Relationships

The Jewish wedding is a powerful and uplifting event. Read about the engagement preparation period, the ceremony itself, as well as the week and year that follow.

Thirty two articles and stories on love: filial love, romantic love, friendship, love of self, love of G-d -- so different from each other, yet somehow all the same

To be intimate means to go into a place that is private, that is sacred, that is set aside. It means one person entering into the private, sacred part of another human being's existence...

I am having my hair done, my nails, my makeup. But within, I am in a completely different world. My focus is on the new life I am about to embark upon. I keep his picture in my mind, his words in my heart and his being engraved in my soul. It is my wedding day.

Marriage is a pretty bizarre concept. It must have been G-d's idea. Who else could think of such a whacky plan like bringing together two opposites and putting them under one roof to share a life?

Is the mystique and the romance, the music and the moonlight, just nature's way of hoodwinking men and women to reproduce?

If you were given a glimpse of your subconscious personality, what would you find?

"But I have nothing to wear," she says... and she has 78 outfits hanging in the wardrobe right in front of her!

Could others see the countless tiny strands of their separate anxieties silently knitting them together? Did anyone notice how, though they sat on separate chairs not touching, they sat as close as two people could without touching?

She walked out of the room. Halfway down the hallway she stopped and stood motionless as if confronting an invisible wall

My friends say the main thing is that you are in love, and everything else will fall into place. Should I believe them?

As long as you are always giving without asking for anything in return, you have not allowed any space for her in your life

I feel that intimacy is an important part of a relationship, and would create a very strong bond between us. So what's wrong with pre-marital intimacy?

What makes a person loveable? Being "loveable" is relatively easy to achieve during the dating process but becomes much more difficult a few weeks after the marriage...

Many psychologists are prone to overly optimistic promises about the power of communication to solve all problems. They urge people to, "Share your feelings," and "Talk it out until the problem is resolved." However, this advice can be disastrous! Not everyone values emotional honesty...

"My husband is always taking me for granted" ""My wife is always criticizing me" Isn't it amazing how the very things we most need from each other are also the most difficult for us to give?

My favorite is a dozen or more long-stemmed, freshly-cut red roses. But a bouquet of any assortment will bring a smile to my face. My husband knows of this weakness of mine and uses it to his advantage

My friends' spouses are all such wonderful people, but the guys I meet all seem to be missing something. What am I doing wrong?

I know what you are going to say: I am too fussy. But I can't just settle on something half good. Where is the woman of my dreams?

My wife has no sense of humor. She says I make fun of her in public, and gets all upset and insulted. Shouldn't she be able to take a joke?

You're going to allow someone into that part of you that you're not so comfortable with yourself. And you don't know how the other person is going to treat it. But that's the whole meaning of a relationship

Should any physical contact that is friendly be considered intimate? Hopefully, it should.

In five instances, the Torah describes the phenomenon of love at first sight: in the love of Adam for Eve, of Rebecca for Isaac, of Jacob for Rachel, of David for Abigail, and of David for Bathsheba. These five, in their historical order, are descending examples of how the intensity of love at first sight can be focused into mature, rooted love

Are you searching for love in the present, or in your past? Are you looking for your soulmate or are you looking for yourself?

Dear Child, you are so tender. A new world is opening before you. I must not let you notice my hesitation. I must not show you my fears

After all these years, I may be less sensitive to your wants and wishes. My guard is down; my words and actions no longer reflect the nuances of care they once did. But you, too, don't give yourself as freely as in the olden days...

It had always seemed to me that, for most of us, many of the Torah's laws restricting relations between the sexes are a sort of collective punishment for the sins of a few. But recently my perspective has changed

Whom to Marry... Why Do We Fall in Love... The Kabbalah of Marriage... Yes and No... The Mikvah... Waiting... Moses vs. Freud... Adam & Eve... The Loving Friends.. Ring, Round & Roof... and 20 other articles and stories on marriage

Masculine and feminine modes of communication reflect our respective arenas of spiritual expertise. Unfortunately, the differences can sometimes result in unintended discord

She'll ask about his day. He'll answer that it was good or bad. If he remembers to reciprocate, he'll soon be wondering when or if she'll ever finish her litany of endless, intricate and irrelevant details and get to the important parts

"Joe must be feeling pressured at work," Sara muses. "He's not saying anything because he doesn't want to worry me. Oh, I wish he would just talk about it!"

Going through life with a spouse we love is one of the greatest satisfactions in life. A small percentage of us have a natural gift for it -- the rest of us have to learn it. So how is it done?

A complaint is a message that the brain sends us that something is not right. Its purpose is not to make us go in circles and complain about it for the next 20 years

"If you are lost in a forest," a chassidic master once asked his disciples, "are you better off being lost while walking or while riding on a horse?"

One of the ironies of life is that we do the same things over and over again, but expect different results...

It is possible for two people to see and hear the same event and yet each has a totally different experience of what actually took place...

Why can't I just skip the "listening part" and go straight to solving the problem?

An old chassidic saying posits that there are three types of conversations: 1) Everyone talks and nobody listens. 2) One person talks and others listen. 3) No one talks and everyone listens...

"We've been married for 14 years, the last 10 of which have been nothing but misery. It will never change!" I asked what they wanted to achieve with counseling. "We want a better future," came the instant reply

"I got my way in the end," a friend of mine announced proudly. "He'll never start with me again. Aren't you happy for me?"

I'm getting married in a couple of months, but I'm riddled with doubts: Have I made the right decision? How can I know for sure? Some nights I just lie awake wondering...

To many, these laws appear extreme, over-reactive and unnecessary. A little 1st-grader can't hug her daddy's best friend? Two adult co-workers of the opposite sex can’t work alone in the office to finish an important project?

"Do you have the same feelings your spouse like you did when you first got married?" --Should this be the criteria for staying in a marriage?

"Keep your eyes wide open before marriage," Ben Franklin quoted, "and half shut afterwards.'

The wife who pokes fun at her husband's clumsiness proves nothing about him other than that he was unlucky enough to marry an unsupportive spouse...

My fiancée is uncomfortable with it, and I'm not so excited about it myself. But everyone does it so I feel silly refusing. Is there a Jewish approach to bachelor parties?

If we treat the other in the same way that we like to be treated ourselves, as we doing ok? Not really

I've tried my hand at matchmaking, but so far I've been a dismal failure. Is there a secret formula for bringing people together that I don't know about?

I understand that the traditional Jewish ketubah (marriage contract) is all about the husband's obligations to the wife, but there's nothing in there about the wife's obligations. Is that fair?

In our nation's 3,300 year history, G‑d has directly addressed us exactly once. In doing so, G‑d also left us a perfect prototype to follow on those occasions when we really want our words to be taken seriously...

There's an old stereotype when it comes to marriage. Men marry women for their looks. Women marry men for their money. There are of course many exceptions to this rule. But there is some truth to it too.

My girlfriend of two years isn't sure she wants to get married. She just says she feels "it" hasn't clicked. I felt a click a long time ago and would very much like to marry and spend my life with her. What can I do?

While it is true that actions speak louder than words, there is an element of appreciation that is expressed more by our words than our deeds...