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Why Does G-d Create Severely Handicapped Babies?


Question:

A friend gave birth to a baby with a rare condition that has rendered her severely handicapped. She is not expected to live much past her tenth birthday. I just can't understand why G-d does that. If life has a purpose, what is the purpose of such a short and sad life?

Answer:

Every birth is a gamble. A soul enters the world innocent and pure. But it may not stay that way. This world is a maze of diverging pathways, both good and evil, and the choice is ours which way we go. Once a soul enters a body, it is free and therefore vulnerable to corruption. While acts of good elevate the soul, every act of evil makes a blemish on the soul.

Some souls are so lofty, it simply isn't worth the gamble. These souls are too precious to risk being compromised by life in a body. They are too high to come down to this world. But the other option, not to be sent down at all, to never reach this world, would mean that we would miss out on meeting these holy and lofty souls and hearing their message.

So these souls do come down. But in order to be protected from the potential evils of an earthly existence, they are sent down into a body that will not compromise their holiness. They enter this world in a form that is above sin, above evil. From a purely physical perspective we call them "disabled" or "handicapped"; from the perspective of the soul they are protected. They will never sin. Their sojourn in this world is often brief, and in terms of this world may seem sad. But they have retained their purity. And they have fulfilled their mission.

These special souls remind us that true love doesn't need a reason. We often love others for what they give us -- we love our children because they are cute, smart, and high achievers; we love our spouse for the pleasure and contentment they give us; we love our parents because they care for us. This is love, but it is not pure.

When a child is born that will never achieve worldly success, cannot provide the usual source of pride for her parents, all extraneous reasons to love her fall away and what's left is the purest love that there can be. These children are lovable not because of what they do for you, and not because of what they will one day become, but simply because they are.

These pure souls remind us what love should be. Only such a pure and holy soul can elicit such a pure and holy emotion. We can only stand in awe of them, and the parents and friends who care for them. And we can only thank them all, for giving us a glimpse of what true love really means.

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Posted: Nov 21, 2011
disablity
i gave birth to my gorgeous little boy in march of 1998, he was born severly disabled, and is the light of my life, life is hard at times, but I would not change my life for anything in this world, my son cannot talk and shows me so much love in other ways. I was given my son for a reason, considering I was told I could not ever have children...
Posted By maria mayo, Gloucester, Gloucestershire

Posted: Sep 13, 2011
Though I am not completely handicapped but still I am not physically fit. I wear very powerful contact lenses of power -25 without which i can't see anything clear. So I feel the pain of being blind. But one thing I must say to all my friends, make your life an example. If one part of your life is dark, then try to make another part so bright,
which can brighter the dark side. With my will power and God Almighty's strength I have completed my master degree in first class and now preparing for phd. So keep faith in God and in yourself.
Posted By Anonymous, bangalore, india

Posted: Dec 16, 2010
Disability
I was born with a severe disability, which is life long and causes me immense pain.

This however is normal to me. The advantage is that I can automatically identify suffering in others and assisting others makes me happy.

I do not see my life as tragic. I have purpose.
Posted By Anonymous, Leeds, UK

Posted: Dec 7, 2010
Does GOD create severly handicapped babies?
Consider the scripture from God's own words at Psalms 127:3 "... sons are an inheritance from the Lord, and the fruit of the womb is his reward". Ask yourself, would a loving God who created us in His image gave as a reward a handicapped baby as a reward? (Gen. 1: 26-28) Ask another question: Why are there handicapped persons in the world? The answer lies in Gods word the bible. This started in the very beginning with the first man & woman that disobeyed Gods law of obedience. If they had not disobeyed, we would have been perfect today and not have handicapped persons or anyone suffering with ailments.
Posted By Anonymous, Columbia, SC

Posted: Aug 31, 2010
Disabled in later life
I've become disabled over the last 15 years. When I'm out of the house, I must use a wheelchair as people panic when they see someone fall. But I have never asked "Why me?" I KNOW why! I smoked, ate improperly and broke every good health rule in the book. My question is WHY NOT ME?
I have zero self-pity; I do pity some folks, but not me. Following a massive stroke I was repeatedly told I'd never walk, talk or work again. "I" knew better and returned to work six months to the day I had the stroke.
Despite it all, I'm HAPPY most of the time because after I say modeh and shema in the morning I say out loud, "I want to have a great day and help others have one too."
Happiness is between the ears. My new doctor told me once, "You are one of the sickest people I know of, but you're also one of the happiest people I know." I'm heading to the hospital sometime this week for carotid artery surgery and the surgeon can't understand why I'm not worried. What? ME WORRY?
Posted By Beverly Kurtin, Hurst, TX

Posted: June 2, 2010
Living & Continuously Suffering with a Disability
This article really touched me. I, myself, was actually born what I would consider severely disabled. Some of my struggles are a musculoskeletal disease, being confined to a wheelchair, having a weak body, having speech impediment, and having severe breathing issues, which greatly effect my quality of life. My whole life has been a blur of hospitals, doctors, operations, and the heartache of having to accept a completely different life than the average. I've wondered why God would allow some people to be disabled and be born to suffer for their whole lives while others get to live their life sometimes without much of a care in the world.

This was definitely very creative with the reasoning and just absolutely beautiful. I have such a hard time seeing the good in things, but this really actually had logic to it and touched my heart.

Since I haven't died yet, and am 25 years old, I was wondering what the purpose is for someone who is born disabled and continues to suffer.
Posted By Alisha, Albemarle

Posted: May 21, 2010
this thread still hits me like a kick in the gut every time i read it....both my babies are right in front of me and i'm grateful for both of them even if they get the best of me sometimes...
Posted By b. cooper, meriden, c.t.

Posted: May 10, 2010
every day people!!!! Forgive them.
most people will never have the blessings of having a handicapped person in their families or even have the chance to care for some one with such a disability.

g-d gives in one hand and takes in another for a reason. In our words the person with a disability has more from g-d than everyday people and us who have the fortune to care for such alike, and are given gifts beyond most's comprehension... unconditional love on both sides, what a blessing... they teach us so much about ourselves and how to receive love and affection without any catches... we're the fortunate people of the world. we must teach others this for their own sake. after all, what is normal? society is in ruins.
Posted By Anonymous, county kilkenny, kilkenny. eire

Posted: May 8, 2010
Severely Handicapped Babies
My first grandchild - a little girl born 2 days ago has persistent chloaca- a very rare (1 in 40 000) condition. At 3 days old she has just had a colostomy and will probably have it for the rest of her life. The doctors say she will never be continent and never be able to have children herself. I'm finding it very, very hard to keep my faith and although your article makes sense in the reading, it does not bring me any comfort. Why, why, why. And why my daughter who was so excited about becoming a Mom. The beautiful cot stands empty, the pram chosen with such care lies folded up in the nursery, the mobile hangs silently above the empty cot because they are living at a hospital 150 miles away. When will they be able to come home - who knows?
Posted By Carol MacDonald, Launceston, UK

Posted: Jan 9, 2010
My Fifty Years ...
I have had a severe disability since I was five years old. Confined to a wheelchair since the age of ten. I have much experience on this subject from the receiving end perspective.

I was able to get a good education, and have a prosperous career for thirty years, but the abuse I have received from society, and continue to receive makes believing I have a "lofty soul" difficult at best.

The main point in my life that I have learned is that love for me is 'pure' love. Everything that makes people love each other, in most cases, has been taken from me. So, what is left for someone to love, and why? The only explanation that I can arrive at in my fifty years is that it is 'divine' in nature. It is pure love that makes my loved ones care for me.

But, sadly, love is not enough. In fact it is far down the list of human emotions. Does the girl I love love me? Yes. Will we ever be together? No. Love can't conquer earthly emotions and needs.

I love you, aLicia...
Posted By aL Masters, Plano, TX



 


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