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Heroism in Sandy Hook

Heroism in Sandy Hook

What it means to be a teacher


Every morning we drop our children off at school hoping their teachers will connect to them, educate them and inspire them. We do not expect them to save their lives.

I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face as the names are released of the six- and seven-year-olds, along with their teachers, who were brutally gunned down in their own school.

The terror is unimaginable. The grief unbearable.

The terror is unimaginable. The grief unbearable

But I refuse to let the pain paralyze me. I refuse to let the horror be what I take from this. I can’t. I won’t. I need to focus on the heroism. The inherent goodness within each and every one of those teachers. Their focus, their love, their passion, their dedication, their sacrifice.

There is a famous quote that teachers teach more by who they are than by what they teach. Teaching is not a job that begins at 9:00 AM and ends at 4:00. Being a teacher does not come with breaks. Being a teacher is not what you do, but who you are.

Sandy Hook had real teachers.

As the reports pour in, it is clear that in the midst of insanity, these men and women created a haven of calm, safety and love. We learned the devastating news that the school’s beloved principal was murdered as she lunged towards the gunman, hoping to stop him. There was the teacher who kept telling her students she loved them in case it was the last thing they heard, and the teacher who was shot and killed after hiding her students and telling the gunman that her kids were in the gym. Their acts of bravery and heroism are remarkable.

These teachers knew their lives were in danger. They must have been absolutely terrified. But they didn’t show it. They didn’t break. They didn’t make a run for it hoping to save themselves. They put their fear on hold and did whatever they needed to do to provide these children with the environment they needed. And undoubtedly, their actions and their heroism will help the healing process tremendously for these children.

There was the teacher who kept telling her students she loved them in case it was the last thing they heard

The staff at Sandy Hook taught me what it means to live a dedicated life. What it means to truly be an educator. And we are all educators. In different ways, in different relationships; everyone teaches in some aspect of his or her life. The question is, when we teach, are we giving over material, facts, and ideas, or are we giving over ourselves? Are we engaging with the one who is learning from us? Do we care about that individual? Do we focus on his or her unique needs? Are we truly dedicated?

I don’t want to focus on how these educators lost their lives, but on how they lived them. I want to think of their smiles and encouraging words when I am stuck in a rut. I want to be motivated by their long hours and focus when I feel burned out. And I want to make sure that my children know that I would do anything, absolutely anything, to keep them safe like the Sandy Hook teachers did for their students. Nothing can be done to bring back the lives that were tragically taken from us. But I can, I must, try to live a more inspired life, a more dedicated life, in their memory.

Sara Esther Crispe, a writer, inspirational speaker and mother of four, is the co-director of Interinclusion, a nonprofit multi-layered educational initiative celebrating the convergence between contemporary arts and sciences and timeless Jewish wisdom. Prior to that she was the editor of, and wrote the popular weekly blog Musing for Meaning. To book Sara Esther for a speaking engagement, please click here.
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Anonymous UK December 15, 2013

More tradgedies Since Sandy Hook, the USA has suffered more gun shootings in schools. It will go on just as long as the USA culture glorifies guns.
Take the guns away - NOW!!!!

(And let the police do the job of keeping law and order?) Reply

Martin Nj December 14, 2013

A beautiful essay as meaningful one year after the tragedy as the day it was written. Reply

Dorothy Bienen RPB FLA December 23, 2012

Great Teachers.... I too, taught in a district in NY for many years. I am so shaken by what occured and often thought...what if this happened here. I would have done just what those brave and dedicated staff and teachers did...thank you Sara, again, for a moving and truthful piece...may we all remember and honor them for who they were and what they did. Reply

Anonymous December 18, 2012

what TO DO (from teenage girl) I think that this aritcle shows us how much every single one of us makes such a tremendous difference in the world, so be aware of this as you go about your mundane life. To the teachers out there: my teachers are the ones i think of when i think of who my role model is. we want all children to grow up as frum, self-respecting people wit most0importantly ahavas yisroel. so if you are a teacher, every single thing you do/wear/say/insinuate is caught and remembered by your students so PLEASE show us the right things! we can only be there for every one around us in their time of need. Keep in mind, that although most people in the world are normal and can talk, not everyone is open with their feelings, so be aware of those around you if they may need a listening ear or physical help, whatever it may be. just be there! (these are just words from the heart) Reply

Julie UK December 18, 2012

compassion Richii, I can understand your tears, but the "stupid idiot" was also a child. What kind of despairation and ignorance of G_d's love brings a young intelligent man to the such madness? Why did his mother have 3 guns in the house including an automatic rifle? Why did he kill her first? Where was/is his father? His acts were abominable but his soul was in agony beyond words. Communication in words is best, we tell each other how we feel and hopefully we are consoled but the mentally ill cannot speak, they scream out their story in actions and sometimes die in the process. This tradgedy must be looked at with a "wide angle lense" to find the causes not to apportion blame but to prevent reoccurance. Reply

Moyshe Pennsylvania, USA December 17, 2012

First, I need to say how beautiful this essay is. It has a certain tranquility I found soothing to my soul in this time of upheavel. Secondly, I want to say, Thank You. Reply

Ival Kovner Bethel, Ct December 17, 2012

Teaching The teachers have gone beyond duty and exhibited bravery - but more than that - they physically demonstrated love - love for their children - the students they taught - and love for the school, representing educational pursuits - the growth of minds - challenged and supported by these magnificent souls. I moved my art exhibition from Chelsea NYC to Newtown last April - in hopes my mother would see it, living in Newtown - but she died in March at age 100 and in mourning her passing this year - as nine months into the year progressed, grief multipled beyond any imagined idea - we will never forget and always honor those little children, so innocent, and their brave principal & teachers. Noah & Jack today - and we will reflect and pray. Reply

Sarah Masha WB MI USA December 17, 2012

Julie, and general The way Julie states the statistics is not the entire story. A better way would be to state murder rates, specifically those in which a gun was the weapon used. The USA has many more people than the countries in the comparison, and including murders where the victim was strangled, or drowned, etc. makes no sense when discussing gun control. Even so, I'll concede the point that the USA has a higher percentage of gun crime than many other countries, and this is in part because guns are so available. I'm all for removing the ability of non-military, non-law enforcement citizens to have access to automatic or semi automatic weapons, armor piercing ammo, large clips etc. Sadly, the NRA is organized, and we who are against them are not. Sara, thanks for writing this, I'll quote Anon in Melbourne Thank you for finding something meaningful and positive to say without sounding callous or insensitive. I only add that you don't sound trite either. Reply

Anonymous Roseville December 17, 2012

The same day as this shooting 20 children were stabbed to death at a school in China. This man was mentally ill. He would of found other ways to do harm. Lets get better psychological help for these boys and men who feel like outsiders. Reply

Israel Florida December 17, 2012

Sorry this tragety is not about guns. Guns have taken and protected lives since there inception. The guns of tyrants in the last century, in the hands of facist and marxist have led to the death of ruffly 100 million people worldwide. Today the gun in the hands of law abiding citizens protect against criminals and a governement that would take property, liberty and life itself. Guns can only be banned from good honest law abiding citizens, not from thugs and tyrants. A gun carring madman, in a gun free zone, 26 dead. Were the madman confronted by one gun carring adult perhaps the outcome would have been different? Reply

Julie England December 17, 2012

Guns In one year, guns where used to murder:
17 in Finland
35 in Australia
39 in England and Wales
60 in Spain
194 in Germany
200 in Canada
9,984 in USA
Take the guns away - NOW!!!! Reply

Yocheved South Carolina December 17, 2012

Thank you Sara.... This a.m. as I viewed the pictures and commentaries of each child and staff member, grief overwhelmed me. Thank you Sara for comforting many, through this article. The whole world is shock...not knowing really how to deal with such a tremendous loss of the innocents. I was reminded of a scripture in Isaiah 40:1 Comfort, Comfort my people...Sara you have done so this day. I am most grateful. Reply

Shelly December 17, 2012

Thank you I too wish to thank you Sara for your moving article. I think that the brave final action of these educators are their legacy, and its a sad but proud one. Shelly Reply

ruth housman marshfield hills, ma December 17, 2012

to the Jerusalem and the Western Wall This happened on Chanukah, a season of light, and a story about a miracle happened here. We need more miracles, and for sure, the heroism of this school, these teachers, these acts of courage in the midst of terror, were lights for us all. But I keep the midnight oil burning in asking deep questions, because I live a life of not a little but what we call profound and total, synchronicity, and this can scare me. It does. It's the agony and the ecstasy all the way. I keep such a record daily, and it fells me. So I say, we all need to hold hands around the world. Go to Jerusalem in your mind, and hold hands, with your neighbor, and imagine holding hands tight with the entire world. And ask G_d for a change in this ancient story, and ask for a new chapter, so we can move forward together, in working for peace. I go to the WaLL as it is said, on the terrible in life. Wail and Wall are related words. I know G_d wants us at the Wall. Imagine, and Pray. Reply

Jaclyn Barnes Jerusalem December 17, 2012

Heroism in Sandy Hook My heart goes out to these families,also my prayers!These teachers were true hero's they put,their lives on.The line without any question to protect these children!May G-d send friends to help these families through these,extremely tragic time! Reply

Anonymous Melbourne December 17, 2012

Thank you for finding something meaningful and positive to say without sounding callous or insensitive. The candle your words have lit has truly banished much darkness. Reply

Helen Fox England December 17, 2012

unbelievable (Sandy Hook) School As i heard the terrible news i seem to go into melt down how could this happen what type of people need an automatic rifle with rounds and rounds of amo, we all know what brave and wonderful people the teachers were but 20 five and six year olds lost their lives.You cannot keep them safe as long as the gun law is not changed. please United States vote for gun control otherwise i am sure we will see the loss of the inocent again and again all the tears in the world will not stop it happening again if guns are not taken out of homes and the mad men who want them. My deepest consolance to all the parents and families of these murdered inocent people. The medal i would give is to the person who takes guns out of the hands of the US citizens.But for now my prayers are with you all. Reply

Debi Drecksler Candler, N.C. via December 17, 2012

Beautifully written! Thank-you for writing one of the VERY best pieces I have read since this tragedy. Reply

Sharolsamuel india December 17, 2012

inspiration Everyone who reads or go thr' these lines will surely have the impaction of helping each other without worrying about their selves. Reply

Bathsheva Gladstone Branford, CT December 17, 2012

Thank you Sarah, Thank you for reminding me--us who read you, that we must honor the children of Sandy Hook and our own children every day to the best of our ability. We shouldn't need such a horrific act to shake us up. But it serves us well to just go that extra mile--to do what we can, whenever we can. And those teachers, what teachers! Reply

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