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This list only contains the items required for the religious parts of the marriage ceremony

  • Chupah
  • Wedding ring
  • Ketubah (Marriage Contract)1
  • Private chambers which can serve as the "Yichud Room"2
  • Kosher wine3 (preferably white wine. The bridal gown need not be adorned by a red wine stain!)
  • "Kiddush" cup for the wine4
  • Glass cup to be broken
  • Cloth in which the glass cup is wrapped before it is broken by the groom
  • List of people honored with being witnesses and reciting blessings under the chupah
  • Veil for the bride
  • Kittel (white frock worn by Ashkenazi grooms under the chupah)
  • Candles for those escorting the bride and groom to the chupah (and matches or lighter to light the candles)
  • Mechitzah (divider which separate the men's and women's dancing circles)
  • Prayer book or paper containing the blessings recited beneath the chupah
  • Grace after Meals pamphlets for all in attendance5

Other:

In certain communities — Chabad included — the tenai'm (engagement contract) is publicly read at the reception which precedes the chupah.6 If following this custom, add these items to your list:

  • Tena'im (Engagement Contract)7
  • China or glass plate (to be broken after the public reading of the tena'im)
  • Cloth in which the plate is wrapped before it is broken

At Chabad weddings, the text of the letter which the Rebbe would customarily send to every bride and groom is read beneath the chupah.

Some have the custom of placing a sterling silver spoon on the threshold of the Yichud Room before the couple enters the room.

  • Silver spoon


Footnotes
1.

The officiating rabbi will normally provide a standard copy of the ketubah. Many people, however, choose to purchase an artistic "designer" ketubah. If you wish to go the designer route, first obtain a copy of the text of the ketubah and have it approved by your rabbi. Some of these artistic ketubah providers offer to personalize the document for an additional fee. This option should only be exercised in consultation with your rabbi, as there are many halachic considerations which play a role in the personalization of the contract.

2.

Arrangements should be made with the caterer to prepare some light refreshments for the bride and groom to enjoy in the Yichud Room.

3.

Mevushal wine is best for this occasion.

4.

According to Chabad custom, a glass cup is used for the wine — the same cup which is later broken by the groom.

5.

Many printers offer attractive monogrammed Grace after Meals booklets, which also serve as elegant take-home mementos

6.

Click here for an article discussing the different customs regarding the timing of the writing and reading of the tena'im.

7.

Usually provided by the officiating rabbi.

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Chabad.org Staff via chabadone.org January 22, 2016

To Anonymous Yes, it's not a mandatory custom but Jewish brides can have bouquets if they wish. Reply

Anonymous Washington January 20, 2016

Flowers for the bride? Do Jewish brides carry a flower bouquet? I am converting and was curious if Jews hold that custom at all. Reply

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