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Is it a mitzvah for a couple to remarry?


Question:

Is it a mitzvah for a divorced couple to remarry one another?

Answer:

Yes. The Jerusalem Talmud1 learns this from Isaiah 58:7, where the prophet exhorts the Jew not to "hide from your flesh," i.e. to look out for our relatives. Rabbi Yaakov says in the name of Rabbi Eleazar that this applies even to one's ex-wife.

While the Talmud does not explicitly say that the way one takes care of his ex-wife is by remarrying her, many later halachic authorities understand the Talmud to be saying that it is a mitzvah to remarry one's ex-wife.2

It is important to note that, nevertheless, the Torah explicitly prohibits remarrying once a woman has been married to another man in the interim.3

Rabbi Eliezer Posner

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FOOTNOTES
1.

Tractate Ketubot 11:3

2.

See for example Sha'alot U'teshuvot Tashbetz 3:9; Sha'a lot U'teshuvot Avnei Sha'ish 1:42; and Sefer Hachinuch Mitzva 580.

3.

See Deuteronomy 24:4.


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Posted: Sep 16, 2008
RE: Ann from South Africa
One is not obligated the remarry one's ex. If the marriage didn't work the first time, it usually won't work the second time. When the rabbi said it's a mitzvah to remarry your ex, he meant it's a good thing to do if it's feasible.
Posted By Dr. Berel, Waterloo, UK

Posted: Sep 16, 2008
1. Deuteronomy 24:3 tells us that if the second husband dies or divorces the wife, she cannot return to the first husband.

2. If the husband has married a second wife, that does not stop him from remarrying his first wife.

3. If a divorcee converts to Judaism, she should not marry her first husband--he's not Jewish!
Posted By Eliezer Posner, Chabad.org

Posted: Sep 12, 2008
re marrying ones ex husband
what if the man the ex wife married has now died?
Also what if the ex husband has re married and his spouse of the re marriage dies? In either of these cases would they be expected to marry again?

I have also wondered how a christian marriage and divorce is viewed. Is the christian if now converted to Judaism still not allowed to re marry another man if her ex is still alive?
Posted By ann, Pietermaritzburg, south africa



 


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