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All You Need is Love and a Model Airplane

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Question:

How do I know when I've met the right person? My friends say the main thing is that you are in love, and everything else will fall into place. Should I believe them?

Answer:

All you need to know about finding a partner in life you can learn from making model airplanes.

A common mistake when building a model airplane is to start by putting glue all over the parts. That just creates a mess. The wrong bits get stuck together, wings get stuck to the floor, windows stuck on your fingers. It only complicates things when you introduce the glue too early.

If you start by putting glue all over the parts... that just creates a mess The way to build a model airplane is to first organize the parts. Make sure the pieces fit together and nothing is missing. Then gradually apply the glue, and join the various parts, piece by piece, until it starts to take shape.

The parts may not fit perfectly at first. You may have to shave off some rough edges, or bend some parts into shape before they click. Minor imperfections can be overlooked--a dollop of glue can fix them up. With a bit of work it all fits together.

But if you find that there are parts missing, or they don't fit, then you don't have what it takes to make an airplane. You can't use glue to join mismatched pieces, and certainly not to replace missing parts. Don't even try--take it back to the store and get a carton that has the right parts.

Your relationship is a model airplane. You and your partner are the pieces, and love is the glue that sticks you together. Without the binding power of love, two individuals could never become one. But that power, like glue, is indiscriminate. It must be applied carefully, because it could stick just about anything together; you can love someone who is simply not for you.

By Aron Moss
Rabbi Aron Moss teaches Kabbalah, Talmud and practical Judaism in Sydney, Australia, and is a frequent contributor to Chabad.org.
Illustration by Dovid Taub. Dovid is the creator of the Itche Kadoozy Show.
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January 30, 2009
Love
While the idea of love is good, it has ramifications beyond what is mentioned in the article. As the Rabbis disussed long ago...

Pirkei Avot, Chapter 5:16. Any love that is dependent on something--when the thing ceases, the love also ceases. But a love that is not dependent on anything never ceases. What is [an example of] a love that is dependent on something? The love of Amnon for Tamar. And one that is not dependent on anything? The love of David and Jonathan.

(copied from Chabad's website)
Moshe David
Jerusalem, Israel
July 21, 2006
How do you know when someone is no it for you?
Anonymous
July 17, 2006
model airplanes and Bashert.....
and those of us whom have had too many mismatched models are growing weary of finding the right model...how about sending us some properly labelled boxes ....my Rabbi says that at my age group it is difficult or challenging as we come with baggage....nu and they dont ???.excuse me ..but if you have any gentle souls (with or without baggage) whom are also willing to take a chance on women with beautiful souls ...please advise us ...we are a few beautiful canadian women wishing to share our lives with wonderful souls whom ,when together ,will inspire our spirits to soar ....what say you Rabbi Moss ?and all our model airplane boxes have been sent back to the factory due to hidden defects....
have a Blessed day .....
the canadian gals
thank you for this inspiring analogy ......
Anonymous
montreal , canada
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