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94. Advice on Anger

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Prepare yourself with this meditation, and when you feel anger overcoming you, run through it in your mind:

Know that all that befalls you comes from a single Source, that there is nothing outside of that Oneness to be blamed for any event in the universe.

And although this person who insulted you, or hurt you, or damaged your property, is granted free choice and is held culpable for his decision to do wrong -- that is his problem. That it had to happen to you -- that is between you and the One Above.

Based on letters and talks of the Rebbe, Rabbi M. M. Schneerson
From the wisdom of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, of righteous memory; words and condensation by Rabbi Tzvi Freeman. To order Rabbi Freeman’s book, Bringing Heaven Down to Earth, click here.
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February 3, 2013
Advice on Anger
Yes ... this is beautiful ... ALL that comes to us comes from the One Above, including the things that make us angry ... but why not go even further and understand that what comes to us - ALL THAT COMES TO US - comes from H-shem's LOVE and nothing else ... that HE gives us what comes for our best and highest well being. This way there is nothing to blame anyone for and there is not truly any "wrong doing" no matter how it seems.

Not an easy thing to remember when the heat of anger begins to swell up inside of us though.
Smadar
Thornhill, ON, Canada
February 3, 2013
Advice Anger
Thank you for your meditations! In regards to anger, can we say that the people that pass and cross our paths through the day and one or two of them got us angry or frustrated that day, means that we met them for a very specific reason which is to show us and make us aware that his behavior towards us upset us because it is a mirror of the behavior that we are having in our relationship with our real self, " the G-dly soul, would that be the meaning of the instruction of the Baal Shem Tov? So, the correct action would be only introspection, and even gratitude to this person.

Please advise,
Anonymous
Miami
February 3, 2013
How true. Is the same true when it is my action that causes the anger?
Levy
February 3, 2013
Thank you :)
I feel tiny :)
Bertrand ESCAFFRE
France
October 26, 2010
To Margaret and Anonymous from NYC
Dear Anonymous, Margaret offered outstanding advice. Only by sitting in the presence of G-d, and hiding His word in your heart, can you find both the peace and the direction that you are looking for when it comes to handling any hurt you are facing.

In this, I can speak from experience. Dwelling in the shelter of the Most High offers healing. By first experiencing His embrace, you will find it is easier to turn and embrace someone else with an offer of love in place of anger.
Loriann Cordero
Waterb, CT
October 25, 2010
To Anonymous from NYC
By reading and believing and trusting Moshe's Psalm 91:
Verse 1. Whoever sits in the refuge of the Most High, in the protective shade of the Almighty he shall dwell. 2 I will say of G-d, He is my refuge and my fortress, my G-d I will trust in Him. 3 For He will deliver you from the snare that entraps, from pestilence that is devastating.
please continue on reading...
My dear continue on as you go along the path of life, reciting the Psalms and seeking His presence and you shall experience an unfathomable love that only He can give. I encourage you. And you will find peace.
Be blessed.
margaret
Mesa, Arizona, USA
October 25, 2010
Beautiful!
G-d does exist and His laws are immutable! I do believe in His laws, justice and ways of leading things. All of that has been real in my life. It's a balm to know we are not so split; our whole nature is divine and everything is under His commands. I then understand the evil is submitted to Him as well. Am I wrong, rabbi Freeman? That makes us one and brings peace to our hearts. Thereafter, since we are one, there will always be peace one way or the other at some time hopefully. Thank you again for sharing food for thought.
José Flávio Nogueira Guimarães
Belo Horizonte, MG/Brazil
October 24, 2010
He is One
Anger and resentment seem to go hand in hand as I have noticed for myself. Do I resent that I can not see how is creation is always about perfection? I have tried the mantra of the fewest words (above), but I think the one you offer is what I need for now. I will be grateful when the day comes that He is One is what is recalled when I confront the objects of my daily living. Thank you for the reminder.
Mr. Leon Anderson Jr.
October 24, 2010
"Advice on Anger" Articlee
What are some specific ways and specific things to do to quell one's anger? While realizing and recognizing that the action is between a person and the One above, what are some steps and actions a person can take to work through his or her anger?
Anonymous
Scottsdale, AZ/USA
October 24, 2010
Thinking of mother nature touderstand human nature
If the source that grows poison ivy is also the source that grows a strawberry, then the source that allows someone to ignore rules with their free will and damage your property or insult you is the source that created a receiver for the transgression.This is a broken wheel when this happens, someone hurts another.
After meditating over a transgression done to you, and focussing on your own personal growth to not get angry and blame the other person, should you take corrective action? In the wheel of human beings getting along together discipling the transgressor in a non judgemental way is important. Discipline , not with anger and not with blame, is the kind act to do otherwise, the wheel from the source is broken in the physical world.
Anonymous
Ma., Ma.
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