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Dance with the Other

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As a mother and the baby she holds in her arms, as a father and child, as two in courtship or in marriage, so we are with Him. One chases, the other runs away. One runs away, the other chases. One initiates, the other responds. The other initiates, the one responds. It is a dance, a game, a duet that plays as surely as the pulse of life.

Until one falls away and becomes estranged. Then the other looks and says, "This is not an other. We are one and the same." And so, they return to each other's arms once again.

It is a great mystery, but in estrangement, there is found the deepest bond.

Based on letters and talks of the Rebbe, Rabbi M. M. Schneerson
From the wisdom of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, of righteous memory; words and condensation by Rabbi Tzvi Freeman. To order Rabbi Freeman’s book, Bringing Heaven Down to Earth, click here.
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October 11, 2011
Re: Can you divorce G-d?
Children can be adopted, but that doesn't change biological fact. The biological parent is still the parent.

Our relationship with G-d is the deepest relationship we have. It has all the qualities of child and parent, of a married couple madly in love, of brother and sister, of a servant loyal to his master--all of these and more.

Your soul is G-d breathing within you.
Rabbi Tzvi Freeman
mychabad.org
October 9, 2011
Can you divorce G-d?
Marriages can end in divorce.

Legally, the parent-child relationship ends if the child is adopted by someone else.

Is the human-Hashem relationship unbreakable, or can it end?
Anonymous
Camarillo, CA
October 4, 2011
Again I enjoy all your message you send me ! I know you put your heart into them ! looking forward to an other one !
Ellen Gore
River Falls, AL
October 3, 2011
IN ESTRANGEMENT WE FIND THE DEEPEST BOND (?)
I hope that I am not over-simplifying this - but is it not the same as saying: "We want what we cannot have?"
How to explain it? Who knows? - is it not just an intrinsic part of being human?
Lastly, why are we not aware that we "want" something before we are estranged from it? Again, human nature? But why?? Why are we so short-sighted?
Jonathan
Johannesburg, South Africa
September 22, 2009
Dance
This is absolutely beautiful.

It was delivered to my inbox at a time when I needed to read it the most. Thank you for these word and peace it has given me.
Anonymous
London
September 22, 2009
the dance
Tzvi, this is the best one yet, only after "That which can be grasped will change/ That which does not change cannot be grasped" which I have pinned on the bulletin board next to my computer.

Hatimah tovah to you and your family!
Ilana Attia
Jerusalem, Israel
September 22, 2009
Dance with the Other
What a beautiful picture! I delight in every word.
And it is a very comforting thought, that after the separation the bond is as deep as it can be.

Soon we will have Jom Kippur.
That gives me the feeling as if on a special date the loved ones part, because the one who went away says: "Please wait a day. Tomorrow I will be sad, that I left you."
"Why tomorrow? There is nothing between us at the moment."
"Very sorry, but it's Jom Kippur. We all have to." Is it a wonder, that he/she has great difficulty to repent on demand ?
On a special day, given from outside?
What do you think? Is there something wrong in my thinking???
Thank you, Rav Freeeman, that you give us every day something to think about!!!
Michal
January 21, 2007
Dancing in estrangement
B"H
To Anonymous: it happens we are admirers of John Donne. We have his complete works and a link on my desktop to his works for easy research. Thank you for your kind thoughts, and keep reading "Thought for the Day". I believe this is my third year subscribing to the "Daily Dose" and I always look forward to this e-mail more than all others, even when repeats. Everything is in Hashem's hand now, and the kindness and compassion of friends whom He guides to help comfort me, has not eased the pain, but we discover together. When the neshama weeps, finding itself caste into darkness, it is simply crying to be reunited with its Source. It is the Bride who searches for the Bridegroom and yearning for the love that will unite them throughout eternity. In the silence, we can hear His voice more clearly. Perhaps that was the reason I was left alone - to remember He Who brought us together and why.
Anonymous
Far Rockaway, NY
January 20, 2007
Not as much as the above poster, but this one helped me immensely.

I used to check the Thought for the Day daily, but then it started going through a schmaltzy period- sorry, but true. I gave up on it, forgetting there's a fine line we all cross from time to time between inspiration and cliche.

I was looking for some divine guidence, and while this isn't from G-d, it's still Torah, in a way. So I went to it, and read all the available Thoughts for the Days. None of them helped with what I was looking for guidence for, but thank G-d, this one helped beyond measure with another problem, less immediate though greater, that I've been having.

I'm going to start reading these things again.

Also, this reminds of Martin (a.k.a. Mordechai) Buber's "I-Thou" concept, and John Donne's poem, "A Valediction: forbidding mourning."

To Anonymous from Far Rockaway, look into the poem: I think it speaks of just the sort of situation you're in, and I honestly hope it turns out well.
Anonymous
January 16, 2007
Dancing in estrangement
Last night, Jan, 15, my husband of six weeks left on a plane to his native country without telling me. He took nothing with him, and I found out at 4:00 PM, one hour before boarding time. Although I am only three miles from JFK, I would have never made it in time to say, "I love you" before he left. My heart is shattered in a million pieces, but when this Daily Dose arrived, I found a purpose in what happened. I realized that no matter where he goes or even if I never see him again, which may be the case, we are one, and that bond is strengthened through G-d's light in our hearts.
I am broken, yet whole. Weeping, yet hopeful, and praying G-d watches over him and guides him home again.
Anonymous
Far Rockaway, NY
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