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Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?

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Question:

Why do bad things happen to good people? Why is this world so unfair? Please don't tell me "We can't understand G‑d's ways." I am sick of hearing that. I want an explanation.

Answer:

Are you sure you want an explanation? Do you really want to know why the innocent suffer? I think not. You are far better off with the question than with an answer.

You are bothered by the fact that people suffer undeservedly. As you should be. Any person with an ounce of moral sensitivity is outraged by the injustices of our world. Abraham, the first Jew, asked G-d, "Should the Judge of the whole world not act fairly?" Moses asked, "Why have You treated this people badly?" And today we still ask, "Why G‑d, why?"

But what if we found the answer? What if someone came along and gave us a satisfying explanation? What if the mystery were finally solved? What if we asked why, and actually got an answer?

If this ultimate question were answered, then we would be able to make peace with the suffering of innocents. And that is unthinkable. Worse than innocent people suffering is others watching their suffering unmoved. And that's exactly what would happen if we were to understand why innocents suffer. We would no longer be bothered by their cry, we would no longer feel their pain, because we would understand why it is happening.

Imagine you are in a hospital and you hear a woman screaming with pain. Outside her room, her family is standing around chatting, all smiling and happy. You scream at them, "What's wrong with you? Can't you hear how much pain she is in?" They answer, "This is the delivery ward. She is having a baby. Of course we are happy."

When you have an explanation, pain doesn't seem so bad anymore. We can tolerate suffering when we know why it is happening.

And so, if we could make sense of innocent people suffering, if we could rationalise tragedy, then we could live with it. We would be able to hear the cry of sweet children in pain and not be horrified. We would tolerate seeing broken hearts and shattered lives, for we would be able to neatly explain them away. Our question would be answered, and we could move on.

But as long as the pain of innocents remains a burning question, we are bothered by its existence. And as long as we can't explain pain, we must alleviate it. If innocent people suffering does not fit into our worldview, we must eradicate it. Rather than justifying their pain, we need to get rid of it.

So keep asking the question, why do bad things happen to good people. But stop looking for answers. Start formulating a response. Take your righteous anger and turn it into a force for doing good. Redirect your frustration with injustice and unfairness and channel it into a drive to fight injustice and unfairness. Let your outrage propel you into action. When you see innocent people suffering, help them. Combat the pain in the world with goodness. Alleviate suffering wherever you can.

We don't want answers, we don't want explanations, and we don't want closure. We want an end to suffering. And we dare not leave it up to G-d to alleviate suffering. He is waiting for us to do it. That's what we are here for.

By Aron Moss
Rabbi Aron Moss teaches Kabbalah, Talmud and practical Judaism in Sydney, Australia, and is a frequent contributor to Chabad.org.
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January 19, 2013
life
5 years of agony, suffering, and depression. I use to get mad at god and everybody because of what happen to me. My feet and knee is messed up and I can't walk anymore. Ain't qualify for medical insurance or disability money. So I can't get it fix, got no job and money. I always wanted to just die cuz everything in life I love was gone. But there was always a voice that always tell me no and be strong and keep moving forward. One day I decided to change, I decided to reinvent myself to be better. Been reading, disciplining myself and focusing on the positive side rather the negative side. It has been helping me a lot, I know that life is hard now but at least I am still breathing and living. That is what god wants me to do, to live life. I accept everything that has come and this life lessons has taught me many things in life and appreciate life. That's just me though, still keeping a positive life style and looking forward to life for what god has given me.
Anonymous
December 20, 2012
It really is a lie !!!
I have to agree with the above poster FED-UP. All my life I have struggled and have had the worst luck. When I thought my luck was changing for the better for the first time in my life. My GF of 10 years leaves me for another man. You know what she said? She said you are a nice guy there is nothing wrong with you. I just don't love you anymore. Ten years of my life with this person and 1 day she just left. I think this is a prime example of why god does not exist he does not care anymore or love us anymore period. How many nights I have cried and prayed for someone to come into my life that is a real person that is not much to ask for? I see so many relationships out there that are so bad but as they say nice guys really do finish last. There is no such thing as women wanting a good guy they sure can say it but as what happened to me they don’t mean it. I hate when women say that it is just a lie. So here I am still struggling. I have a house payment by myself, bills and now I am alone. Death would be more preferable then this, but this would be a sin yeah right that is probably a lie to.
Anonymous
October 17, 2012
Response? Just a Passerby(: God is Love.
If everyone was good, pure, just and moral as God, do you think their would be pain? What can I say? Our sins bring us where we are. We are only human. If he did not steal, she would not have to suffer the loss. If they did not kill, others would not have to feel the death. Our flaws bring pain. But they also bring love, love like God's. Every sin, every pain we experience, it hurts him like a knife. He IS just. God DID NOT cause this suffering- the world did. Every little thing that's ever happened in time has led to where we are. God listens, he hears you, But if we never stop to give him time, how can WE hear him, what he's trying to say?
CannotSay
Pueblo
October 11, 2012
The argument is fallacious.
"If this ultimate question were answered, then we would be able to make peace with the suffering of innocents" I disagree: Understanding why people suffer will not make us 'unmoved' and careless about their suffering. We will instead know how to best alleviate their suffering by understanding the true cause. Knowing the cause of a problem doesn't make you careless about the problem, it enlightens you to understand how to FIX the problem. If we will understand why people suffer we will understand how to best remove their suffering, especially for future generations. "Imagine you are in a hospital and you hear a woman screaming with pain. Outside her room, her family is standing around chatting, all smiling and happy. You scream at them, "What's wrong with you? Can't you hear how much pain she is in?" They answer, "This is the delivery ward. She is having a baby. Of course we are happy." It's not that her pain doesn't seem so bad, it's that they are anticipating the arrival of a new baby. They know that the mother is going to be okay and the child is going to be okay. This doesn't change the fact that the mother is in pain and that everyone cares for her and wants to alleviate her pain. Everyone does everything they can to make her as comfortable as possible. If this scenario were to take place in ancient times, people would not be happy because they would be fearing for the death of the child AND the mother. This is due to the fact that infant mortality rates were astronomical, and mothers/babies died all the time during delivery. Since we have discovered many causes for suffering and death in childbearing, we have been able to prevent the deaths of countless mothers and babies instead of wallowing in the unknown.
Jordan Rey
Texas
October 7, 2012
@Jim
"From God’s perspective, that life is not lost. God is able to restore to that child their life, so no loss is suffered on the part of the child. Life is not lost to the One who can restore it"- ---All those are behaviours of a selfish self centred god. None of this excuses a god who would cause the suffering of that child or that of the child's parents in the process! I have no need for such a "god" thank you...
Jason
London, England
October 3, 2012
why bad things happen
I’ve found that when most people ask this question, there’s a hidden personal pronoun in it. It usually is “Why do [you God, let…] bad things happen to people?

It’s an accusation we bring to God, sometimes because we don’t understand, but most usually when we are experiencing an acute pain in our life…a relational hurt; a physical problem or illness; maybe even a painful circumstance, like being falsely accused, blamed, fired, or generally put upon.

You get the idea. Now, let’s take the most gut-wrenching example, the death of a child, and see if together we can’t make better sense of why God would allow the bad to exist.

Why would God allow that? Why would God allow a child to lose his or her little life? From God’s perspective, that life is not lost. God is able to restore to that child their life, so no loss is suffered on the part of the child. Life is not lost to the One who can restore it.

What about the grief that parents and family experience?
Jim
Lucerne, CA
October 2, 2012
Its all a lie
I don't believe that I need to suffer all the time. I'm am trying to better myself, but everyday I struggle with depression and bad luck. I pray to GOD all the time to get me through this. I just feel he doens't listen. I have suffered enough tramua, most poeple don't exprience in a lifetime....why me is the question?? I just want the pain and suffering to stop. I'm a good person, treat others how I want to be treated, have a good job and yet its like no matter how hard I try bad things still happen. Example my husband committed suicide. I was there till he took his last breathe. He left behind me and our beautiful daughter. Let me guess...I should endour this pain and misery. Its part of Gods life lessons. Please....give me a break
FED-UP
Yukon, oklahoma
August 30, 2012
Steve, here is a way a person can change things.
One way we can change our future if if we take care of our bodies in the present. If we continue to eat healthy foods, breathe deeply, sleep adequately, drink lots of water and get lots of activity and exercise when young, then our bodies will reward us when older; conversely, if we mess up ourselves when young, our bodies will show the wear and tear when older. So, we can affect our own futures in this way. Yes, chronic diseases can come to anyone; however, some of them can be prevented! At least, they can be slowed down from appearing too soon.
Karen Joyce Chaya Fradle Kleinman Bell
Riverside, CA, USA
August 30, 2012
Reason vs. Mechanism
"the only way it could happen" etc., is not a Reason- it is one ( vague) mechanistic attempt at an explanation of origin for suffering - as are other alternatives such as 1:G/d decides that it is so. 2: Preexisting conditions determine present and future events 3: Aliens make it so. This is not a philosophy site but there are those where you may attempt to clarify your thoughts on "the only way it could happen".
Avraham
San Diego, Ca/USA
August 29, 2012
Why?
No one wants's to hear this, but things happen for only one reason, and that is it is the only way it could happen. There has only been one history, only one present, and there will only be one futrure. Things will only happen one way. We just do not know what that way is. Can't change it because you are merely making it go the way it must.
Steve L
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