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Words of the Other

Words of the Other


If you have spoken to another and your words did not help, it is proof you did not speak with him, but with yourself. Your words may be the words you wanted to say, the words you believe, but they are not the words he needed to hear.

If you would speak to him and speak his words, then certainly he would hear.

By Tzvi Freeman
From the wisdom of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, of righteous memory; words and condensation by Rabbi Tzvi Freeman. Subscribe and get your dose daily. Or order Rabbi Freeman’s book, Bringing Heaven Down to Earth, click here.
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Anonymous Mesa, AZ January 29, 2016

rut I cannot understand this message. I believe that when some one needs another this person will look for support, either spiritually, emotionaly, or otherwise. If the other person opens up to me, then I am able to help out, if not, then silence is more elocuent than words. I always try to bring Torah teachings to my listener, because my faith is in the All Migthy to help in everything that we need, but I have found that most people want help to come from where their faith come. One cannot apply its own on another. If there is a need by been at the side of the needed, and silently listen, that all one can do. Reply

Ben Austin January 29, 2016

Not to be contentious, but before one may determine whether or not one's words have helped, one must define what help is. Sometimes the knowledge of whether or not words have helped is elusive... Reply

Anonymous January 29, 2016

'Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.'.... Reply

Anonymous May 25, 2015

Just in time This was a very practical advice which helped in communicating better with my child who is unable to use speech.
My perspective has changed for the better.
Thank you ! Reply

Jorge São Paulo/Brazil May 21, 2015

On Target It's impressive how all these daily messages make sense to me every time I read them, which means daily!
Tks very much Rabbi Tzvi and keep going! Reply

Anonymous Topeka,KANSAS May 21, 2015

did not help. ? Perhaps in other words," don't teach/talk in vain?" Not helping but talking to the wind? Reply

LH Brooklyn, NY December 15, 2008

I disagree. Yosef, The Tzadik, spoke...and was not listened to. I, for one, will keep on speaking and being ignored (in some cases:), knowing that it's a far worse crime if I didn't speak. Reply

David Eugene Tully Ann Arbor, MI December 15, 2008

Amen God Bless Reply

Marv Hershenson Indianapolis, IN December 15, 2008

Bernard Madoff After reading the latest post by Tzvi, I started to think of Mr. Madoff and the scandal he created. What bothers me, as a MOT, are the consequences of Mr. Madoff's behavior. I am assuming he is Jewish and the number of iWall Street egomaniacs (who are Jewish) create more harm. This provides garbage to the Anti-Semites, the Islamists and other fanactics. The lack of personal accountability and integrity is appalling. To me this is due to the disconnection to our spiritual roots and the penchant to seek secular attainments. Thank you.. Reply