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Why Not Make it Easier to Convert?


Question:

I often hear rabbis complain that the Jewish people are shrinking due to intermarriage and assimilation. But it is you rabbis who are the major obstacle to Judaism growing! If you would make conversion a bit easier, many more non-Jews would join us. Why do you stubbornly insist on a long and difficult conversion process, when you are closing the door to many potential converts?

Answer:

I would like to nominate you to be the next prime-minister. You have come up with a brilliant formula that could greatly benefit the world.

You argue that the Jewish people would grow if only it were easier to become Jewish. If we apply your logic to some other scenarios, most of society's problems could easily be solved. We could reduce the number of people living below the poverty line by simply making the poverty line lower. And we could have many more millionaires around if you didn't need so much money to be one! The crime rates would drop dramatically if we just legalize criminal activity. And if we dropped the average life-expectancy people would live so much longer!

Either Judaism is truth, or it is not. If it is truth, then truth can't be saved by diluting it. And if it isn't, why bother saving it at all?

The road to conversion is a challenging one. I have seen the hard work sincere converts put in to become Jewish. They inspire me and I am proud to know them. And I have seen the sad consequences of "quickie" conversions too. To paraphrase Groucho Marx, how could someone respect a religion that bent the rules to let them in?

Perhaps the conversion system isn't perfect. That is something that the rabbis should indeed be working to improve. But we can only fight assimilation by presenting pure, unadulterated Judaism in an accessible and relevant way. That is a Judaism that can be respected - by Jew and non-Jew alike.

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Posted: Sep 12, 2011
To Rabbi Moshen
I've got a question for you. When would you say our father Abraham starts teaching a proselyte - as a father teaches his child?
Do you think he waits until a Beit Din says this child is now a Jew? To tell you the truth, I think he starts earlier than you might think. May I suggest to you that our father Abraham walks every step of the way through the conversion process hand in hand with the proselyte. This includes up the steps to the Beit Din and forever after, win or lose.
I agree to a large extent with what you say. But, I ask each Beit Din to do every thing in its power to not turn anyone away.
Posted By Charles K., Honolulu, HI, Honolulu, HI

Posted: Sep 9, 2011
Understand the dilemma of the Beit Din
If a Beit Din were to convert people unprepared for conversion then others would not only question the conversion of these unprepared people but everyone converted by this Beit Din. Therefore the Batey Din owe it to their converts to proceed in a judicious manner, and only convert those who are truly ready and willing to live as practicing orthodox Jews. Without their commitment and their studies, their conversion serves no one.
Posted By Rabbi Aryeh Moshen, NY, USA

Posted: June 12, 2011
Conversion and cruelty
The requirements given in the Talmud for conversion are far less stringent than those of orthodox Beit Dins today. Forcing people to wait for years can be deeply cruel in practice, especially for women who are losing valuable childbearing years.

The sheer agony of every day of waiting to reach the mikvah for those of us, like myself, who came into Judaism experientially, is indescribable. It literally becomes emotional and psychological torture.

Not only did my female cycles fall to pieces thanks to all I went through fighting my way to come home as the Jew I was supposed to be - and they never really recovered - I was physicallly ill, contracted dysentery and went to the very end of my emotional resources. Now, six years on, although I am happily married and life is good, I am still recovering from the huge trauma and have recently been diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome for which I largely blame the cruelty and unfairness of the whole conversion system I encountered.
Posted By Anonymous, Jerusalem, Israel

Posted: June 9, 2011
The Convert's path
I agree w/Rabbi Tzvi's comment... find another Shul...
Sometimes there seems to be a misplaced zeal for "making the convert feel unwelcome so that they prove that they deserve to be Jews" - it is not your fault, its ours, and it is especially difficult on single women... Sarah, kol tuv, and here is a web site where u can ask Q's and maybe resolve some of the difficult emotions connected with the process
Posted By Reb Yehonatan Levy, Chicago/Tel Aviv, USA/Israel

Posted: June 7, 2011
Conversion
Invalidating a "conversion" in my point off view is impossible, If a convert does not live according to Halacha no person can invalidate the proces he/she has been through. G-d tells us in His Torah that being kind and loving to the "stranger" is a Mitzvah because we have been strangers ourselves. Telling a person that his/her "conversion" is annuled will only create adveseries, this is not what the Jewish people need nor want. Coming out or conversion should be done according to Halacha, no person should be turned away once they've shown they are willing to take upon themself the "yoke" of Torah. "Conversion shouldn't bee this hard and painfull!!! Chag Sameach to you all...
Posted By Nikki, Almere, the Netherlands

Posted: June 3, 2011
Always the same old excuses
I've never read in the Torah that people should have to jump through hoops to be Jewish and the main reasons everyone here seems to give for the hoops seem to be either 'It's tradition,' 'you won't appreciate it unless you suffer for it,' 'I had to work for it so why should anyone else have it any easier?' or some variation of the above. I wonder if the last living Jew, a hundred or so years from now will say 'Boy, I'm glad we made it so hard to be Jewish!'
Posted By Jacob Miller, Brooklyn, NT

Posted: May 22, 2011
My soul is but a remnant of Israel.
I want to convert; but I am glad it is difficult. I hope I have to struggle 5 lifetimes. Perhaps by then we will all be gathered back home in Israel. When will we be whole as a people, as a nation, again? Even if I could convert this moment I would still not be whole - not until we are whole as the Jewish people again.
Posted By Anonymous, Honolulu, HI

Posted: Feb 24, 2011
Where are these standards stated?
While I agree that conversions should not be quick and easy, I do acknowledge that there are various standards for rigor amongst the different denominations.

I, for example, studied and converted through the Conservative movement. My formal conversion was nearly 9 months, which was short by my rabbi's standards, but that was because I had done read over 30 books on my own before meeting with him and was also teaching myself Hebrew.

I realize that according to the Orthodox standards I'm not even Jewish, but I know that I had a rigorous, meaningful conversion process and celebrate the occasion every year by going up to the Torah in my synagogue.

Where exactly in the Torah or Talmud does it states the rules for conversion so that one may know which rules other denominations are supposedly bending?
Posted By Andrea Alfi, Cypress, CA

Posted: Jan 12, 2011
re: apologies
when you say Jewish blood is in your veins are you speaking about your mother's line or your father's? If it is your mother then you are Jewish, if your father then first you should learn what it means to be a ger, it is an honorable path, a true path in which to relate to G_d, Jews, and gentiles. If in following the path of a ger tzadik (a righteous gentile) you discover that there is no other way than to pursue being Jewish then you have your answer. If this was never explained then I'm sorry for your conundrum to this point. However, unlike christianity, or islam, Judaism does not hold to the idea of homogenization of beliefs, and/or peoples. Each 'nation' has a purpose, that is Biblical not rabbinic, discover your purpose, if it involves a true conversion then G-d will lead you in the way that you should go. I recommend that you read Rebbe Nachman's viewpoint on what it is to be a ger and what a 'convert' to Judaism is.
Posted By Reb Yehonatan, Chicago/Tel Aviv, USA/Israel

Posted: Jan 11, 2011
apologies
you're probably right. perhaps i'm very wrong. i've wasted many years. after the first rabbi turned me away i persisted. after being questioned, tested and suspect i guess you are right. i apologize to all of you for wasting your time commenting. i'm a ger and guess that's the way it is. my beliefs were what i was following. but they are just that MY beliefs. apparently i've been wrong in my persistence. even though jewish blood is in my veins i'm a ger and that's what i will remain.
Posted By jim, bethel, ohio



 


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