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I work in an office that is not "kippah-friendly"...



Question:

I work in an office that is not "kippah-friendly"; I get the feeling that people are throwing judgmental stares in my direction. I'm torn, and not sure what to do...

Answer:

Let me tell you a simple story: About thirty years ago, a young psychiatrist took up practice in my hometown of Vancouver. His Jewish orthodox friends, some of them doctors, advised him that for the sake of developing the trust of his patients etc. etc., he should not cover his head in the office. He scoffed their advice and wore a kippah.

My father was a court reporter at the time and needed to deliver a transcript to this psychiatrist's office. I'll never forget the tone of his voice over dinner that evening as he described to us his astonishment. "A psychiatrist with a yarmulke! Sitting in his office with a yarmulke!"

For my dad, Judaism had just burst out of its closet. Now anything was possible. It wasn't long before he stopped answering the phone on Shabbat.

The job of a Jew is to change the world, not to make peace with it. It started with Abraham, a man with guts. Be his child.

Rabbi Tzvi Freeman for Chabad.org


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Posted: Nov 1, 2009
Wearing a Kippah
Am pleased that my thread has produced such a positive response. Whilst i would agree with the comment about it being a MItzvah rather than a rule to cover ones head at work or school, nor should it be seen as 'being religious'
These days i wear mine if i feel like it but i certainly would not wear a baseball cap to conceal it. Over The High Holidays i saw lots of Progressive Jewish people queing at a beach bar locally wearing Kipot. Even the Female Rabbi was on the beach with her KIppah in full view, so it is not necessarily a sign of religious leaning but of Jewishness in which we at Chabad and beyond try to encourage.
If anyone has any stories here or stateside where they have found by wearing a KIppah or Tzizit i would be interested to hear. We should walk tall and be proud of our heritage, not try to hide it and this last comment from South Africa proves my point. THis is the 21st Century not the dark ages.
Posted By Braham FInestone, Brighton, uk

Posted: Oct 31, 2009
i was warned not to wear a kippa.. but..
last year i went to a well established company for a week's trial. i was told by a friend that someone in a high position in this company had told him in confidence that they did not hire religious Jews; and that he recommends that i do not wear my kippa during the trial.

i wore it because that i feel that it is a great part of me that i am proud of. i landed up getting the job, and have been respected by both irreligious Jews and non-Jews at work , for being me.

it also turns out they had no problem in letting me take off Chagim; leaving work a few minutes early on Fridays in winter to get home before Shabbat; and they even changed the date of the annual end of year party (which for the last few years has been held on a Shababt) especially for me.

so remember the Jews who wore their kippot in times of persecution because they did not care what the world thought
Posted By montana6, Jhb, SA

Posted: July 2, 2009
Wearing A Kippa at Work
Whilst I personally agree with most of the comments, certainly in Great Britain in today's world it would not be seen as an insult to Christians or anyone else in the workplace, but there is a massive increase in incidents against Jews. For example my Catholic friend came to Shul with me in Leeds one Friday night and forgot to take off his kippa. He was standing outside a supermarket waiting for his friend to collect him to go home and a gang of non-Jews started hurling antisemitic abuse at him. He was horrified and very upset by it.
In London many religious Jewish boys are frightened to wear it at school or work because of being sectioned off as 'Jew Boys'. As I myself do not wear a kippah in the street it would not affect me but I feel for those it does affect. I do not go up to wearers of arab face masks and hurl abuse but this whole argument in Europe is political correctness - the Fascist influence is growing and Moslem women have already a big problem.
Posted By David F, Brighton, uk



 


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