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It's Not Easy To Be a Son

It's Not Easy To Be a Son


Try ignoring your wife for a week. She won't let you. Try ignoring your husband, your children, your friends — it's not possible. You depend on each other, your lives are intertwined.

Try ignoring your parents. Not only is it possible — it often feels right and necessary. After all, they let you do it. They encourage you to. They even seem to want you to.

For twenty years they tell you: "When you'll be older, you'll need to do this on your own"; and: "When you're all grown up, you'll do it your way." And if you don't, they're disappointed in you. "It's about time you stood on your own two feet," they say.

But when you don't do things their way, they get upset. It takes a while for us to figure out that our parents want us to lead independent lives and to make our own, independent choices, but they want us to independently choose to do things their way.

It's not easy to be a son.

"You are G‑d's children," says Moses to the people, after describing their difficult first forty years as a nation. It's not easy.

By Yanki Tauber; based on the teachings of the Rebbe.
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Judy Resnick Far Rockaway, NY January 6, 2010

Special Needs Children It's even harder when there are children who face special needs and challenges. Parents are constantly aware they won't live forever and that some advance planning must be made for the later years of the special-needs adult. Praise must be given to those organizations which have established residences, such as Ohel and Mishkan, where special-needs adults can live out their lives after their parents are gone. These residences are far better alternatives to the only choice of years ago, institutionalization. Reply

Eric S. Kingston CA September 25, 2005

Truth Our parents may seem hard on us for reasons we don't yet understand.
I recently saw a film where a father was in a detention camp, and his sons who had outwitted the soliders and had only each other now, came to the edge of the camp and spoke to their father through an iron fence.

The father said: "There were times when I was hard on you. Times I seemed to be unfair. Times when you even despised me, but now you understand." Reply

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