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How To Criticize

Based on letters and talks of the Rebbe, Rabbi M. M. Schneerson

Criticizing another person is not out of the question. It's just that there are a few conditions to attend to before you start.

The first condition is to make sure this person is your close friend. Those are the only people worth criticizing--not just because they may actually listen, but also since you run a lower risk of making them into your sworn enemies.

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Posted: July 20, 2009

Criticizing

He that reproves a scorner gets to himself shame: and he that rebukes a wicked man gets to himself a blot.
Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.
Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser: teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.
Proverbs 9:7-9

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Posted: July 20, 2009

whats the second condition?

Posted By Anonymous, toronto, canada

Posted: July 19, 2009

Criticizing

I agree with this comment, however when it comes to family members who cause pain and suffering to a parent I draw the line. Parents should be treated with love and respect, both of mine are in heaven now. When you see a wrong and say the truth and family members bring pain and suffering to your family that is unforgivable, I know that you are to forgive, but I cannot forgive these relatives ever, friends however you can get mad at and talk it over, sometimes in families it is not the same, when greed is involved, I would have gladly taken the place or either of my parents, I love them both now and will miss them forever. I was blessed to have them in my life, they still are and will always be.

Posted By Donna Stern-Ritch, Gulf Shores, Al

Posted: July 19, 2009

Be a Positive Critic

Even if the person is a close friend, make your statement in a positive manner. First ask,"What is your reason for doing .....?" IF it is something you perceive as a halachic violation, state the halachah as you understand it and who the halachic authority is. Your friend may have a different minhag (custom). Take care with baalei t'shuva (those in the process of becoming more observant). Don't make them responsible for something they are not ready to undertake. Refer them to a rabbi.

Posted By Jocelyn Ruth Krieger

Posted: July 19, 2009

criticizing

a very very useful dose making clear, how to avoid creating enemies, by criticizing everyone friend or a stranger, without distinction.
It is obvious the risk, to make someone an enemy to eternity, through a severe criticizing.
So be careful.

Posted By costas Papaconstantinou, athens, greece

Collection I


	Why The Heavens?


	Inside Workers


	The Echo Upstream


	Identity


	Mixtures


	The Lie That Is Truth


	Reciprocity


	How To Criticize


	More on How To Criticize


	The Last Word on Criticizing


	Unreacting


	Being Paradox


	Both Ways


	The Tzaddik


	Paradise

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