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I Have No Time to Help Others

I Have No Time to Help Others



I am 18 years old. Between school, homework, and a little time for myself, I barely have time to breath. How can I help other people when I'm soooooo busy in my own life!!??


I can see from your question that you have a deep desire to help others. Our Sages stress that we are not here in this world for ourselves. In the words of Rabbi Israel Baal Shem Tov, the founder of the Hassidic movement: A soul may descend to this world and live seventy or eighty years in order to do a material favor for another, and certainly a spiritual one.1

If you take this truth to heart, I am sure you will easily find that “where there’s a will, there’s a way.” As the saying goes, “If you want something done, ask a busy person.”

Practically speaking, how can you fit good deeds into your busy schedule? Here are some ideas:

  1. Decide where you can clear up a half-hour in your schedule by cutting down on time-wasters. Figure out what your biggest time-wasters are. Facebook? Hanging out with friends? Internet? Video or computer games? There’s almost always a half-hour that you can cut. And voila! There’s time to help someone.
  2. Factor helping others into your busy schedule.

    Does schoolwork and studying occupy lots of your time? Maybe you can study with a friend who needs some help or review material with someone who was sick and missed some classes.

    Do you shop for your family? You can offer to pick up some groceries for the elderly lady down the block at the same time. Or you can offer to take her stuff to the cleaners or pick it up when you get yours.

    Can you drive someone somewhere while you’re running errands yourself? Or bake cookies or make extra food for a sick person while you’re cooking or baking at home?

    There are many simple ways to help others even while you are accomplishing your own tasks.
  3. Shabbat and holidays are generally less busy and a good time to help others. You can volunteer to run or help out at a kids’ group in a synagogue. Or visit someone who is sick, or a local hospital or nursing home. Invite someone who’s alone to a Shabbat meal or babysit for a new mother so she can get some needed rest.

Hayom Yom: Iyar 5.

Chaya Sarah Silberberg serves as the rebbetzin of the Bais Chabad Torah Center in West Bloomfield, Michigan, since 1975. She also counsels, lectures, writes, and responds for’s Ask the Rabbi service.
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prem kumar Delhi October 13, 2015

Help others I will defintely help you with this one...

Helping others can be made in different ways

1) praying for the world
2) when you see a poor person on the street buy him/her some food/ give them some money

3)smile at people as the want to feel love

These are some ways I help people. Reply

Richard` Boca Raton, FL/USA August 30, 2012

To the young lady who doesn't have time Above all, you should not feel guilty because you are so pressed for time.. It is of PRIMARY importance that you complete your schooling before college, with as high grades as possible. And it is essential that you devote your best physical and mental efforts to that goal and toward what is NEXT in your life for you. You will be far better prepared to be of far greater help to far more people, Jews and non-Jews alike, if you are an educated young woman with a desire to be helpful to others in the world and this life. I commend you for putting your best efforts into your present work of becoming an educated, informed, active young Jewish woman. In your time, you will be prepared to be a whirlwind of activity and help to your people. Thank you, Prepare yourself. There's always a place awaiting you. Reply

Mary N. Highlands, Ca. August 30, 2012

Helping others Sometimes the biggest help to others is just to show a caring face...saying good morning and sleep well these are things that show your looking at the person with a caring eye...write a few words on a note paper that say I saw you and it made me think of how wonderful it is to just know your name...We used to glue a penny on a flower and put it on the windshields at collage with a note saying have a great only took us about 1 hr. a week...people were glad that they were noticed..and sometimes on friday we'd make or buy cookies and leave one on each desk with a note saying thought you might need a treat...caring doesn’t really take time it might take a little thoughfullness but that’s all… Reply

Susie2112 London, Ohio August 30, 2012

smile and be pleasant to everyone you see every day. give compliments to service workers who wait on you throughout the day. listen to someone who needs to vent about their problems. pray for our leaders even if you disagree with their stand on issues. Reply

irene hantz VIC, AUS June 15, 2012

I will defintely help you with this one...

Helping others can be made in different ways

1) praying for the world
2) when you see a poor person on the street buy him/her some food/ give them some money

3)smile at people as the want to feel love

These are some ways I help people. regardless of nationality and religion.. at the end of the day If G-d can forgive and love all , who are we to go against that?

xo Reply

Chaya Sarah Silberberg west bloomfield May 1, 2012

Obviously, Shabbos and Yom Tov are not times to drive or run errands for another - such activities are not permitted on these days. But there are so many opportunities on these days to help another: visiting a sick or elderly person, a shut-in or a hospital or nursing home; baby-sitting for an overworked mother so she can get a well-deserved rest on Shabbat afternoon; picking up a child and taking him/her to shul; inviting a lonely single to a Shabbat meal; volunteering to help out at a shul program, youth group, etc.; hosting a Torah class in one's home or offering to study Torah with someone who needs help, etc. etc. Reply

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