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Can This Marriage Be Saved?

Tools to Successfully Build Loving and Connected Relationships

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Married to Mr. Worried
I love my husband, but now that we are married, I realize that he is a little neurotic. He worries about everything...
Marriage Without Anger
The single greatest challenge faced by couples is how they handle their anger. How does one deal with the inevitable disagreements in marriage, without becoming angry?
Commitment
The vast majority of modern divorces are caused by emotional suffering. Men and women feel neglected, unappreciated, insulted, hurt, betrayed, bored, lonely, enraged and otherwise unhappy in marriage.
The Perfect Marriage that Went All Wrong
They'd married less than a year ago, following seven months of story-book courtship. It was a match made in Heaven. Hell, I heard him mutter...
The Chronically Critical Spouse
Instead of getting into a power struggle with a person who constantly blames, shames and labels, try a refreshing approach that I call "the Pareve Response."
Caught in the Middle
Conflict Between My Wife and My Mother
My wife and my mother don't get along. Both of them complain to me about the other one. I'm caught in the middle and I feel like I am balancing on a high wire. What can I do?
Divorce: Facts and Myths
When all other options to remain married have been exhausted, divorce is an act of kindness. However, statistical evidence clearly demonstrates that divorce is infinitely more complicated and painful than people expect. Some sobering facts about divorce...
Don't Become a Victim
It is scary to be around "aggressor" people, since they have no compunctions about using various forms of emotional blackmail to get others to give in to their demands. Six essential tips on how to deal with these types...
Talk Less, Listen More
People scream in order to be heard. The thinking seems to go: "He/she isn't listening; I need to say it again and again, louder and louder. That way I will get my message across." Unfortunately the only message we get across that way is, "You are my enemy."
Break the Stereotype
The Couple that Had the Courage to Explore New Frontiers
She grew up to the sights of women studying, teaching, arguing law and pedagogy; the women in his family awoke to prepare the lavish breakfast for their men. She was appalled at their apparent submissiveness to their men folk...
Growing Through Our Children
Overcoming Unhealthy Generational Patterns
Sara was very much like her mother, dynamic, outspoken, and definitely more comfortable in the "driver's seat." She saw how frustrated her mother was with her father's quiet, more passive way. And she was now reliving that anger in her own marriage.
The Communication Trap
Use caution when sharing your feelings
Many psychologists are prone to overly optimistic promises about the power of communication to solve all problems. They urge people to, "Share your feelings," and "Talk it out until the problem is resolved." However, this advice can be disastrous! Not everyone values emotional honesty...
Me Versus We
My husband works, while I stay home. By the time he comes home and the kids have gone to bed, I am exhausted. I just want to relax with a book and don't want to talk to anyone. But my husband is insulted by my desire to just chill out on my own.
Not Ready For All This Religious Stuff
Having discovered, finally, her Jewish identity, she could not abandon it. Yet, he never had thought to, nor was he now willing to, commit himself to the laws and practices governing Jewish life. How could she choose between the love of her life and the love of her people?
Warning: Marriage is Hard
Your spouse is "human imperfection personified." So are you, but that probably doesn't bother you that much. Help your spouse to improve but most of all, help YOURSELF to deal with it.
Anger and Love—Do they Mix?
Love and anger cannot coexist together. Anger will always push away love. A person cannot ingest poison and then remain healthy; so, too, a person cannot receive anger and still feel loving toward the angry person.
Powerful Words
And The Power of Words
Yael and Yosef had a "good enough" marriage, but their marriage felt boring, and on automatic. Whenever they did find time to be together, the talk usually drifted to problems and negativity. As a result of their disconnection, they were both feeling lonely.
More Than Best Friends?
My husband and I have a good marriage. I respect him a lot, and he is definitely my best friend. But sometimes I find myself wondering "Is this it?"
Are there limits to respect for parents?
We have a stringent duty to honor our parents. But are there limits? What if they are interfering in our marriage?
Are You Lovable?
What makes a person loveable? Being "loveable" is relatively easy to achieve during the dating process but becomes much more difficult a few weeks after the marriage...
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