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I’m Scared of Going to Hell . . .

I’m Scared of Going to Hell . . .



I’m a secular Jew, and I’m afraid of going to hell. What does the Torah say about hell, and will I go there simply because I don’t observe the Shabbat, Jewish holidays or the laws of kosher? All in all, I think I’m a very decent human being—but of course nobody is perfect.


I hope you don’t mind if I take issue with your first few words. You write that you are a “secular Jew.” I don’t believe there is such a thing. You see, the word secular means “mundane” or “un-sacred.” A Jew, by definition, is holy. And you are just as Jewish as me, your great-grandfather and Moses. Perhaps not as observant—but just as Jewish. I truly mean that . . .

I’m sure you’re a great person. You probably live an ethical life and do many acts of kindness. You have done much to express your innate holiness. And that’s exactly why you can grow so much through taking on a few new mitzvot. You can take your being a decent human being infinitely higher. Your goodness will be instilled with a G‑dly touch.

You write that you are not perfect. But then again—as you yourself say—no one is. And that’s exactly why Judaism is not an all-or-nothing religion. It treasures the power of a single act. So I challenge you to take on one new mitzvah. It’s a mitzvah that happens only once a week, and takes only a minute. But it is powerful. And you will find that its effect is profound.

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Now, to address your question about hell:

You’re probably expecting me to depict a haunting scene of ghosts and goblins. But the Jewish concept of “heaven” and “hell” cannot be more different than the description found in medieval Christian texts or cartoons.

Yes, Judaism believes in punishment and reward in the afterlife. But in Judaism:

Hell is temporary—not permanent.

Hell is a therapy—not an imprisonment.

Hell is a consequence—not a punishment.

Hell is a washing machine—not a furnace.

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Let me know if this helps. I await your reply.

Yours truly,
Rabbi Yisroel Cotlar

Rabbi Yisroel Cotlar is a Chabad rabbi in Cary, North Carolina. He is also a member of the Ask the Rabbi team.
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October 27, 2015
So you're saying that even if there are some jews like me who were not raised to keep 100% shabbath or kosher, we can still get a share in the world to come?
September 23, 2014
Dear Sean,
I'm a student of Kaballah and have friends in the Lubavich community. Jewish people are required to help those in need, regardless of religion. I've seen numerous examples of this in the kosher soup kitchen where I live. No one is turned away. My own rabbi changed a tire for a Christian person who was stranded by the road. I'm counting on the scholars at to point to texts about this but do make the mistake of assuming from your brother's lack of knowledge (and hand gestures) that we only help "our own". The historic difference between Jewish and Christian outreach is that Jews do not try to convert non-Jews in order to help them. While Christianity may have evolved in recent years, historically Christian missionaries and clergy were only prone to help those they targeted for conversion. All the best.
September 23, 2014
answer again to tribulism

I don't know what people your brother has encountered, but true mitzva keeping Jews would help anyone. Whenever there is a disaster in this world, be it an earthquake in Haiti, trapped miners in Chile, a tsunami in Japan, which is the first country to send help?

Jews are taught to help all comers. It could be that your brother is surmising (or trying to give you an incentive to join him here in our little circle). We don't proselytize -- we even have Tora rules for Gentiles. We don't even think that Gentiles (non-Jews) are evil or are "going to hell", so to speak. Good Gentiles are good people -- Good Gentiles aren't required to keep all the Mitzvot we keep.

Chances are if your brother is new to Judaism, he might not know all the nuances of Judaism. And, BTW, just because you find someone who feels that way doesn't mean it's Jewish law.

Hope that helps.....
Central NJ
September 22, 2014
Helping strangers
Dear Sean: People of all faiths are predisposed to help those in need and this is certainly true for Jews. Be kind to the stranger for you were once strangers, etc. Until proven otherwise, I will believe that the Chabad rabbi would have helped you. Unfortunately, there are always persons who do not live up to the highest ideals of faith. One may look at the immigration debate in the US and see persons who hold themselves out as Christians and, yet, wish to deny aid to immigrants. One should not tar Christianity (or Judaism) because some who may fall short.
Columbus, OH
September 22, 2014

Wonderful answer!

Only problem is my brother goes on and on about how you can go anywhere in the world and you will find one of the People (Chabad) will help you out! He told the story of being in a foreign land and needing a cable for his computer. A Chabad person identified himself and got my brother a cable. All good!

But then I asked my brother if the same man would have helped me. My brother just grinned and held out his hands. His meaning was, "If you are not Jewish, why should he help you?" I think. I questioned him and he would not respond.

Forgive me, but in the Christian tradition, we are disposed to help anyone.

September 19, 2014
Debby - Just to be clear the Norse Hel was not a place of damnation either. It seems to be something adapted by the Christians, that concept of eternal torments - possibly deriving from the Greek tatarus. Most likely by the looks of it, since so much of Christianity seems to pull more from the Greeks than the Hebrews. But Odin is the Chuck Norris of Gods.
September 19, 2014
Response to Anonymous (Tribal)
In answer to the following:

Is Judaism a tribal religion?

I am just wondering, because my brother converted to Judaism and he is absolutely elated! He says that when you become a Jew, you are not required to BELIEVE in anything at all! He says that all you simply become one of the PEOPLE! It's as though he has become a member of a club.

He derides the Catholic tradition in which we were raised, because it requires belief.

Is it true that being a Jew is nothing more than identifying with a particular group?

My answer:

I have had this argument with people for years. Judaism is a religion of deeds, not belief. If you believe in G-d but murder (like many Nazis) then you are evil. If you don't believe in G-d and you treat people with respect then you are good. Belief, IMHO, is only important inasmuch as it makes you a good person deeds-wise.
Central NJ
September 19, 2014
Shabbat is for us, not for G-d
I've always (or at least since I "got it") felt that people who don't keep the Mitvot (commandments) are good people who are missing out on a gift that G-d gave us. G-d knows what humans need to survive -- Shabbat helps us recharge our batteries, being honest means people who we deal with on a daily basis will trust and be more likely to do business or deal with or work with us. I trust that even the Mitzvot that I haven't figured out the reasons for (not as many these days as when I was younger) have good reasons because I trust that G-d would give these mitzvot only if there is a good, practical, works well on this earth reason. I also believe that if you are Jewish and are a good person you are a good Jew. I also should remind you that Hell comes from Norse Mythology (where is was Hel). It's not a Jewish concept. Can you imagine that G-d would want to horribly punish 2/3 of the world's population for eternity? I cannot.
Central NJ
September 9, 2014
Stephanie, you are so correct on this one. I was not raised in a traditional Jewish household, but what I consider close to it in nature and beliefs. The higher ups considered themselves "chosen" and above the law of my fathers, and when I asked my mother about this, she said we were not to question their choices, and they were ordained by G-d. Thus, my search for the truth began.

My search began with the 10 commandments delivered by Moses who indeed WAS chosen by G-d to do so. When I saw the superiors freely breaking the laws without fear, I began to pray to the G-d that is not a hypocrite.

I do not believe He is a liar, and so I believe that there is a true heaven, and a true hell ( not an acceptable which we have created), and a future day we will stand before Him to give account.
September 8, 2014
"Jews imagine themselves to be superior..."
I vividly recall my grandfather, a Rabbi, teaching me that: "Jews were CHOSEN to TEACH right from wrong!" To teach right from wrong meant being RESPONSIBLE to learn...and then, being RESPONSIBLE to teach that which we learned!

I'm so sick and tired of hearing about the IRRESPONSIBLE SUPERIORITY! Some totally retarded idiot came up with that one. For those who take their responsibility seriously, one truly might consider them somewhat 'superior'... I know I do!
Stephanie Thomas (Armus)
Santa Monica