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Day Six of Week 6: Yesod of Yesod

Day Six of Week 6: Yesod of Yesod

41st Day of the Omer


Examine the bonding aspect of bonding. The forms it takes and its level of expression. Every person needs and has the capacity to bond with other people, with significant undertakings and with meaningful experiences.

Do I have difficulty bonding? Is the difficulty in all areas or only in certain ones? Do I bond easily with my job, but have trouble bonding with people? Or vice versa? Do I have problems bonding with special events in my life? Examine the reasons for not bonding. Is it because I am too critical and find fault in everything as an excuse for not bonding? Am I too locked in my own ways? Is my not bonding a result of discomfort with vulnerability? Have I been hurt in my past bonding experiences? Has my trust been abused? Is my fear of bonding a result of the deficient bonding I experienced as a child? To cultivate your capacity to bond, even if you have valid reasons to distrust, you must remember that G‑d gave you a Divine soul that is nurturing and loving and you must learn to recognize the voice within, which will allow you to experience other people's souls and hearts. Then you can slowly drop your defenses when you recognize someone or something you can truly trust.

For bonding to be possible it must embody the other six aspects of bonding. Successful bonding must also include actualizing the bond in constructive deeds.

One additional point: Bonding breeds bonding. When you bond in one area of your life, it helps you bond in other areas.

Exercise for the day: Begin bonding with a new person or experience you love by committing designated time each day or week to spend together constructively.

From A Spiritual Guide to the Omer by Simon Jacobson
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jim dallas May 21, 2017

i'll do all that and give it a shot, thanks! Reply

Eleanor Skibo Pennsylvania May 21, 2017

There is no greater gift in the world than to give love to another person! When you give love you get love back triple fold. And even if love doesn't come in the same form as you gave it you still will be blessed. I greet everyday with a smile on my face, love and forgiveness in my heart, and out stretched arms for those who need a hug or just a pat on the back. I've been hurt, sometimes even stepped on and wanted to run far away, but you must learn to trust, love, and forgive again and again. God Bless Everyone Of You! Reply

Marvin Finkelstein Kew Gardens Hills, Queens June 3, 2016

Internet - way to lose all bonds with work and reality in less than one nanosecond These days there are many things on the Internet that are extremely emotionally charged and one can get lost in replies, links, and complaining about the inappropriate content on the on line media outlet.

Though, knowledge is extremely important, it is like one has left their office and taken the subway to one's favorite store and got lost there.

After less than two minutes, one can experience the point of no return.

This is so apropos of my Bar Mitzvah Shabbat which was Shabat Shuvah. Back at the time that Haftorah was written there wasn't any Internet, but the message is still clear, return to reality and the Torat Emet. Reply

Johnie Kemp San Antonio, texas May 5, 2013

Bonding Oh, I wish you ll the best, Casey, in your new life providing life saving skills to people in need.

I live pretty much a shutin due to crippling arthritis in my spine. But I have a longing to bond with friends and broaden the fields of my life. Surely I can do that in spite of my infirmities. Chabad articles are so helpful and inspirational to me. Any advice would be appreciated. My main problems are inconsistencies of times I can do anything due to illness and lack of transportation when I can. My children, with whom I live, work all day and they are my chauffeurs as well. But there is only so much they can do and work and make a living.
Thank you and God bless. Reply

Casey Reppas Phoenix May 5, 2013

Begin bonding wth a new person. ... How I wish I could.. My boyfriend died of cancer two years ago. His dying wish was that I be with him always, and graduate from college. Next Friday I will do just that. alone, but when I stand on the stage and accept my diploma, I will know that he is there with me. You all are invited also. I would love to have a large group there to see this dream of mine come true. We then would be able to bond together with G-d as his children. As it was done in the old days. I have no family here. But I know G-d is always with us. and So is my David. I do make the most each day with a mitzvah of love to someone I just meet. someone who needs encouragement, a hug, a friendly word. That is G-D working at his best through us.Next Friday night 700pm MCC campus. See you there. :) I will be receiving 3 degrees. Emergency and Disaster Management, Administration of Justice, and a degree in Physical Therapy. with Honors. If you need to see the power of God working through Bonding. Come to Graduation. Reply

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