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I'd feel hypocritical wearing a Kippah full-time...


Question:

I have a question about the kippah. As a Jewish man who is learning about observance and slowly incorporating observance into his life, I still have a very long way to go. I was wondering when is the "appropriate" time to begin wearing a kippah at all times? Because I am not yet fully kosher, Shabbat observant, etc., I feel it would appear hypocritical to wear a kippah at all times—especially when still active on Shabbat or when going with my family to eat at a non-kosher restaurant. Please advise.

Answer:

I will pass on advice given by Rabbi Moses Feinstein (renowned halachic authority, 1895-1986) to a similar question.

He was asked whether people who attend mixed dances should be advised to remove their kippot beforehand so that no one thinks that such dances are sanctioned by the presence of "religious looking" people.

In short, his answer was that two wrongs do not make a right. The fact that one is transgressing one commandment is no reason to disregard another non-related one.

Ultimately, the hope is that that wearing the kippah will serve as encouragement and a gentle reminder to progress in those areas that require improvement. After all, that's what a kippah is all about—a constant reminder that there is an Eye that watches all we do.

Mitzvot can be compared to money. Stumbling upon a hundred-dollar bill on the sidewalk, no sane person would say, "I am anyhow poor and so deep in debt, what's the point in picking up the bill." So, too, when faced with the opportunity to do a mitzvah, we grab the opportunity—regardless of the fact that there may be other areas wherein we are presently deficient.

Yours truly,

Rabbi Menachem Posner

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Posted: Oct 9, 2011
KIPPAH
Yes, being a Conservative Jew and wearing a kippah is very important o me. In the south there are very few Kosher restaurants. In fact in San Antonio, Texas we have maybe 2 Kosher restaurants in a city of 1.5 million. I'm a business man and of course take clients out for lunch or dinner. I wear my kippah all the time. Never do I indulge in pork or shell fish. Let's say I order fish, etc. If my client see me in a kippah at our meeting and then we meet for lunch with no kippah they have asked me if I'm a part time Jew. So why not wear it all the time?
Posted By Norman N., San Antonio, TX

Posted: Jan 20, 2011
Why not?
This idea seems wrong to me, that someone should not "give the wrong impression." That is, when only Orthodox jews wear kippahs, people will assume that whatever they do meets Orthodox standards. Therefore, non-Orthodox shouldn't wear them, and we have a vicious circle.

No one would suggest that a heterodox jew should eat pork, because he might otherwise give the impression that he's Orthodox, and thus he would be used as a bad example of what is OK to do. No one would suggest that he needs to go to work on Shemini Atzeret to prove that he's not Orthodox. So why should he go bareheaded simply to prove that he is not Orthodox, especially when the logical premise is that all jews should follow Orthodox practice, which includes head covering?
Posted By Geoff, Malden, MA

Posted: Oct 22, 2010
wearing a kippah
Wearing a kippah in a place of tumah (impurity) is a real problem. As Rabbi Feinstein said, two wrongs don't make a right, but people will say look, it's okay to go to mixed dances, see that guy over there? Also, the one who chooses to wear the kippah and is not yet fully religious may feel guilty, which is not the way to approach mitzvoth. I believe that each circumstance presents its own challenges for the individual, and a general rule is not appropriate for everyone. And yes, I dare to disagree with the Gaon, Harav Feinstine, ztl.
Posted By art miiller, Baltiimore, maryland
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Posted: Jan 2, 2010
Wearing a kippah at work?
Sometimes I fell that wearing kippah at work would tell a story to the public. Is it not the pursuit of the religion(Judaism) that makes the life style our path to being better people in an honest mind.
Posted By Gavreil

Posted: Aug 3, 2009
Fulltime kippah
When in a place that's Jewish, my son's preschool, services, or Jewish sponsored gatherings I wear my kippah. However in general I wear a baseball cap. Sadly it's because I live in a city in the USA where wearing a kippah could potentially bring dangerous situations. Still plenty of anti-Semetic people in the world and the greater mitzvah is surviving the day.
Posted By Anonymous, Tucson, AZ

Posted: June 30, 2009
Living up to a kippah
I was initially reluctant to wear a kippah because I could not compete with those who were frum (observant) from birth, and took so many things in stride. I felt so far behind them that I could not imagine that I would ever achieve even a tenth of their level of observance. I found, however, that wearing the kippah all the time, and not just at home and not just in shul, bound me closer to the Abishter (G-d). it is such a simple thing, but it has so much meaning.
Posted By Dovid, Greenwich, CT, US

Posted: May 10, 2008
Yarmulke in public
As an aspiring BT born from an intermarriage the kippah thing has long troubled me,(and for more reason than just culture clash) which is why I usually just wear a baeball cap. I even put on teffilin the other day at a local Chabad house with it! I think that it is best to wear secular headgear when venturing into a possibly non-kosher environment.
Posted By Simchah Chaim ben Avraham, Brooklyn, NY

Posted: Jan 12, 2008
RE: Chris
Here is the answer to your question:
www.chabad.org/483387.
Posted By Menachem Posner (author)

Posted: Jan 10, 2008
Kippah
Where is the Torah commandment that we are to wear Kippah's?
Posted By Chris , Kent, Wa

Posted: Jan 6, 2008
Wearing a Kippah
Wearing the kippah will remind the subject who he is and will definitely increase your desire to be more observant in other areas of you life. For example,if you are wearing your kippah you will not feel tempted to go out and eat at a non-kosher place. It is a reminder tha G-d is watching, but it will also make you conscious of who you are and what the rules to be followed are. If this person wants to become more observant, it is imperative that he starts wearing the kippah continuously. Besides, you have to be prepared for those moments when you have to say a blessing. If you are wearing your yamulke you do not have to run to get one. You just utter the words right then and there. Those around you will learn to see you as a Jew and respect you as such. It will also prevent you from doing or saying things not proper of a Jew. The kippah is, in othe words, a connection with Heaven.
Posted By kshroben, Phoenix, AZ



 


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