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Is there a moment when a mother says "no more kids"?


By Chana Weisberg

Question:

Is there a moment when a mother says "no more kids"? I keep thinking of having another child and I'm getting on in age.

Answer:

I think your attitude is so refreshing. It reflects your love for children and your realization that children are such a precious gift, so much so that you keep wanting another and another and another. What a natural reaction--to keep wanting more of something so good! What would be wrong with such an attitude? Who wouldn't want more of a good thing?

Wishing you much blessings,

Chana Weisberg for Chabad.org
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Chana Weisberg is a writer, editor and lecturer. Her latest books include Tending the Garden: The Unique Gifts of the Jewish Woman and the best selling Divine Whispers on finding spirituality in daily life. She has served as the Dean of several women's educational institutes and lectures internationally on issues relating to women, faith, relationships and the Jewish soul.
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Latest Comments:
Posted: Oct 21, 2009
No more Kids
I have 4 kids. As much as i want more children but it is not REALISTIC to have more children when we cannot afford tuition! I find it more chutzpah to keep having more children while not having enough money and know how expensive the tuition costs. I cannot possibly have more kids in blind faith. we have been bombared by tzedakah collectors to help huge families which their parents should know better to have many kids with money. I am angry that i cannot have more kids due to financial straits.
Posted By Anonymous, baltimore, md

Posted: Apr 22, 2009
I agree with anonymous from L.A. The question was not answered properly and the "no more kids" issue was conveniently ignored. A rabbi should be consulted concerning this issue.
Posted By Anonymous, Montreal, Canada

Posted: Feb 28, 2009
when a mother says "enough!"
We Jews are going to have to make some hard choices; what is more important--building up our home land, or or nation/people? We cannot at this time say Israel, you have what it takes, now we take care of the rest of the People. So, is there a plan "c"? where we go back to being more community centered, even if we still do what we can for our country. Or, are we to far along the "Nation Like Any Other Nation" to join together and help these people, our fellow Jews, to do what is neccessary for their children? The solution is not an organizational one, is is for us, the Jewish Nation, to accept the responcibility for our builders and the future.
Posted By Yechielshlipshon, Joelton, Tenn

Posted: Feb 27, 2009
in answer Anonymous from LA
when a women who is physically miserable in pregnancy or a woman who already has a special needs child asks a competent Orthodox Rabbi for permission to use birth control, there is room within the confines of Jewish Law for such factors as these to be taken into consideration.
Posted By rena, Israel

Posted: Feb 25, 2009
having more children
I think if you want more children, as long as you are healthy, then go for it! G-d will provide you all you need, and you already have a great attitude, so what's the problem? Don't let someone tell you you are too old, or have "too many kids' already! What is "too many" anyway? by whose definition? the secular world's? I have two beautiful healthy boys, and I pray every day that G-d opens my husband's heart and stops the worry that fills his mind about whether he can "handle more" and allows us to experience more blessings!
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: Oct 2, 2008
This is a serious question, and I don't feel like it was answered. It is important to bring Jewish children into the world, but sometimes it IS overwhelming. Of course, we are taught that financial considerations should not come into the picture (that's a test for belief and faith), but what about a woman who wants to put more effort into fewer kids (with a better result, perhaps) or a women who is physically miserable in pregnancy, or a woman who already has a special needs child, or a woman who feels a large number of children takes her attention away from her husband? Even if the answer is that it is never too late, keep going, or something like that, I think women who feel like this is an issue for them should have their feelings acknowledged.
Posted By Anonymous, L.A., CA

Posted: Nov 3, 2007
children bring their own blessing to the home
when I was newly married and penniless, people asked how many children I wanted. My answer was - as many as G-d gives me. I merited to 10 children, thank G-d, and have both more love and patience as well as much more money than I had then.
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: July 4, 2007
Because some people simply can't handle having an unlimited number of children in the house. There is no kehila (community) or family or anyone one to help and not enough money to pay for help and too much shame to ask for a "chessed".

Children ARE good but raising them to be "GOOD adults" requires a lot of time and work and HELP.
Posted By Anonymous



 


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