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Why can't a male listen to a female singer?


The singing voice of a woman is considered sensual and possibly stimulating to males. It is therefore forbidden for a man to hear a woman other than his immediate family sing and it is prohibited to pray or study Torah in that environment.

Several halachic (Jewish law) authorities are of the opinion that a recording or a radio transmitted singing voice of a woman who one does not personally know would not be actually prohibited. It is the custom however in most orthodox circles for men to refrain from hearing a woman sing in any format through any medium.

I know that in today's time this might seem severe, but the Torah puts such enormous value on the bond between a husband and wife that it does not allow for any potential damage to a man's undivided and unequivocal devotion and attraction to his one and only partner in life. Imagine how beautiful that is!

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Chana Weisberg for Chabad.org

P.S. While the above is the general rule, there are exceptions and certain leniencies. For example: The “Sridei Eish” (Rabbi Yechiel Yaakov Weinberg (1885-1966)) opines that it is permitted for women to sing along with other men. There are also those who are of the view that the restriction against men hearing women singing doesn’t apply to women who are singing in a group, since no individual is calling attention to herself.

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Posted: Jan 13, 2012
To Alejandro
Hair is sensuous, and by covering it, a Jewish married woman reserves this side of herself for her husband. Covering the hair is not meant to conceal a woman's beauty - she can cover her hair with lovely hair coverings - but rather to channel this aspect of herself into her relationship.

While many wigs nowadays are indeed lovely, the woman who wears it knows that she's wearing it, and it makes a difference to her. Notwithstanding the beauty of her wig, she reserves her sensuality for her husband, as it should be.

For more on hair covering, see here.
Posted By Rochel Chein for chabad.org

Posted: Jan 12, 2012
I do not always understand some of the rules men impose on themselves. But it is their choice to live this way. They should be allowed their choice to not to listen, as we are allowed our choice to listen.

Keep in mind that the Jews are to remain a separate people.
That also means that there will always be places in the world where the songs of women will be heard.

Time, patience and goodwill towards your brother have of way of naturally working themselves out to everyone's better acceptance. Who knows? Maybe someday in the future, these men will think otherwise? Maybe not.

But until then, there is no use in forcing this on them.
Posted By Bonnie

Posted: Jan 11, 2012
But they can wear beautiful wigs!
I am shocked about some rules of our holy texts. A women can´t sing in front of a men, and a women can't show her own hair, but you can wear a beautiful wig probably nicer that actually your real hair. How do you explain that? thanks
Posted By Alejandro, BsAs, AR

Posted: Nov 8, 2011
women singing
It is embarrassing at the least to think that Jewish men have so little control that singing can arouse them and dangerous at the worst. All discrimination even that, that begins with religious edicts is still discrimination. Remember the Bible was used to condone slavery. If a woman can't show her legs or voice, can burkas and house arrest be far behind?
Posted By Anonymous, garden city, ny

Posted: Oct 7, 2011
Why can't a male listen to a female singer
Really..!! The creator of this vast and incredible Universe prohibits you from listening to a singing woman´s voice other than your near relatives because you could get aroused.. !! All these rules and laws in religion seem incredible funny.. but I noticed that some cantors have even higher pitch voices than a woman when they sing, and sometimes in the synagogue I close my eyes to enjoy the cantor's voice and almost hear his voice sounding like if it was a woman singing.. so this act of closing my eyes and hearing a woman´s voice make me a sinner.. any thoughts..?
Posted By Robert Gruner W., Caracas, 1757

Posted: Oct 25, 2009
...And about women listening to a male singer?
No problem for us, because, women in general have more self control than most men do!
I mean..... hhmmmm... Mordechai Ben David is one hot Yidd.... but, the message in his music is always holy, and, therefore he evokes spirituality and our connection to G-d ;-)
Posted By Hannah Ussery

Posted: July 12, 2009
singing
Too bad for the men. The Lord hears the singing of women all the time. He 'permits' himself this joy. Particularly songs of praise and thanksgiving. As it says, He created them, male and female He created them. Someday that sentence will be fully understood.
Posted By Anonymous, calgary, alberta

Posted: Mar 31, 2009
Vice versa
You mentioned that it is "forbidden for a man to hear a woman other than his immediate family sing"...Isn't there a risk to be sensually aroused by a voice in your immediate circle? ...In fact shouldn't it be the contrary..I mean shouldn't he be allowed to listen to a woman sing outside his family instead of inside?
Posted By Tenor

Posted: Jan 13, 2009
hmph.
I think men ought to be expected to have more self-control.

Why is it that all I ever see is people extrapolating about all the restrictions placed on women, and there aren't nearly as many articles and questions geared toward MEN complaining about what they aren't allowed to do?
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: Dec 15, 2008
What about females listening to male singers?
Why is it that males can't listen to female singers but females can listen to male singers? Can't a male voice be stimulating to females also?
Posted By Jon, Reading, UK



 


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