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My Husband Watches Too Much Sports

My Husband Watches Too Much Sports

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Question:

My husband is quickly losing his faith in G‑d because his favorite sports team is not winning. Every time his team loses, he loses more of his faith. How can I help him to look at it differently, and how can I convince him not to watch so much sports?

Answer:

HowMy husband is quickly losing his faith in G‑d about telling him this: It is not a rational reaction to lose faith because your team is losing. Rather than switch beliefs, it would make more sense to switch teams.

After all, surely fans on both sides of any game are praying for their team to win. Only one of those prayers can be answered affirmatively. If your team is losing, it doesn't mean G‑d isn't there, just maybe He is on the other side. So if G‑d is with them, shouldn't you be too?

Of course this argument will have absolutely no effect on him. I can't imagine a real sports fan exchanging loyalties just because his team keeps losing. Well, that's what having faith means. No matter what happens, we only have one G‑d, and we stick with Him. In fact, the very word for faith in Hebrew is emunah, which actually means “loyalty.” Just like a fan never switches sides no matter what, a believer is loyal to G‑d, come what may.

In aHe needs to maintain perspective way, it is wonderful that the biggest tragedy in his life is that his team is losing. May it always be that way. But he needs to maintain perspective and disentangle his faith from his fanhood. Sports is recreation, diversion, relaxation, entertainment. If it is bringing such angst and frustration into his life, it is not serving its purpose. Sport is about playing, not praying.

I don't know if you will succeed in convincing him to watch less sports. But maybe he can become less invested in them. His emotional and spiritual energies should be saved for his real team, the team that truly needs him—his family, his community, his people and his G‑d.

Aron Moss is rabbi of the Nefesh Community in Sydney, Australia, and is a frequent contributor to Chabad.org.
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Steve Finson West haven,CT March 16, 2015

remind him, like I try to do myself, to remember that the players on the lousy team collect their multi-million dollar paycheck while we sit and lament why we sat and watched so long.However, i don't lose faith; i just look in my wallet and try to put in perspective.Also,however, -if only it was that easy! Reply

Josef Burlington, Vermont March 15, 2015

Associations Very simple, read with him Proverbs, one chapter a day, every morning will take about 25 to 30 minutes of reading and maybe some time more on discussing it, serve coffee, some "Panera Bread", do it for 31 days, then start all over again, after that second round try reading the Tanya. He will have a different approach to sports. It happen with me.

Shalom Aleichem Reply

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