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What Happened on Your Birthday?

What Happened on Your Birthday?


For as long as men and women have been being born, they've had birthdays. Birthday parties are not that ancient, but they do go back at least 3,500 years (the book of Genesis mentions a banquet in honor of a Pharaoh's birthday back in 1534 bce). The interesting thing about birthday celebrations is that, for much of our history, they were not a very "Jewish" custom.

This is not to say that there are no sources in Torah for the concept of a birthday. The Talmud speaks of the specialness of a person's date of birth as a time of empowerment and opportunity for him or her. One of the most important days of the Jewish year is Rosh Hashanah, Adam's—and mankind's—birthday. But as a rule, Jews did not celebrate their birthdays. Indeed, while the dates of passing (yahrtzeit) of the great figures of Jewish history are recorded and commemorated, their dates of birth are mostly unknown.

King Solomon gave voice to this attitude when he said, "Better the day of death than the day of one's birth" (Ecclesiastes 7:1). On the face of it, this seems a rather negative view of life. But upon deeper contemplation, it in fact expresses the classical Jewish attitude that "deed is the paramount thing"--that actual achievement, rather than concept, theory or potential, is what is significant.

The newborn infant may be brimming with genius and talent—but he or she has not yet done anything with it. So what's there to celebrate? Who's to know whether the potential will be realized? Or that is will be realized toward good and G‑dly ends?

The day of a person's passing, on the other hand, is the culmination of his or her mission in life. This is when the sum total of his or her achievements have come to actuality, to wield their combined influence on our lives. This is why the yahrtzeit of a great person is such a special occasion: when we celebrate a life, we do so at its point of greatest impact upon the world.

But also if we would attribute significance to pure potential, the birthday would not be the time to celebrate that, either. Weeks and months before the fetus emerges from the womb, it has hands and feet, a throbbing heart and a thinking brain. If we're going to celebrate the creation of new potential, the time for that is a point prior to the birthday, perhaps the point of conception.

If you're thinking of celebrating your birthday, you're going to have to ask: Yes, I was born, but what happened?

Albert Einstein is reputed to have remarked, "The illusion that we are separate from one another is an optical delusion of our consciousness." You look at yourself and you look at me, and you see two entities. But matter is not really "solid" or clomped in bodies; it is a vast amalgam of infinitesimal points, each exerting a complex web of forces and counter-forces on its fellows. A "human being" is no more or less a distinct entity than an atom in his body, the planet he inhabits, or the universe as a whole.

Physically, there is no real division between your body and mine. But there is a deeper reality than that described by the laws of physics. At the heart of the Torah's vision of life is the idea that every individual human being has a soul—a distinct spiritual identity, and a distinct mission in life.

This is what came into being on your birthday. Not your physical existence, not your vitality, not your spiritual potential. The fetus exists, is alive, thinks and feels. But it is defined by Torah law as "a limb of its mother." It is not a distinct entity, a thing unto itself. Birth marks the point at which your body received and fused with your soul, the point at which you attained your individuality.

In recent times, the birthday has been reinstituted as a Jewishly and spiritually significant occasion. The previous Lubavitcher Rebbe (Rabbi Yosef Yitzchak Schneerson, 1880-1950) promoted the celebration of the 18th of Elul, the birthday of two great figures in the Chassidic movement: Rabbi Israel Baal Shem Tov, the founder of Chassidism; and Rabbi Schneur Zalman of Liadi, the founder of its Chabad branch. Today, it has become widespread custom among Jews—particularly among Chassidim—to commemorate the birthdays of tzaddikim and leaders, and to designate one's own birthday as a time for introspection and celebration.

It is no accident that the rebirth of the birthday is intertwined with the rebirth of Chassidism. One of the central messages of the Baal Shem Tov and his disciples is the very message of the birthday:

"You, as an individual," said the Chassidic masters, "are special, unique, and utterly indispensable. No person alive, no person who has ever lived, and no person who shall ever live, can fulfill the specific role in G‑d's creation entrusted to you."

By Yanki Tauber; based on the teachings of the Rebbe.
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Anonymous August 17, 2017

Amen! Thanks!! Reply

דוד פרן west melbourne, fla. November 10, 2016

birthdays ~ talent ב״ה

to me

a birthday is when
we are born with a talent

it all depends on
what we do with that talent
in the life G-D gave us

those who dream big
accomplish much
those who think small
go nowhere

שלום עליכם Reply

Regina Weber santa monica, L.A. via October 8, 2013

my birthday I think that a birthday is very special because you thank god for bringing you in to this would and such a good family so you can do a lot of good things in life. There is always a good deed of why you were born because god made you to do good things in this would while you are alive. God made you to have strength and give you self love to know that you are welcomed here and if people tell you that you are a joke that is not right. you are to serve god and to love your self for who you are. All ways love your self. you are here to be who you are. If you are scared to be who you are that is ok because I was the same too. I all ways try my best to be a good deed in life. Reply

shannon B.C., anada June 15, 2013

But it is defined by Torah law as What is the passage referred to in the Torah that the unborn child is a limb of the mother. Reply

Anonymous West Palm Beach, FL February 11, 2013

I need to study more before making any comments Reply

Aryeh Sax Lubbock, tx March 28, 2012

Birthdays In our family it was a tradition, to have a small party for our mother while she was alive, on each of our birthdays. After all she was the one who brought us in this world, we did nothing. Reply

devorah rena Dayton, Ohio April 19, 2010

Iyar auspicious birthday? It seems there should be something special about having a birthday today and sharing it with the State of Israel. The year is different, but I was born on the date of Israel's birth, which seems special to me.

What do you make of it? Is there something special I should do, or just study, tehillim and tzedekah? Reply

nosson beijing April 5, 2009

Birthdays of the Evil We can celebrate our possibility to add good and holiness to the world and they can celebrate for their reasons... Reply

Shoshanna March 29, 2009

What are we celebrating? We are celebrating the fact that we were born into this world and have the opportunity to do mitzvot, which we otherwise lack.

Only those who are born into this world can do mitzvot. Reply

john vega paradise, ca/usa March 29, 2009

Pharaoh's birthday in this article there is reference to Pharaoh's birthday. Where is this mentioned in Genisis,

the book of Genesis mentions a banquet in honor of a Pharaoh's birthday back in 1534 bce) Reply

Juan Victor Manila, Philippines March 31, 2008

Birthdays In my readings of the Scriptures, I noted that not many birthdays of great men of G-d are listed. I would say that there is a noted preponderance of non-believers' birthdays being celebrated giving due credence to Solomon's teaching on the subject in Ecc 7:1 & 8! Isn't this rather odd that in the present dispensation, it is now being somewhat encouraged? Reply

Sivan October 10, 2007

Spread the light of Blessings! Very Enlightening. What about your unique power to bless your surroundings on your birthday? The day of your creation may also be perceived as your personal opportunity to extend the blessing to anyone, anything or anywhere you want to spread your light.. every year. Reply

Anonymous July 17, 2007

My Birthday marks the end of Winter I discovered that according to the Jewish Calendar, my birthday, Teved 29 marks the end of Winter. That to me is significant.

I was interested to learn that according to the Jewish Seasons, there are six seasons. I presume you move from Winter to Seedtime. Reply

Sunny Murchison Pasadena, California via April 29, 2007

My Birthday April 8th, 1947 Shalom. What a wonderful birthday. I was born during Pesach and celebrated my birthday, again, during Pesach this year.

You are kind, Rabbi. Thanks for writing your stories and wisdom. Reply

David Baghdad, Iraq May 8, 2006

50 Years You have given my birthday a more intense meaning. Thank You, a very humbling experience. Reply

Anonymous Palm Harbor, FL/USA May 4, 2006

This Site I am so grateful to Young Israel Chabad for this wonderful site and for all I have learned from my association with them. THe JLI classes are interesting and informative. I think fate brought to this place to learn with Rabbi Shalom Adler. Reply

Todd Wiedenkeller New Paltz , NY January 6, 2006

Birthdays The Bible does not mention baths or purifiying baths, but historically baths were an important part of Jewish culture. So my question is: were Birthday's celebrated by Jews during the BCE time in History? Do you know if Josephus , Piny or Philo mention them in their writings? Reply

Pnina Hobart, Tasmania November 19, 2005

Jewish birthday I am a frequent user of your "Jewish Birthdays" on-line. It is one of the first things that I do for people coming to us to re-connect with their Jewishness. Somehow knowing their Jewish birthdays seems to give comfort and re-assurance to the 'newly' awakened soul that they were indeed Jewish from the very start and this Jewish birthdate seems to re-affirm that and form a pivotal point for their developing Jewish identiy.

I would love to hear from anyone about how they felt when they were told for the first time that they had ANOTHER birthday.

This year was a one-in-19 years happening for me: my Hebrew and Western calendar birthdates coincided last Tuesday 13th Cheshvan/15 November! Reply

Anonymous CA via March 18, 2005

re: the importance of celebrating bithdays

However, isn't the 13th birthday, particularly of a male, important, and celebrated as a Bar Mitzvah, or Bat Mitvah? Even though, of course, the Bar Mitzvah can be celebrated at any time AFTER the 13th bithday? Reply

Anonymous via October 4, 2004

birthdays Thank you for bringing my Hebrew birthday and my family's to my attention. How wonderful. Especially since G-d said in His wonderful Word, in Jeremiah 1:9, "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart..." Reply

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