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Stop Kicking Yourself

Stop Kicking Yourself


Why do we kick ourselves so hard when things go wrong? Because we pat ourselves on the head when things succeed. As though success and failure are all in our hands.

Yes, we believe. We believe that it is not our talents, our brains, our good looks or hard work that brings success; that everything is in the hands of heaven. But when we walk out the door into the cold, harsh world, why is it that our beliefs lack the guts to come out with us?

It is because they haven’t gone through the first, inner door: They haven’t walked from our soul into our minds. If we would take the time to learn and to ponder, to let that deep faith of our soul sink into our minds and our hearts, then it would be more than faith—it would be vision, an attitude. It would be trust. Confidence.

Don’t just believe it is so. Come to know that it is so.

From the wisdom of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, of righteous memory; words and condensation by Rabbi Tzvi Freeman. Subscribe and get your dose daily. Or order Rabbi Freeman’s book, Bringing Heaven Down to Earth, click here.
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August 23, 2012
Kicking yourself
The common mistakes that take place in our lives are failures we should have known better then to have done them in the first place. These failures press down upon our conscience as if to make us aware we are only human, The remind us of that certain things that seems to overwhelm our minds for a moment ans ease off to help re leave us of the burden of that mistake. Learn to look to G-d when this happens. Turn the burden of it on to the LORD and free your mind of it.
Gavri Hanita Hazaka Abir Selek 2nd.
Vancouver, Canada
August 22, 2012
keep kicking - in the right direction
Many times (usually) it is our bad choices or decisions which cause our failures ex. I piled up too many items, therefore I dropped them. I understand that we shouldn't kick ourselves when there is nothing we can do about our failure i.e. we did our best but... However, if failure is due to a mistake on our part (as it usually is), this mindset of "I believe... whatever happened was meant to happen"... could cause us to misapportion the blame.
s d
New York
August 22, 2012
may every experience bring us renewed joy in our Creator for all that He has brought to our attention to learn fromand bring with it more light into His world. G-d blesses all. Praise Him!