Dr. Abraham Twerski is a
renowned psychiatrist and rabbi who descends from a
long line of revered Hasidic leaders. Dr. Twerski founded
and operates a successful drug rehabilitation center in
Pittsburgh and has authored several popular books on
drug addiction and spiritual well-being. On the Sabbath
and holidays, he retreats to his home, where he invites
guests to share festival meals with his family. At these
meals, he relates remarkable Hasidic tales that have been
handed down from generation to generation -- legacies of
the Jewish oral tradition.
During one Sabbath meal, after Dr. Twerski had
related a particularly striking tale, one of the guests
politely suggested, "Why don't you collect these stories
in a book? They're so moving, but I can barely remember
enough details to do them any justice when I try to
recount them myself."
Dr. Twerski was silent and looked thoughtfully at the
man. "I used to say the same thing to my uncle," he said
after a few moments.
Later that year, Dr. Twerski published his first work
of nonfiction stories, titled From Generation to Generation.
In Venice, California, Marilyn received a copy of Dr.
Twerski's new book from a friend as a thank you gift. In
her thirties, Marilyn was divorced and raising her young
son, David. She had not grown up in a religious
household, and she knew little about Judaism, her religion. At
the recommendation of a friend, she attended a few lectures on
it, and she was so moved that she began to go to synagogue and
learn more. Soon, she was incorporating some of the practices
of Orthodox Judaism into her life, such as keeping kosher and
observing the Sabbath.
Marilyn was a respected lecturer in sports nutrition, and she had
been on the staff of the 1984 Summer Olympics. In June 1986,
she had a speaking engagement in Atlantic City, and everything
went smoothly until her return flight home.
On her itinerary, she had one layover in Philadelphia, then a
second short one in Pittsburgh, where she would board a final
plane to Los Angeles. The flight from Atlantic City to
Philadelphia went without a hitch, and she was eager and
excited to return home and see her son, David, who would be
leaving for his first trip to sleepaway camp that coming
weekend. She sighed. It would be the first time they would be
apart for an extended period, and she couldn't help feeling a
little wistful about it. I guess my little boy is growing
up, she thought.
But as she exited the gate at the Philadelphia airport, she heard
over the loudspeaker. "Flight 181 to Pittsburgh will be delayed
fifteen minutes because of weather conditions. We apologize for
any inconvenience."
"Oh, no," Marilyn said under her breath. She felt a flutter of
panic and checked her watch. Luckily, she still
would have just enough time to make her connecting flight to
Los Angeles.
As she waited impatiently, however, there was another
announcement: "Flight 181 to Pittsburgh will be delayed another
twenty minutes."
"Don't they know people have connecting planes to catch?" she
cried.
Her chest tightened. Now she really feared she would miss her
connecting flight, and she ran to the reservations desk to see
about other planes to L.A. But she soon discovered there were
none that could solve her particular dilemma. As an observant
Jew, she could not drive or take an airplane on a Jewish holiday
or the Sabbath; Jewish law forbade it. A two-day Jewish
holiday was to begin after sundown that evening, which was a
Wednesday, followed immediately by the Sabbath, which would
not end until late Saturday night. If she missed her flight, there
was no way she could get home before Sunday afternoon. And
her son was leaving for camp Sunday morning!
Everything was falling apart. She still had to help David
pack -- and how would she get him to the airport on Sunday? Even if he
got a ride from a friend, how could she miss sending him off on
his first long trip away from home? And where would she stay
for the next three days -- so she could properly observe the
holiday and Sabbath? These thoughts played over and over in
her head until they finally announced that Flight 181
was ready for boarding.
She fretted the entire way from Philadelphia to Pittsburgh,
hoping and praying that she would make it. As the plane landed
and arrived at the terminal, she grabbed her duffel bag and
dashed to the exit, slightly crazed. She ran all the way to the
connecting flight, but it was no use. The flight to Los Angeles had
already left.
"Oh, no!" she cried aloud, suddenly paralyzed by her anger and
frustration. For a moment she just stood there and sobbed,
feeling the sting of life's unfairness.
After a few minutes, she'd calmed down and gathered her wits
about her. She called her rabbi in Los Angeles.
"Stay in Pittsburgh for the holiday and the Sabbath," he advised
her. "We'll help you with your son. Find a Jewish family to stay
with."
Since she didn't know anyone in Pittsburgh, she tried to reach
some local synagogues. But with the holiday approaching, their
offices were closed. She tried a few other Jewish organizations.
No luck. Panic began to overtake her again. She checked her
wallet; she had almost no money. She had never felt so helpless.
Then, suddenly, the name Abraham Twerski popped into her
head. He lived in Pittsburgh. Yes. Yes, she was sure of it. She
remembered his name from inside the jacket cover of his book,
"From Generation to Generation." He runs a hospital for drug addicts
in Pittsburgh! I must find him!
She took a cab to Twerski's hospital, spending nearly all the
cash she had. She bolted inside and found Dr. Twerski's office,
but it was empty. She uttered another cry of
despair.
Marilyn found one of the doctor's associates. "Please give me his
number at home," she asked.
"I'm sorry, I can't do that," the associate replied. Marilyn
explained her situation, but her frenetic, panicked manner only
made the associate more nervous.
"Of all people, the rabbi would understand," Marilyn pleaded.
"Please, you have to help me. I don't even have any money left
for a cab."
Marilyn's distress was so genuine that the associate finally said
she would call Dr. Twerski's son, who also worked in the
hospital. She called him at home, and he arranged for Marilyn to
spend the holiday and Sabbath with a family near the Twerski
residence. Dr. Twerski's son arrived at the hospital twenty
minutes later and drove Marilyn to the neighbor's house. She
almost couldn't contain her gratitude and relief.
As he dropped her off, he wished her a happy holiday.
"And you too, happy holiday," she replied. "And thank you
again! "
Marilyn's hostess greeted her warmly at the door, surrounded by
the exquisite aroma of freshly baked bread. "We're delighted to
have you," she said. "Come, let me show you to your room."
She led Marilyn upstairs and left her alone.
Relieved but still worried about her son, Marilyn immediately
called a good friend in Venice to make sure
he would be taken care of and would get to the airport all right.
Then she called David and explained what had happened. She concealed her own
disappointment, reassuring herself that he was in good hands.
Then Marilyn lay back on the bed, exhausted and hungry, and began
to relax for the first time in hours. She replayed the day's tiring
events in her head. She freshened up and went downstairs.
The house was full of holiday spirit, and the good cheer and smells
of cooking were intoxicating. She lit candles with the other women
in the dining room as they waited for the men to return from
prayer at the synagogue.
The men arrived with great noise and abundant greetings,
and the family sat Marilyn at a place of honor for the evening
meal. The warmth and the joyous songs uplifted and enraptured
Marilyn in a way she hadn't expected -- creating a sense of
openness inside her to whatever destiny had to
offer. When she went to bed that night, she fell
into a deep and peaceful sleep.
The next day, it was arranged that Marilyn would
have lunch at the Twerksi's home nearby. After hearing
of Marilyn's mishaps, Mrs. Twerski said,
"There must be a reason for all this."
At lunch, Marilyn felt the magic of the previous night
lingering inside her. Across the table, several men were
engaged in various conversations, and
one of them, Steven, began to catch her attention.
He had light, kind eyes and a warm manner, and he
displayed an admirable conviction in his beliefs.
He was also quite funny. Every so often Marilyn
laughed at one of his offhanded comments, and as
the meal progressed, it seemed his lighthearted
jokes were meant especially for her.
At the end of the meal, Steven offered to
walk Marilyn home. They walked slowly, talking
easily and comfortably. It was not long before Marilyn
felt as though she had known him all her life.
She was disappointed when they arrived at the house
where she was staying, hoping for any excuse to
continue talking. For the rest of the day, all
she could think about was Steven.
The next morning, over coffee, she asked her hostess
where Steven would be having lunch after the morning
synagogue service. Marilyn arranged to eat lunch in
the same place. But when lunchtime came, Steven didn't
appear. When Marilyn made some casual inquiries about him,
she found out he was dating someone.
Oh, how could I have been so wrong?
Marilyn thought. Was I the only one feeling a connection?
She thought that perhaps the wine and song from the night
before had deluded her, and she couldn't help feeling disappointed.
On Saturday night, Marilyn quietly packed her few things
for her trip back home the next morning. The telephone rang.
It was Steven.
"Hi. I so enjoyed talking to you," he said.
Marilyn's heart skipped a beat. "Me, too."
"I changed my lunch plans and came over the next
day to where you're staying so we could have lunch
together. But I guess you went somewhere else." Marilyn
smiled, but decided not to say anything. "Are you leaving
tomorrow?" he asked.
"Yes. First thing in the morning."
"Would you like to go out for a drink tonight?"
"Yes," Marilyn answered. "I would."
That night they went out, and their connection felt
just as strong as it had at lunch two days before. And as
it turned out, he wasn't dating anyone seriously. The
next day he drove her to the airport.
When Marilyn got home, she was just pulling her key
out of the latch when the telephone rang. It was Steven.
"Was your trip all right?" he asked.
"Yes. I just walked in."
Then he dispensed with further small talk. "I'd like to
come to L.A. to see you."
The next week, Steven went to L.A. and not long
afterward, Marilyn visited him in Pittsburgh. Five weeks
later, neither of them had doubts about their feelings for
each other, and they became engaged. After they
married, they settled in Pittsburgh, not far from the
Twerskis, and they had four children together.
But their fated match was set in motion long before
fog delayed Marilyn's flight.
Who was the young gentleman who politely
suggested that Dr. Twerski memorialize his Hasidic tales
in a book? That gentleman was Steven.