His cousin has one, his friends have it, but we have no intention of buying him one. How will I explain it to him?
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Thank you for sharing this story.
It is most welcome and has helped me.
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Very, very well stated. I am a mother who thought understanding the why behind every restriction would make it easier for my kids to accept them.
I was raised by a mother who layed down her law well into my midteens and beyond, to which I finally rebelled and swore I'd never lay the law down for MY kids without trying to make it understandable for them ..., Which, as Aron says so well, is ludicrous indeed. Not only ludicrous, but a great disservice to my youngest, especially, who is now willfull, demanding and impatient
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the child needs an allowance and/or a way to earn his own money so he can buy his own games. this will help him understand 1) the value of money, and 2) the folly of spending it on silly things
(i know this from experience. my 47 yr old son is rich by most standards. he grew up very poor, but i never said 'no' to anything he wanted. i just showed him the way to get what he wanted himself. he made a few of what he considered 'mistakes' and so became very thoughtful, very careful about spending his money.)
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i wish i understood it earlier.
now my children are much older,
and we all pay for that.
any suggestions?
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But what if you've already been spoiling your child for 10 years? What do you do now? Everytime you tell yourselves you're not going to give in eventually you just do so how can you really make a change? :(
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