Contact Us

The Basics of the Jewish Funeral

The Basics of the Jewish Funeral

The taharah, funeral and burial


"Earth you are, and to earth you will return," were G‑d's words to Adam, the first human being (Genesis 3:19). In the words of King Solomon, "And the earth returns to the land as it was, and the spirit returns to G‑d, who gave it" (Ecclesiastes 12:7). The next stage in the continuing saga of a human life is that the body should return to the earth, the source of all physical life, and be reunited with it, just as the soul returns to its divine root.

Indeed, these two "returns" are coupled. The earth is the source of physical life because G‑d's essence resides within it in a deeply hidden but profoundly real way. The natural decomposition of the body into the earth allows the expeditious return of the soul to its source.

It is therefore of utmost importance to preserve the integrity of the body, and to allow the burial to occur as soon as possible. The in-between state is most difficult for the soul, as it has no body with which to relate to our world, and neither is it free of its tenuous bonds to our world to see things from the purely spiritual perspective. The body's "returning to the earth" is directly commensurate with the soul's ability to return to the supernal Source from which it is drawn.

Interment in the earth is also integral to the process of the techiat ha-meitim, the future resurrection of the dead. As the first human being was initially formed from the earth, so, too, when the dead are brought back to life in the World to Come, their bodies will be re-formed from the earth in which they have been interred.

Two important steps precede the actual burial: a) the Taharah ("purification"); b) the funeral (called the Levayah).

The Taharah is a ritual cleansing process in which the body is cleaned and groomed, and water is ritually poured over it. In life, water is the source of all our nourishment; spiritually, too, water also has this unique property. At various stages in our lifetime (e.g., before marriage, after giving birth), we immerse in a mikveh to achieve ritual purity; so, too, is the body ritually purified in preparation for this next phase of its existence. With the taharah we acknowledge with dignity the life that resonated within this body and still leaves its trace on it —forever. After the purification, the deceased is dressed in special white clothes (called tachrichim), signifying purity and holiness.

On the most basic level, the Levayah ("accompaniment"--the funeral procession), in which we accompany the body to its resting place, is a show of respect to the deceased. The Hebrew word levayah also indicates "joining" and "bonding." Even as we mourn a soul's departure from manifest connection with our own physical existence, we understand that what binds our souls together—the fundamental Divine essence that all souls share—is far more powerful than the changes wrought by death. We and the deceased remain bonded—living souls all. By participating in the levayah we provide comfort to the soul as it undergoes this very difficult transition from one life to another, as the presence of our souls emphasizes the bonds that transcend this change.

I. Preparing the Body and Making the Funeral Arrangements:

  1. The Jewish Way—Interment in the Earth. Jewish law is unequivocal in its insistence that the body, in its entirety, be returned to the earth, in a way that allows for the natural process of its decomposition and re-integration with its primordial source—the soil of which it was formed. It also insists that in the interim between death and interment, the integrity and dignity of the body be respected and preserved. Thus Torah law forbids embalming the body (which involves disposing much of the body's innards and "re-making" its hollowed-out shell), displaying it (a vulgar affront to its dignity and privacy) or cremating it (which prematurely and violently destroys it). Autopsies, which violate the body's integrity and almost always result in parts of it not achieving proper burial, are likewise forbidden, except in extreme circumstances (a qualified rabbi should be consulted in such cases).

  2. The Chevra Kadisha. Every Jewish community has a Chevra Kadishah--lit., "Holy Society"--of dedicated men and women who are committed to ensuring that every Jew who passes on is accorded a proper Jewish burial. The preparation and interment of the body should be entrusted to the local Chevra Kadishah. They will conduct the Taharah (cleansing of the body), dress the deceased in the tachrichim, and otherwise ensure that the burial is conducted in accordance with Jewish tradition.

  3. Jewish Burial. A Jew should be buried only among fellow Jews, in a Jewish cemetery. Jewish tradition regards it as a matter of great importance that only fellow Jews should handle the body of a deceased Jew, carry (or wheel) the casket, place the casket in the earth and fill in the grave. Every possible effort should be made that this indeed be the case.

II. Basic Components of the Funeral Service:

  1. Rending of the Garments ("Keriah"). First-degree relatives (i.e., the children, siblings, spouse and parents of the deceased) are obligated to express their pain and sorrow by tearing their clothes over their hearts. This is usually done at the beginning of the funeral service. (Alternatively, some communities have the custom to perform the keriah immediately following the death, or upon the interment in the grave.)

  2. The Eulogy ("Hesped") involves: a) speaking of the good that the deceased was and did, so we should feel the extent of our loss; and b) "let the living take to heart" (Ecclesiastes 7:2)--the lessons we should learn from the deceased and emulate in our lives. These words may be spoken by the officiating rabbi and/or anyone who knew the person.

  3. Escorting the Deceased ("Lavayah"). Traditionally the coffin or bier was carried on the shoulders all the way to the cemetery. The family and community would follow in a procession to accord honor and comfort to the deceased. Nowadays, the long distance to burial places usually precludes this, but it is still important to walk behind the coffin some distance—either before the hearse leaves for the cemetery, or at the cemetery when the coffin is carried from the hearse to the gravesite—thereby fulfilling the important mitzvah of halvayat ha-met, "escorting the deceased."

  4. The Burial ("Kevurah"). We return the body to the earth that is its source. This is our final act of caring, and it is considered a great mitzvah to physically participate in the burial. Ideally, the whole grave should be filled in, by hand, by fellow Jews. Where this is not possible, at least the coffin should be completely covered with earth. At this point, Tzidduk Hadin is recited—a series of verses acknowledging G‑d's just ways even as we confront tragedy. We then recite the Kaddish and the El Malei Rachamim memorial prayer. (Click here for the texts of Tzidduk Hadin, the Kaddish and El Malei Rachamim)

  5. Comforting the Mourners. We begin the mourning process and the extending of comfort to the mourners immediately after the burial, while still in the cemetery. Those attending the burial form two parallel lines, and the mourners, who by now have removed their leather shoes, pass through this embracing community. Those standing in the lines speak the traditional words of comfort: Hamakom yenacheim etchem betoch shaar avelei tziyon v'yerushalayim--"May the Almighty comfort you among all the other mourners of Zion and Jerusalem." The mourning then moves to the locale that is chosen for the seven day Shivah mourning period. (The further stages of mourning are discussed in the following section, Shivah and Mourning)

© Copyright, all rights reserved. If you enjoyed this article, we encourage you to distribute it further, provided that you comply with's copyright policy.
Join the Discussion
Sort By:
1000 characters remaining
Anonymous December 5, 2017

My father, z”l, a lapsed Jew, passed away 4 years ago. Per his request, he was cremated. My two siblings want to separate and scatter his ashes. I have since become more observant in my roots, and would prefer to bury his remains in haEretz. He lived his last decade as a secular Jew in Israel before moving back to the states when getting sick. Obviously, cremation is forbidden. But what’s done is done. What do you suggest as a final and proper way to honor to my father’s remains? Thank you. Reply

Sharon Maryland June 19, 2017

What about above ground burial, such as a community mausoleum? Reply

Simcha Bart for June 19, 2017
in response to Sharon:

Jewish law only allows burial in the earth. Thus, above ground vaults or mausoleums would not be allowed. Please see here, the section entitled Mausoleums and Concrete Vaults for more on this topic. Reply

Anonymous New Jersey October 24, 2013

after cremation My parents were both cremated (their wishes). As Baal Teshuva, this troubles me. Is there any way I can repair the damage on their behalf? Reply

Yehuda Shurpin for September 2, 2013

Re: National Cemetery While it is understandable to want to be buried in the national cemetery, unfortunately beyond the issue of what type of cemetery it is (which is indeed an issue), there are other aspects of burial in Jewish laws that are almost impossible to keep when being buried in a national cemetery. One can, however, incorporate various military customs into a traditional Jewish burial. Reply

Frank Ujfalusi Newtown, Pa August 30, 2013

National Cemetery As a Veteran and a Jew, does National Cemetery qualify as "Jewish" for purposes of burial? Can it be deemed so in this specific case ? Reply

Chana Moriah Long Beach, California November 9, 2012

My Rabbi's views on Cremation My rabbi says that we shouldn't be cremated because we were put in the ovens in Auschwitz, etc. At least that is ONE of the reasons that we Jews shouldn't be cremated. I totally agree with my rabbi. The Torah seems to teach quick burial. We should stick to the Torah. To A. heart is with you. Blessings to you. Reply

iriscutforth toronto, on July 5, 2012

Cremation Everything inside me says no to cremation. There is no explanation. The bones of Joseph were carried to Israel before Israel had a name. The North American aboriginals put the bodies out (old time) for the birds to eat away the flesh & bury the bones. Many early California aboriginals had a Jewish dna gene which may account for the fringe on their coats. My husband, said he is not a Jew but his brothers and sister have Jewish faces and Jews identify them as Jews. They are from Ireland and the Irish are mainly French Jews...right even though they are Catholic? My husband wants to be cremated. I have a plan. I will build the coffin and steal the body. God created Adam without bone & flesh. Cremation is id with Gehenna... so final. Let's remove the flesh & keep the bones. Archaelogists dig down hundreds of feet to old Jewish sites and what's the big deal I don't like cremation. Wasn't it Josiah that burnt the bones of apostates? It is a mental conditioning. Reply

Yohan Pollock Pines, CA May 4, 2012

Burial Do I have to be embalmed and buried in a casket? Prior to a recent surgery, I filled out a form so my family would know my wishes should I have passed during the procedure. Baruch Hashem, I am here, and grateful. But my family and the staff at the hospital couldn't understand why I feel it necessary for this entire creation of G_d to decompose like all Creation, naturally, and as my soul soars to Heaven my physical body will return to the earth and provide organic matter for future Creation. I know it would please me to possibly be the source of nutrients for a grove of Redwood trees, ferns and wildflowers. Most importantly though, would my wants and needs be pleasing to G_d? Reply

Andrea Schonberger University Place, WA via April 17, 2011

No funeral I'm OK with being buried in accordance to Jewish tradition, but do I have to have a full-blown funeral with mourners and the meal afterwards? Is it enough to just have the Rabbi there? Reply

Hope Montreal, Canada February 2, 2010

laws surrounding no body found What happens if the body cannot be found? Example; buried and under rubble in an earthquake and cannot be found? What is the process with Shiva etc..? Reply

ed dale bisbee, az. August 27, 2009

no ashes ashes to ashes dust to dust
from dust thou created and to dust you shall return .
ashes are not dust. whe ashes decopose they are still ashes [carbon] Reply

Brittney Kersten, 17 Whyalla, South Australia August 10, 2009

to A. Leibowitz i want to express my condolences,
that is such a sad story. i hope all is well with you... Reply

DARK_F1GHT3R Sydney, NSW March 24, 2009

Cremated it is forbidden to cremate someone in jewish society because the person must be buried whole. so that when they go to heaven that they are whole in boy and mind. Reply

Anonymous Nelson, New Zealand January 19, 2009

Funeral & ???? It's commonly believed that we must return to earth by burial. BUT what's to stop a Jew from being cremated ?
I read somewhere last year, I think in the New York Times, that Israel permits cremation of Jews. Is this correct ?
Why could I, as a Jew not be cremated ? Reply

A Leibowitz flushing, NY June 22, 2008

loss of 2 siblings (3 weeks apart) My sister died on 2/13/2008. My 42 year old brother was dying and we did not realize it. He passed on3/8/2008. The Sabbath. I have been told that this has a greater meaning. I miss him very much. Thirteen years age difference. Sometimes I wish I was with him on the other side. G-d took away 2 wonderful souls. My sister was a good mother and grandmother. Me, I did not have children. I feel like Job. The Holy Days are coming; who shall be written in the Book of Life. I guess their names were written and then X out. Reply

Judy via March 19, 2007

Answers Lots of answers to questions you ask Reply

Anonymous woodland, calif. August 11, 2006

Death Found your words on death conforting and wish to thank you for giving me the warm feelings that even in the after, G-d will not forget who I was..... Reply

More in this section
Related Topics

Introduction: Dealing with Death; The Jewish Approach
Life to Life Library


Yahrtzeit Calculator