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Why Jews Greet With Shalom Aleichem

Why Jews Greet With Shalom Aleichem

Explaining the Jewish Hello


Dear Rabbi,

I was told that there is no translation for “hello” into Hebrew. I was told that Jews say “peace” instead of “hello” and “goodbye.”

I did some further research and found that, traditionally, Jews greet each other by saying, “peace unto you,” and responding, “unto you peace.”

Could you explain these peculiar Jewish customs?


For thousands of years, Jews have been greeting each other with the blessing, “peace unto you,” or in the Hebrew, “shalom aleichem,” with the other person responding, “unto you peace,” or “aleichem shalom.”

Is it just that Jews have different opinions—as the saying goes, “two Jews, three opinions”—so that when being greeted, we respond with the opposite phrase?1

The fact that we say “peace” implies that this is one time where the expression of the opposite of unity should not take place. So what is the explanation for this seemingly unusual blessing and response?

Peace and G‑d’s Name

First some quotes from the Jewish sages on greetings and peace:

And they instituted that one should greet their friend with G‑d’s name, as the verse says (Ruth 2:4), “And behold, Boaz came from Bethlehem, and he said to the reapers, ‘May G‑d be with you!’ And they said to him, ‘G‑d bless you.’”

-- Talmud, Berachot 54a2

And you shall not greet your friend with peace in the bathhouse, for the name of G‑d is “Peace,” and the verse states (Judges 6:24), “And he called Him the G‑d of Peace.”3

-- Talmud, Shabbat 10b

Rabbi Hunah says: If one greets another with peace and that person does not return the greeting, the person is called a robber [robbing the other of a greeting of peace].4

-- Talmud, Berachot 6b

The Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson, of righteous memory, explains that when two individuals who are spiritually connected to G‑d through their souls, greet each other with Peace—i.e., G‑d’s name—they bring G‑dliness into our physical world with their words.5

A blessing of peace—peace throughout the world and in one’s personal life—is one of the greatest blessings one can give and receive, and therefore we bless each other with this.6

Flipping the Greeting

One reason for flipping the response to this blessing to “unto you peace” is because the Talmud says that one who does not respond to the greeting is considered a thief. If a person were to respond with the same words, “peace unto you,” one may think that he is also asking, rather than responding. Flipping the words emphasizes that the blessing is in fact a response and not an initial greeting.7

A more mystical explanation is given in the teachings of Chabad thought, with this introductory question: When examining the Hebrew phrase, the word “unto you” (עליכם) is phrased in the second person plural instead of in the singular (עליך). Why is that?

The answer is given that when two people meet there is a communal interaction, where no one person’s opinion is the same as another’s. At that moment of interaction, there is a greater need to create unity. Saying “peace unto you” brings peace and unity between the two (into “the public realm”).

The Lubavitcher Rebbe explains that there are two stages in this “peace making.” One stage is where the person asking states that he or she is ready to make unity between the two of them. Then the second person needs to respond that he or she agrees and also wants unity.

However, if one were to respond in the same way that the other person asked, “peace unto you,” it could seem that the blessing does not come from a personal desire, but rather it is just an approval of the other’s request for unity. Therefore, the person flips the order, “unto you peace,” to emphasize that, not only does he agree to the other’s desire, but he also wants this peace himself.

The one who is asking says “peace onto you.” Peace is mentioned first, because the first person knows that he wants the peace and is asking the other to agree. The responder says “unto you [plural] peace,” for he is the one to actually create peace and unity in the plural— between the two of them.8


See the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson, of righteous memory’s talk from December 14, 1973.


See ad loc, 63a for a discussion on this proof from the verse.


It is prohibited to say any of G‑d’s names while in a bath house, bathroom or while dressed immodestly.


See Rashi, Rabbi Shlomo Yitzchaki’s commentary, ad loc.


The beginning of the Rebbe’s talk on September 9, 1969.


See the Rebbe’s talk from May 18, 1969.


Rabbi Avraham Yitzchak Sperling, in Sefer Taamei Haminhagim, Inyanim Shonim ch. 33 (p. 444 in the Shai Lamoreh 1999 edition).


From the Rebbe’s edited talk in Likutei Sichot, Vol 25, p. 166.

Dovid Zaklikowski is a freelance journalist living in Brooklyn. Dovid and his wife Chana Raizel are the proud parents of four: Motti, Meir, Shaina & Moshe Binyomin.
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Gershon Kansas August 4, 2017

Shulchan Aruch states that a man may not "inquire after the 'shalom' of a woman," since it can lead to inappropriate closeness. In today's society, exchanging greetings is simply good manners and should not be avoided. However, there are many who prefer not to use the term "shalom" when greeting someone of the opposite gender. Reply

Anonymous NY July 24, 2017

Is it appropriate for a woman being introduced to a rabbi to greet with Shalo-m Aleichem? I am asking from the standpoint of tznius. Reply

Anonymous Canada October 1, 2016

The other day when visiting my physio therapist, I greeted him with Shalom. His reply was Shalom barak. I have not heard that reply before and wonder what he meant. I am considered by many where I have worked, those I meet and those whom I associate with, to be of Jewish decent, but for the life of me, I cannot find any supporting family history research to prove such. All I do know is that my mother grew up in North East London, England in an area where some famous Jewish comedians, writers, dancers and others came from, as well as her Jewish girlfriends and associates lived. I once asked her if we where Jewish when I was about 8 years old but she would not say a word about the matter. So please explain that response to my greeting of Shalom. Reply

Mark Stevanus Lake Grove July 29, 2017
in response to Anonymous:

Psalm 113 Commentary

… (1Chr 29:13) Blessed ( 01288 )( barak ) is a verb which literally can mean to kneel (to … standing position or even a bowing at the waist). And so barak can refer to an act of adoration sometimes on bended … someone (praise). The righteous man is blessed (Ps 5:12). Barak includes the idea of to endue with power for success, … Reply Staff via October 30, 2014

To Patricia That would be not offensive at all! Reply

patricia moore rome, italy October 21, 2014

shalom used by non hebrews Dear Friends,
May I , as a non hebrew, greet hebrews with "shalom"? Or would I be offensive?
Thank you
Sincerely Reply

Mr. John Hiers August 25, 2011

Shalom A great response to the question, makes complete sense thank you! Reply

Yossi August 22, 2011

To Douglas E. Hall... I live in Israel. Many people still use the "Shalom Aleichem" greeting, especially religious people though, so you're right in that respect. Reply

Douglas Eivind Hall Fuengirola, Spain August 17, 2011

Shalom. I was studying modern Hebrew with an Israeli teacher and she said that in Israel Shalom Aleichem is not used any more. I think it is because S. A. has a more religious attitude and Israel is rather secular so just uses Shalom instead. Reply

Anonymous MTL, Ca August 16, 2011

Shalom Aleychem Shalom Aleychem....

I am wondering.... Is there an obligation on a Jew to say Shalom Aleychem when someone greets him or are there Exceptions in regards to this question