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More on How To Criticize

Based on letters and talks of the Rebbe, Rabbi M. M. Schneerson

If this person you feel an urge to criticize is not yet your close friend, you'll need to spend some time with him. Find out everything that's good about him and go out of your way to help him out. Eventually, a real friendship will develop

Also, you'll need to ensure that this person has the same knowledge, understanding and perspective of right and wrong as you do before you can attack his decisions. If he doesn't, you'll need to spend some time learning and discussing together until you see each other's point of view.

Once the two of you are in the same space in Torah and observance of mitzvot, and he's your good friend to boot, then it's okay to criticize -- if necessary. And if you can remember what there was to criticize.

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	From the wisdom of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, of righteous memory; words and condensation by Rabbi Tzvi Freeman. To order Rabbi Freeman’s book, Bringing Heaven Down to Earth, click here.

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Posted: July 21, 2009

Screaming and kicking But trying,...

I said I would try and tried I did :), the difficulty was to recognize when I'm being provoked, to nip it in the bud, I don't have to stoop down to their level! I didn't like what I read but I tried and Thank you! Tested and it works!

Posted By Mrs. Celine Bennett

Posted: July 20, 2009

Isn't G-d the only judge? who are we to criticize other people or to judge whether someone else is doing the right or wrong thing? and if we see blemishes in others... aren't they really the blemishes we are struggling with in ourselves? and even if we are to criticize... shouldn't it only be a rav advising or giving criticism to the person?

Posted By nicole

Posted: July 20, 2009

if only ...

if only all the nations of the world, Jews and Arabs and Sudanese and Burmese and Americans and *everyone* would follow this wonderful guideline, we would move the spiritual, political and emotional health of our world forward by many light years. thanks for the "how to criticize" roadmap. I am right now envisioning everyone in the world who is in a conflict sitting down at length to discuss and learn to see each other's point of view.

Posted By Ilyse Kazar, New York, NY

Posted: July 20, 2009

That's hard

difficult, impossible, forget it, not fair!
I will consider and try it, maybe tomorrow :)

Posted By Mrs. Celine Bennett

Collection I


	Inside Workers


	The Echo Upstream


	Identity


	Mixtures


	The Lie That Is Truth


	Reciprocity


	How To Criticize


	More on How To Criticize


	The Last Word on Criticizing


	Unreacting


	Being Paradox


	Both Ways


	The Tzaddik


	Paradise


	A Small Candle

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