I am a
victim of slander. A woman at my office has been saying things about me that
make me look bad. I thought that she was my friend, and I am shocked that she
would talk about me in such a way! Doesn't Judaism forbid this kind of talk?
to hear about your difficult situation. As you write, speaking bad of others is
prohibited by the Torah—it's called lashon hara (the evil tongue)—and it can cause incredible harm to the one
speaking it, to those who hear it, and to the one they are speaking about.
that advice is much easier to give than to follow. But I believe that if you do what
I am about to write, there is a good chance that you will be much happier in
the long run.
dealing with darkness, there are two options: you can attempt to sweep it out
the door with a broom, or you can light a candle, and the darkness will vanish.
When dealing with the spiritual darkness that lashon hara causes, the best
remedies are empathy and respect.
administer both these remedies by simply trying your best to judge this person
favorably. Assume that there is some misunderstanding. Then do something wild
and wonderful: approach her as a friend and speak to her at the right time in a
positive tone. G‑d willing, you will manage to quickly sort this out, and
you'll have brought more light into the world.
knows, maybe you'll even make a new friend.