two wives, one beloved and the other hated..."

Why then make room for trouble? If the ideal union of man and woman is an exclusive one, why should a "nation of priests and a holy people" compromise?

The simple answer is that Torah deals with life on earth, and the gamut of social life and human experience over all of history and world geography is too diverse to be restricted to one narrow ideal. Take, for example, an agrarian society whose male population has been decimated by war. How are women to survive and how is the population to replenish itself without the mechanism of polygamy? Similarly, a man married to a barren woman who could not produce sons to help in the field and defend the fort would find himself ill put to survive in those times. In an exclusively monogamous society, his wife would find her position insecure. Although, in normative circumstances, being "only one of many" compromises a woman's value as a person, in these situations a permit for polygamy is a form of compassion.

The only case of a polygamous rabbi recorded in the Talmud5 provides an excellent illustration: Rabbi Tarfon married 300 women. Why? Because there was a famine in the land. But Rabbi Tarfon had plenty of food, since he was a Kohen and received the priestly tithes. The wife of a Kohen is also permitted to eat those tithes. Those 300 women were very happy that the Torah permitted polygamy.

Torah discourages abuse of this permit—not just by recounting the calamitous narratives mentioned above, but also by placing requirements on the husband. For every extra wife, no matter how lowly her status, a man must provide "food, clothing and conjugal rights" commensurate to her needs, his capacity and equal to any other wives.6 Additionally, the husband must provide separate housing for each wife. Divorce requires involvement of the scribes, and the sages later instituted the ketubah as a further impediment of divorce. (See also Why is Jewish Marriage so One-Sided?) We see that these means were in fact effective, polygamy in Jewish circles was historically a rare exception.

Rare, but necessary nevertheless. Even when Rabbi Gershom and his Rabbinical Court assembled to create a ban on polygamy due to the conditions of their time (see previous link for more on this injunction), they nevertheless left the door open for extenuating circumstances. That loophole has proven vital in many an instance—for example, the case of a wife who has become (G‑d forbid) mentally incapacitated and is not halachically qualified to receive a divorce.

You may wish to think of Torah as the DNA of a highly resilient organism called the Jewish People. Whenever circumstances change, this organism looks back into its DNA and finds some code that allows for an adaptive modality. There's plenty off limits, but there is enough leeway to provide for every situation human life on planet earth can throw at you. Proof is, we've been through it all – nomadic, agrarian, civilized, industrial, technological – and in every part of the world, and we're still here, strong as ever.

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FOOTNOTES
1.

I Samuel ch. 1.

2.

Genesis ch. 37.

3.

e.g. I Kings ch. 1.

4.

Deuteronomy 21:15.

5.

Jerusalem Talmud, Yevamot 4:12.

6.

Exodus 21:10; Maimoindes, Laws of Marriage 14:3.


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Posted: Dec 30, 2010
Polygamy
Polygamy does not lead to population growth, as some suggested, since the number of births is limited by the number that women can bear. It does not matter whether the number of fathers impregnating the women is 100 or 100 million, the number of mothers remains the same. Polygamy does affect the quality of the offspring, inasmuch as only "kings" can father many children with multiple wifes. This we see in the Torah, and the reason that polygamy is endorsed.
Posted By Kashian, New York, USA

Posted: June 24, 2010
David
I totally agree with you! Although the point the article is trying to make is that polygamy might often come at the expense of a close devotion to and happiness with one's spouse, or jealousy and strife between the wives, I think it would be up to the women to decide whether to be an "additional" wife or not.

It is a clear precept of the Torah, that what is not forbidden, is allowed. In polygamy, we even have historic examples from our historic Israeli kings and authorities.
Posted By Yashar, Brookly,, NY

Posted: June 4, 2010
Does rabbi's wisdom excel G-d and Torah?
I've been reading this thread of comments and it appears to me that the rabbis (apparently) believe they know better than G-d who gave the Torah. In Torah we are told "not to add to or take away from what is written" (Deut 4:2 compare Deut 12:32). History testifies against us that each time we stray from Torah G-d punishes us or calamity results. For whatever reason G-d made provision for polygamy; it is not our place to change any of those Laws He gave us. Whether it be a means to outnumber our enemies, or merely for individual preference, there is surely a good reason why G-d provided the enforcement (Exodus 21:10) some wish to dismiss or worse, disallow.
Posted By David, Naples, FL

Posted: Feb 24, 2009
Amazed
I am amazed with such words of the Torah. Being a Chinese (Gentile), I never expected that Jews also practice polygamy, but at a cause.

I find that Jewish polygamy is much more established, having laws to prevent misusing the words of G-d for one's personal gain. Chinese emperors that had 3000 wives, were more of a shame to the Chinese empire than a blessing.

Since Jewish polygamy is an effort to keep the Tribes of Israel existing, I think it should be the attitude of one man when desiring to have more wives. One should not have many wives for the sake of pleasure.

Jewish law has really amazed me (it is far more different than other religions). As a student in Religious Studies, I'd like to be updated on the latest interpretations of the meaning of the Torah.
Posted By Melvin Cheong, Malaysia

Posted: Dec 8, 2008
Impressive View
I have not ceased to be impressed with Jewish wisdom concerning matters. I think this view is the more reasonable view for all things concerned. G-d is truley great in his wisdom.
Posted By Anonymous, USA

Posted: Dec 1, 2008
RE: Sergey's demographic startegy
Dear Yosef,

I am in total agreement with you, welcome and embrace your explanation. However, I have doubts that even if polygamy would be allowed it does not mean that it would have become widely accepted, and even if it would - I have big doubts that we have a chance to catch up with Arabs a Muslims. It seems to me, they are far ahead of the game.

I would be happy to hear your vision how existance of Israel could be secured in 25-50 years, when Arabs - citizens of Israel! - become majority. In this case state of Israel will be lost because we did not find solution.

Also, we both assume from our current positions that family values would be jeaopardised! With the current state of mind in the society - probably they would. But aren't we forgetting that we are dealing with Jewish ingenuity and inventiveness? After all, if Rabbinical court at least consider this issue may be they would find a reasons how to make it fare, balanced and not create conflicts in the society or family
Posted By Sergey, Fair Lawn, NJ

Posted: Dec 1, 2008
Polygamy
As a now famous person put it, because of the hardness of our hearts, Moses allowed it, but from the beginning of creation G-d made them male and female and the two shall become one flesh.

G-d allows the hardness of our hearts to interfere with His plan...He allowed the choosing of King even when it went against His design.
Posted By Chris, murfreesboro, tn

Posted: Dec 1, 2008
RE: Sergey's demographic startegy
Sergey,

Your warm welcome is beautiful, but your opinions about polygamy are nuts. Sure we'd beat the Arabs demographically if you reinstituted polygamy, but it would come at the price of our family structure and family values.
Posted By Yosef, Kenosha, WI

Posted: Dec 1, 2008
Re: Ask the Rabbi: Polygamy
Dear Possum,

Once I asked my Chabad Rabbi what is his position on having non-Jews participating in any services he leads and if it would be ok to invite non-Jewish friends to his High Holidays services. He assured me that not only it is ok with him but he would encourage every person in our congregation to make that person feeling welcome and at home. Even though I liked the answer and hoped that he will answer that way I still wanted to know why and what is his logic behind such answer. He answered that the more people know about Torah and it's peaceful nature, the less misconceptions will be in the world and eventually this will advance peace and prosperity around the entire world. I would like to extend the warmest welcome to you and invite you to ask as many questions as you might have! I am sure Rabbi Tzvi and other Jewish participants of this conversation will be happy to answer you.
Let you and your family have strong physical and spiritual health for years to come!
Posted By Sergey, Fair Lawn, NJ

Posted: Dec 1, 2008
Why does Torah law allow polygamy?
Excellent answer, Rabbi Freeman !

Although Anon in his first point referenced this, I would just emphasize that whenever one speaks of Torah and polygamy one should avoid the general term polygamy and carefully state that what Torah allows is POLYGYNY (plural wives) but always bans POLYANDRY (plural husbands).

As Moses and KIng Solomon would probably have said: "Accuracy is a virtue !"

Shalom.
Posted By Edward



 


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