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Day Six of Week 3: Yesod of Tiferet

Day Six of Week 3: Yesod of Tiferet

20th Day of the Omer


For compassion to be fully realized, it needs bonding. It requires creating a channel between giver and receiver. A mutuality that extends beyond the moment of need. A bond that continues to live on. That is the most gratifying result of true compassion. Do you bond with the one you have compassion for, or do you remain apart? Does your interaction achieve anything beyond a single act of sympathy?

Exercise for the day: Ensure that something eternal is built as a result of your compassion.

From A Spiritual Guide to the Omer by Simon Jacobson
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Tziporah Israel April 30, 2017

I appreciate your focus on making the compassion and connection ongoing. Often people talk without the walk; they just give lip service and not committed action. The result is negligible. What you are suggesting has the capability of making a permanent change for the better in a person's world. Bond with one person; (its as if) you changed the world. That is what happened to me when I was paired with a partner from Partners in Torah in 2001. We are still going strong in learning and in friendship. Reply

Connie Horner usa April 30, 2017

thank you for the omer reminder, it really helps me keep my focus Reply

Lamont Myers Hallendale Fl. May 13, 2016

Bonding in harmony When love is the intention, bonding in harmony is just natural. Reply

JT May 12, 2016

to terrie Praying certainly works to sustain the compassion when actions can't.

Telling them that you're praying might be a bad idea, though. Just do it. I even heard about one study saying people who are ill who know someone is praying for them statistically fare worse.

(Visiting the sick is not the same thing as telling them you're praying for actually walk in, connect with them, help them, shows the truth of someone doing what he can.

But no individual person can always be there, and to be honest the visitee probably don't always want him we can pray with words too, to fill the gaps. :D ) Reply

Anonymous Mi May 12, 2016

Thank you for your perspective Reply

terrie Bend Oregon April 24, 2015

My wuestion too Praying for them daily? Telling them you are bringing them before the Heavenly Father in prayer is one way I bond with people I've met and will never meet. Shalom. Reply

Donna Israel April 23, 2015

Thank you for such wondrous insight . What would be eternal and how? Reply

Anonymous Forest Hills April 14, 2013

Would you please give an example of bonding with a person and not their circumstances? Hello,

Thank you for your insightful post, and the response from the anonymous person about bonding with the person and not the circumstances. Would you give an example of bonding with a person and not their circumstances? Reply

BA Kress Austin, Texas April 26, 2012

Very Important Insight Striving for the eternal in our compassion for and with the other is foundational to Jewish living.

This is a lovely way to express the Yesod of Tiferet. Thank you! Reply

Anonymous Teaneck, NJ May 10, 2011

still - how? How do you bond with the person? what about the person should you focus on in order to help you bond with them? Reply

Anonymous miami, fl May 8, 2011

How! Dear NJ friend,
You stated the answer in your question.
Bond with the human being not their circumstances.
If you can't relate to or bond with the suffering, that's fine. Hopefully the pain will pass . Keep your focus on the person, not the pain.
May G-d quickly heal the wounds of all His children. Amen! Reply

Anonymous Teaneck, NJ May 8, 2011

how? Sometimes, it's too hard to really bond with a person that you're helping because the person is in so much pain that if you would really focus on their pain, it would be too unbearable. Any suggestions? Reply

rivka michelle kahn toronto, ON April 28, 2009

spiritual guide to the OMER rivka michelle kahn from toronto writing. I have owned this magnificent book/tool for many years and have found it an invaluable companion for my family, friends and myself. thank you dear rav jacobson for sharing your incredible wisdom. G-d bless, Reply

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