Working It Out

A husband and wife are arguing:

The wife says "why don't you make more money, we need it"

The husband says "This is my job, and how much it pays."

Underneath the wife's desire for money is really her desire for security for her family, and an easy life.

Underneath the husband's comment about his job is really his desire to do work he loves

When you look at both of their comments underneath the surface of the argument the wife wants security and the husband wants work he loves, though on the surface they are arguing about money.

Maybe the husband also wants a secure lifestyle and the wife wants the husband to do work he loves. Maybe there is a way that the husband can find work he loves that also would provide security for the family. Or they can satisfy the wife's desires for security by purchasing less expensive goods. Even though the argument appears about money, it really is about internal dreams of security and doing work they love. Maybe they both want the same things.

Always getting to the core and reaching the core. I pray always for Rabbi Freeman and give thanks to G-d for his work.

I think through him the Rebbe lives on.

I thank you Rabbi Freeman for keeping the wisdom of the Rebbe--this great man alive in Chabad and in the world even for those who has never heard of him.

"There is only ONE G-d", and I have never known the depth of this truth, until I have allowed myself to be guided here--in this virtual synagogue. CHaBaD for me is the third Temple of Jerusalem that rose once again in full glory somewhere in between heaven and earth in a place where no army can destroy it.

This is the theory behind the :Getting to Yes" series of negoation book produced by the Harvard University law School.

An excellent approach.

My girlfriend and I were disagreeing on how another friend will revive the romance in her marriage.

She said try harder, work at it. Practice it more.

I said don't force it, look inward and create the space for something real to start inside you.

do you know your fantasies? yes, my friend said, i wish i could sleep with different men and still keep my husband.

What that means is you want to explore different aspects of yourself.

Yes,my friend says...like for once, don't do it naturally, initiate.

And I said, yes, and my friend said yes, and finally we were saying the same thing.

Rabbi Freeman,
I'm not a Jew but I love practical wisdom whenever I find it. You're the best!!!!

Is it possible to provide a practical example on the idea expressed in the Daily Dose of today?
I didn't grasp the concept very well.