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The Breaking of the Glass

The Breaking of the Glass


The end of the public wedding ceremony is marked by the breaking of a glass, usually a thin glass wrapped in a napkin to contain the fragments. It is smashed under foot by the groom after the seven benedictions, or after the rabbi’s address if it follows the benedictions. Some customs placed it after the betrothals, but our western tradition is to perform it at the very end.

Ancient custom designated that one of the wine cups be broken, although there was a difference of opinion as to which of the two wine cups. Maharil held that it was the nuptials cups, because the breaking immediately followed the nuptial blessings. Rema and most others held that it was the betrothal cup, and for good reason: Breaking the nuptials cup, over which the seven benedictions were recited, is a gross symbol when great concern at this moment is for making the marriage, not breaking it. However, once the nuptials are recited the betrothal has been accomplished, and the breaking of that cup signifies that the nuptials have been satisfactorily completed. The author of Match Moshe held that it may be any glass at all. Originally, the blessing was recited over a glass cup which was then smashed. But when silver cups began to be used, any other glass was used for breaking. One commentator held that smashing either of the wine glasses was not an auspicious sign and that another glass should be used.

The general custom that prevails today at traditional weddings is the use of a prepared glass or bulb. However, this robs the ceremony of its historic beauty and significance. Therefore, it is preferable to use a glass goblet for the betrothals and a silver kiddush cup for the nuptials. Immediately after the seven benedictions, the rabbi can pour the remaining wine from the glass into a prepared bowl, wrap it in a cloth napkin and have the groom place it on the floor and crush it.

Some rabbis were bothered by the problem of bal tashchit, the formidable principle of not wasting material needlessly, and also of bizayon kos shel berakhah, the "shaming" of the "cup of blessing" by smashing it. But the response was that it is neither waste or shame because the very breaking conveys important moral ideals. What are these ideals?

First, we should note that much has been written on the mythology and also the psychology of the ceremony. Some of the scholarship is erudite, some is trivial popularizing, and little of it is of immediate relevance to the theme of this book. Many scholars find the roots of every Jewish observance or idea in an alien theology or primitive rite. We are concerned here with the symbol as it lives today, and the significance we can derive from its practice.

The source for the custom is related in the Talmud. Mar, son of Ravina, made a wedding feast for his son, and when he noticed that some of the rabbis became boisterous in their joy, he brought a precious cup worth four hundred zuz, and smashed it before them. This quieted them down immediately. Rabbi Ashi also made a wedding feast for his son, and when he noticed that the rabbis were boisterous, he brought a cup of white glass and smashed it before them and immediately they sobered. Rashi said the breaking was of a white wine cup and that only that kind of glass could be used for the ceremonial breaking; the Tosafists derived from this the prevalent custom of breaking any glass utensil at every wedding service.

What is the reason? From the Talmud it would appear that breaking the glass served to engender sobriety and balanced behavior. Psalms 2:11 says, "Serve the Lord with fear, and rejoice with trembling". Rabbi Ada ben Matanah, interpreted in Rabbah’s name: Bime’kom gilah, sham te’hei re’adah, "Where there is rejoicing, there should be trembling." A wedding should not be sheer undisciplined merriment, and the breaking of expensive glass stunned the guests into tempering their gaiety. The ceremony serves, then, to moralize pleasure and attain tempered emotions.

In the fourteenth century, the author of Kol Bo offered another explanation. The broken glass represents the wreckage of our past glory, and the destruction of the ancient Temple in Jerusalem in the first century. It recalls, at the most joyous and momentous occasion of the life cycle, that there is a continuing national sadness. It is a memory of Zion that stands as a reminder that in life great joy can be cancelled by sudden grief. It enriches the quality of joy by making it more thoughtful and by inspiring gratitude for the goodness of G‑d.

It is customary to recite the following words when breaking the glass: "If I forget Thee, O Jerusalem, may my right hand fail... at the height of my joy." Sephardic Jews, and also many of Ashkenazic descent, recite this phrase at the performance of an analogous custom during the wedding, the placing of a bit of ash on the groom’s forehead. This sign of mourning is placed at the site of the tefillin—the ash of bereavement (efer), in place of the glory which signifies tefillin (pe’er).

Perhaps a deeper significance can be realized if, as the groom’s action recalls the demolished house of G‑d, the now-married couple takes it as an obligation upon themselves to rebuild the Temple in their own lives by building their own Jewish home, as every synagogue is a mikdash meat, a miniature temple. The Sages say that all that is left of the Temple today are dalet amot shel Halakhah, (the four ells of Torah law). If the home we build will house the spirit and practice of these four ells, we will have contributed to the rebuilding of the Temple in our own way and in our own homes.

How unfortunate it is, therefore, that the phrase of Jerusalem’s destruction is rarely recited and, instead, a chorus of mazal tov’s greets the breaking of the glass. If the reason for the glass breaking is to temper joy, this is surely inappropriate; if the reason is to recall a national tragedy, it is vulgar. Often not only is a joyous mazal tov sounded, but a licentious sneer that it is a "good sign" if the glass is smashed at the first try. This elicits gross comments regarding the groom’s prowess. The late Sephardic Chief Rabbi of Israel, Ben Zion Ouziel, wished that he could have abolished the custom for this very reason. In fairness, however, it should be noted that the mazal tov is not so much in response to the breaking of the glass, as it is to the end of the ceremony. In any case, it would be less than responsible to eliminate a millennial tradition because of some people’s untutored reaction to it. Perhaps we should reinstitute the reference to Jerusalem and move the glass breaking back to the middle of the wedding ceremony.

The two fundamental reasons lead us to another insight derived from this ceremony—the magnificent, sensitive balance within Judaism that testifies to its rich maturity and to its suitability to the whole range of human emotions. It connects the private moment under the chuppah with the public national event of the Temple, the ancient past with thoughts of a long future, heady joy with a tragedy bewailed for nineteen hundred years. The breaking of a glass at the symbolic moment that celebrates making a new home, is also reminiscent of the Talmud’s assertion that "joining two people in marriage is as difficult as splitting the sea."

Through the ages, other homilies were derived from the ceremony. Tzafenat Pa’neah suggests the hope that the breach in the relation between G‑d and Israel caused by the Temple’s destruction will be repaired just as a broken glass can be repaired by melting under the glazier’s fire. G‑d’s marriage with the Jewish people will be unbroken, as will the marriage of these children of G‑d to one another.

Rabbi Bachya traces this custom, as so many other marriage customs, to the revelation on Sinai. What joy is greater than the wedding, in the private lives of this bride and groom? What joy is greater in the religious lives of the people Israel than the simchat Torah, the exquisite moment at Sinai? At Sinai, there was the tragic breaking of the tablets of the commandments at the foot of the mountain; at the wedding simchah there is a symbolic breaking of the glass under foot. Every new family helps repair the breach at Sinai—the breaking, in joy, at every wedding overcomes the breaking of the tablets.

Contemporary preachers have suggested new meanings for this closing ceremony. The fasting in repentance before the wedding and the purification from the stains of the past in the mikveh is symbolized in the crushing of the glass, which represents a final, dramatic breaking with the past. A full life is the cup from which we drink. It is a "cup of blessing," one which we use to celebrate Sabbaths and festivals. A life that is filled to the brim with meaning is the life for which we strive.

The Jewish Way in Love & Marriage by Rabbi Maurice Lamm. To purchase the book click here.
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David Marwil Lexington Ky October 16, 2016

The breaking of the wedding glass has been viewed by the sages as a destructive process, but why not view it as something creative? When opening a gift, the wrapping must be torn away to allow the reward inside to become manifest. When the universe came into being, the veil between this world and the world beyond had to be breached. And so, when the wedding glass is broken, the process of uniting two souls into the image of God begins. Reply

Anonymous maryland July 21, 2014

What happens to the broken glass after the ceremony? Reply

Anonymous Chicago October 5, 2013

Using a light bulb To answer a previous question, I have often seen a light bulb wrapped in a white cloth used instead of a wine glass. Much easier to break. Reply

Anonymous August 20, 2013

i appreciate the commentary, however this did not answer my more practical question of where to get a glass thin enough to make it easy to break. Reply

Anonymous August 18, 2013

lost cup This weekend we were at a friends wedding and they broke the cup at the end of the ceremony. However, the cup in the bag was lost in the transfer to the bride and groom's room. Is there some way that it can be replaced? What would we purchase and do you feel like the rabbi that blessed their wedding would help us in this matter? Please do not post this as it is a very hurtful situation already. Thank you Reply

Anonymous August 12, 2013

wedding glass to step on i cannot find a glass that is thin enough to step on so that it will break easily. do you know where i can get one? should it be an actual wine glass or is any shape appropriate? Reply

Susie Lazega Atlanta, GA October 22, 2010

thank you This was very informative and helpful. I did not know all of this when I got married, but this detailed article is great for adding meaning to my sacred object for an adult B'nai Mitzvah class. Reply

Justin Simon Manhattan, KS September 16, 2010

In all four Jewish weddings that I have been to, an additional meaning was ascribed; that then couple's love should last as long as it would take to reassemble the glass that had been ground underfoot (hopefully it had been ground well and not into just a few pieces). Is this tradition, or more recent? Reply

Menachem Posner for July 14, 2009

RE: pls confirm While the saying of vows per se is not part of the traditional Jewish wedding, it is true that the cup over which the seven blessings were recited and the bride and groom drank from is often the same one which is crushed underfoot by the groom. Reply

Eileen Zonin East Brunswick, NJ July 13, 2009

pls confirm At wedding ceremony, bride and groom say their vows, drink from the cup and then place cup in napkin and groom smashes it. Is this correct? Reply

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