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You cannot reach deeper within another than you reach in your own self.

If you love yourself for your achievements, your current assets, the way you do things and handle the world—and despise yourself for failure in the same—it follows that your relationship with another will also be transient and superficial.

To achieve deep and lasting love of another person, you need to first experience the depth within yourself—an inner core that doesn’t change with time or events.

If it is the true essence, it is an essence shared by the other person as well, and deep love becomes unavoidable.

From the wisdom of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, of righteous memory; words and condensation by Rabbi Tzvi Freeman. To order Rabbi Freeman’s book, Bringing Heaven Down to Earth, click here.
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December 4, 2011
Hating yourself and the results
If one hates oneself as you seem to say....then one cannot love-The soul must be nourished with love..I believe so too-You know I find love giggily...I know I shouldn't say this but I found love to be gigily-when I feel replenlished with self love and reciprocated love-I gigle alot and behave like a child...then I feel stupid and wonder how could I love....There is fun with love-I believe love is fun-to get rid of self-loathing is defiitely fun...Hating yourself is a drag..and..I donn't find THAT fun at-all...I like to feel positive and find it is about love that a p person feels positive-also...self-loathing comes from being poled and staked by the others-you know those others that that would say anything to see someone give up on love and there are many like that-don't we know it-futhermore I will say once more that love is fun-give it a chance really-once you are hooked-it is the impoasible dream-um-I mean dream come true of course-
Judith L Witten
Brockton, USA
November 28, 2011
Ahavat Emet - True Love
This is the love for no reason, as in the love of King David and Jonathan son of King Saul. Amen
grant (Zehner) gerling
evansvile, in
November 28, 2011
GOD IS LOVE
I strongly agree and appreciate this because it is the way you present yourself that people around you will take you and you can't even give what you dont have....
Ruth
Nigeria
November 28, 2011
Deep Love (everlasting/eternal)
To love another being in a committed, lasting way, a person has to be able to state that he or she is self satisfied with themselves, and is not validated by another living being other than the creater. No other person is to ever "complete us" like it says in the movies, other than our "G-d".....He, and He alone is the author and finisher of us all....We are who we are, because of our personal relationship with our Heavenly Father, If we can't make this statement, we better enroll in a Codependency Group.
Kathleen Ellen McCoy Fox McCoy
Hummelstown, Penna.
chabadchampselysees.com
November 28, 2011
Deep Love
Dear Rabbi, I understand that the commandment to love my neighbor as myself really starts with me. If I do not love myself well I can not love my neighbor well either. Correct? But I am confused a little bit that I thought I am not supposed to look into myself too much, that love is always about reaching out, which I thought I am not supposed to put myself first?
Anonymous
Forest Hills, NY/USA
November 28, 2011
Deep Love
What a wonderful "Dose" today! It reminds me of something my mom always told me: "You can't love someone else until you love yourself." It's so true! I didn't find real love until my adulthood, and it was worth the wait! And, I realized that the depth of my love for my husband is due to the fact that sometime in my 30s I stopped judging myself by my achievements, my work, my clothes and other "superficial" attributes! Yes, I'm so totally and passionately in love with my husband, and I'm convinced it's because I'm able to love myself.

This "Daily Dose" is so remarkably true and relevant! To any readers who don't believe its reality, they should stop and think. It will definitely make a "connection" with them (the reader).
Susie Kahn Parker
Northridge, CA
November 9, 2011
Deep Love

You cannot reach deeper within another than you reach in your own self.

If you love yourself for your achievements, your current assets, the way you do things and handle the world -- and despise yourself for failure in the same -- it follows that your relationship with another will also be transient and superficial.

To achieve deep and lasting love of another person, you need to first experience the depth within yourself -- an inner core that doesn't change with time or events. If it is the true essence, it is an essence shared by the other person as well, and deep love becomes unavoidable.
Anonymous
+233, ghana
October 4, 2010
red
look just wait about 3 years then say i love you. relationships are deep dont hurt youself telling someone you love them too soon. just be you.
keya
laurel, MS.
January 19, 2009
Thank You
That reading was extremely profound and exactly what I needed to read.

That is exactly why I had a failed marriage (of course it takes two )and why I cannot seem to find another person to Love.

Thank you for opening my eyes to what I really needed to see.
Susan
mission viejo, ca
December 6, 2008
Deep love
This is just what I needed . I'm h aving a difficult time loving myself and the people who mean the most to me. This is my prayer every day..." G-d, teach me to love"
Neshama Simcha
Gainesville, Fl
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