A true story of a Jewish woman’s harrowing escape from her abusive husband
By Mirish Kiszner
 | Sleep eluded Daphna, as she stared into the darkness of the night. She tried in vain to still the hammering of her heart against her chest. Tomorrow was the day...
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G-d should bless this family with all their needs. G-d should also continue to bless the members of Yad L' Achim for their courage and dedication to the Jewish people! Beautiful!
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This woman, her precious children, and the members of Yad L'Achim should see only revealed good and many blessings. All the Jewish women and children in situations like hers should be freed with the coming of Moshiach now!
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Was she able to divorce him? Is she now free to marry another man? Women in Israel who marry face this situation with abusive Jewish husbands are not able to divorce if the abuser refuses to give her a "get" (a "get" is a document required for a Jewish divorce that can be furnished only by the male; in Israel, divorces can be granted only be clergy, not by civil authorities). This story is an excellent example of why it is wrong not to allow women to terminate a marriage without their husband's consent, no matter how dire the circumstances.
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What a beautiful illustration to go with the story. It brings the emotion present!
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i hope that u know that the acts of jamil that were described in this article aren't acts of islam because islam clearly doesn't teach man to beat their wives or children.
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Thank God she got to safetly. I'm stunned by the insensitivity of some of the commenters. My own understanding is that it is permissible and common enough for husbands following Muslim law to treat wives like this. But to take this occassion to berate Jewish husbands is beyond me.
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A get is thankfully only required in the case of a kosher marriage, Jew to Jew.
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It was "Jamil" the husband who was the abuser not the Islamic faith. Unfortunately wife abusers come in all faiths. Where would this woman had turned in the event she was married to an abusive Christian, Hindu, Buddhist or Jewish man? I would hope the same urgency would be granted no matter what faith she had married into.
Thank G-d for Yad L' Achim and others who see what is often hidden too well. It was not only the wife that was given freedom but also the children.
I don't feel a woman should have to obtain a "get". It is one way many religious woman are controlled by husbands they no longer choose to be married to. They are not free to marry and have more children. That is a form of punishment for many,
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Sadly, abuse is common in every human group. I am a psycotherapist and I have also known women abused by haredi jewish husbands. Every person has free will and has the opportunity of choosing between right and wrong, and there are people who choose doing evil things.
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In trying to look for the positve in stories like these it is good to know that this type of abuse at anyone's hands is being brought more out in the open.
Discussions such as these help other women too. For centuries spousal abuse was swept under the rug, tolerated and even condoned by cultures.
Again, thank G-d for Yad L' Achim . May their work be blessed.
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I've actually spent a few years as a practicing Muslim; and I can witness first hand to the fact that the Jewish view of women is profoundly more uplifting and humane; and amongst most Jews rather progressive as opposed to those that often flourish in Islam.
I must admit here that a lot of this speaks to, emanates from, that Judaism is matrilineally discerned; whereas most societies, especially Islamic societies, are strictly patriarchal; and the woman is given no credit in passing along the soul to the child.
While I spent time with them and studied their scriptures, the one thing, perhaps above all else, that puzzled me is that in their main scripture ('The Holy Quran')-
there is no mention of Hagar whatsoever.
Sarah though is acknowledged, and-
in the positive.
It's only in Torah that Hagar is mentioned, and in thus is described her rescue ('G-d is seeing, G-d is seeing') from her destruction and the destruction of her son.
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Let's not fail to point out the existence of abusive WOMEN. These women are often given a pass and their husbands questioned with "what did you do to make her react like that?" - a question that would never be asked of an abused wife.
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Beautifully written. Does anyone know how her children are doing? How can they adjust to a totally new life? Will any of them show loyalty to their Arab father and Arab way of life - and become traitors....
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How unfortunate that you chose to resort to stereotypes (Jewish wife victim-Arab anti-Semitic abusive husband) when we all recognize that domestic violence is a very real problem within the Jewish community itself.
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No one is saying that only Arabs are abusers. But the truth is, in countries where Islamic Law holds sway, abused women simply have no rights, no voice in courts of law, and no safe houses or shelters where they can receive the help they need. That's why, in many cases, Arab husbands trick their wives into visiting or living in their countries of origin, and the women are powerless in the face of abuse.
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The beautiful illustration for this article was done in watercolor by my beautiful artistic wife, Kreina Clement. Her website: FrumArt.com. Check it out.
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It's a damn shame that this happened. I passionately HATE unequal violence; violence from one thing against another thing that is not its' equal (like the most powerful country in the world attacking third world countries, or like rocket attacks/ air raids against civillians). I expecially hate violence against women and children
It's also a shame that it is mentioned that the abuser is an Arab. Even though it's true, it does nothing to advance the essence of the story, except to perhaps add fuel to the fires of hatred buring throughout the world against the Arab people...
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i have had women friends who have married arab men. the unions {every last one of them} became an abusive relationship. a few of these silly women made the mistake of going back to the husband's home country. what a tragedy! the children were "detained" & there was nothing to be done about it. the authorities would not find in favor of the mother {an american}. the woman had only two choices: stay in country or leave w/o your children. the USA was unable to solve the problem either. two of the women are back here in the USA w/o their children...still fighting for them. the others stayed in country...
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"Daphen" was helped to escape because she was fortunate enough to have an Arab husbans but how about all those women trapped in such relationships with Jewish husbands who keep saying "marital harmony" to deny them divorce and carry on the Hell.
Do you know of anyone doing something about that?
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