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Why is a person’s mother’s name mentioned when praying on his/her behalf?

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When praying for a person in a dire predicament, such as an ill individual, his or her Hebrew name is mentioned along with his/her mother's name. For example, "Avraham ben (the son of) Devorah" or "Rachel bat (the daughter of) Chaya." The same holds true when requesting a blessing from a tzaddik: it is customary to write in the note the names and mother's names of all those on whose behalf the petitioner is requesting a blessing or prayer.

The source for mentioning the name of the individual's mother is King David's entreaty (Psalms 116:16): "Please, O Lord, for I am Your servant; I am Your servant the son of Your maidservant," wherein he specifies his mother (although his father was also a very righteous person).

King David says: "Bring salvation to the son of Your maidservant," We can always be sure who a person's mother is, whereas the father's identity is never absolutely unquestionable. When praying for someone's life, we obviously do not want to confuse his/her identity through using mistaken lineage.

On a deeper level, a Jew's spiritual essence is inherited via his or her mother, as evidenced by the fact that Judaism is passed down matrillineally. When praying for another, we want to emphasize their essential and eternal link to G‑d, as derived from their mother's side.

Ideally, Jewish names should be used for prayer. If, however, only the mother's non-Jewish name is known, it should be mentioned, as in "…ben (or bat) Elizabeth." In a case when the person's mother's name is entirely unknown, the ill person's name should be appended with "…ben (or bat) Sarah," referring to the matriarch Sarah, who is the mother of all Jewish people.

When praying for a non-Jew, we mention the person's name along with his/her father's name.

May we only need pray for continued good health for us all!

By Dinka Kumer
Mrs. Nechama Dina (Dinka) Kumer, originally from Nashville, Tennessee, is the former executive secretary of Ascent of Safed.
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May 29, 2010
Thank you!
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Fathima
Ontario, Canada
November 16, 2008
RE: citing the father's name
While I have not come across a reason for this practice, a friend suggested the following rationale:

The Ben Ish Chai writes that the mother’s name is mentioned in prayers because she is obligated in less mitzvot than the father (certain time bound mitzvot are only mandatory for men). Less mitzvot means less room for mess ups, and less mess ups means more reason for G-d to grant goodness for the person being prayed for.

Since non-Jewish men and women are equally obligated to fulfill the Seven Noahide Laws, there is no compelling reason to mention the mother instead of the father.
Menachem Posner for Chabad.org
November 10, 2008
mother's name
I also read an explanation that when we pray for somebody's recovery, we are referring to the midat harachamim (attribute of mercy). And it is well known that a mother has always rachamim and ternderness for her children, whatever their behaving may have been.
DAPHNA BLOCH
GENEVA, SWITZERLAND
November 9, 2008
RE: Mother's Name
Chabad follows the Sepharadic custom of mentioning the mother's name even after death when praying for the departed. Perhaps this is consistent with the reason, based on King David's prayer, mentioned in the article.
Menachem Posner for Chabad.org
November 9, 2008
Patril;ilnealy vs Matrillineal/ identity/spiritua
Our Identity and spirituality was Patrilineal nigh into the Middle Ages. The finality of your statement does not reflect this. Thefilnality of your statements seems superficial and arbitrary to me, though not disagreeable...quotes from Psalms of David Ha Melech not withstanding. It was is fathers house that dermined his idenitty/spirtituality. Deeper analysis please.
Anonymous
amsterdam, netherlands
November 7, 2008
citing the father's name in the case of a non-Jew
Why is it different for a non-Jew?
Suzanne
Forest Hills Gardens, NY
November 7, 2008
Mother's Name
Why does Lubavitch, unlike other groups, use the mother's name during Yiskor?
Yaakov M. Hammer
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