I had signed up for J-date, the on-line Jewish dating service, and I was getting frustrated with the whole experience. From the music industry braggart with the purple Jaguar to the seventy-five year old who’d claimed to be fifty, the prospects were disappointing...
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So wonderful - I love your story and how you tell it. Sweet, romantic and divine. I've adored everything I've read of yours thus far. Please keep them coming!
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Well, guess what?
Lowen's bakery had closed, then re-opened in the late 1970's in Crown Heights, on Kingston Ave., off Crown St.
The bakery then changed hands, as well as its' name, from Lowens, to it's current incarnation as ISAACS bake shop - Issac being the name of the author's bashert!
And yes. I always knew that George Klein was on the "Bartons' family yichus (My father, Asher Heber,Crown Heights resident since 194, taught his girls at Manhattan Day School) so, it would make sense that the author's maiden name is KLEIN!
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Oh, do such fairy things really happen? i enjoyed this story indeed
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I've been to "Isaac's" bakery. And George Klein is my first cousin. Thanks for reading my story.
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What a great story, I met my husband, of almost 5 years, on a Jewish internet dating service, G-d's hand is in everything, even in cyperspace.
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What a wonderful story. You are truely blessed. I hope that I find a situation as wondeful as yours on my search.
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I'm fifty eight and never been married, nor had any children.
When I speak of the desire to have children at this age they laugh at me. In some poeple's eye's I'm crazy, I'm a fool.
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what a beautiful story. I just loved it. thanks for sharing.
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Barton's? Are you from 78th Road in Queens? Or was that the family that started Barricini's? I loved your story. It reminded me of learning after marriage that my husband's family and mine were from the same town in Byelorussia!
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What a great story! It's amazing what Hashem can acccomplish if we let Him. I met my husband in a similar, but less spectacular way, by a roundabout series of events that are nothing short of miraculous, and funny as well.
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I am a great believer that nothing in life is a coincidence. Everything is from the Almighty. Even the wrong marriages are meant to be, because of the kids that come out are still ours. I really loved your story and I wish you to reach your goal of holding your husbands hand at age 80.
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I no longer belive that such a meeting is mere co-incidence. I too had a like experience which took me to Israel, our land which was on my list of places not to visit, even though my paternal family has been there since the mid 1800's. We have since wed and are building our home in Israel. I am no longer a non-believer. There are too many coincidences not to believe in a stronger power one beyond our control. You, I, and so many others have been fulfilling our destined life mission. I feel abolutely great about it. Incidently for me the 'turning point' was when we spoke of children, we each have three, and she said we have six.
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Yes, it happens. It happened to me. But you can't wait for it, and you can't expect it.
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One of my friends, the Associate Rabbi from my synagogue, found her husband on JDate.com, and they've never been happier!
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You're so blessed. I am happy for you!
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This is a wonderful, heartwarming story, and I wish this couple only continued happiness. What about the rest of us, for whom internet services have brought many creepy, weird, no-good guys our way? What about those of us who so much want to meet our soulmate and are doing all the right things, but are alone at the end of the day? Who will say Kaddish for us? With whom do we build a home? What do you do with all the love in your heart to give when there's no one there to receive it, or to reciprocate?
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My true love and I found similar links in our lives when we first met. Even though when we met I was sworn off of men and never wanted to marry again. That was 21 years ago and we are still very much in love.
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I truly understand your question, and empathize with your dilemma. The best advice that I -- or anyone -- would give you is to make your life the richest it can be. Fill it with friends, family and faith. Donate your time to people in need. Find your passion -- not your work, necessarily, or a man -- but something that makes it worthwhile to be alive. Fulfill your life's purpose -- whatever that may be. That's what G-d wants you to do. You will find an outlet for your love, even if it is not a husband or children. And you will be surprised to find that the more passionate and satisfied you are about life, the more people -- including possibly a worthy man -- will gravitate to you. The other advice is to look more closely at the men you are meeting. Look inside them, not at their looks or their bank accounts. Are they good men? Some people make a very big deal about finding a guy who, for example, isn't boring. Guess what? Sometimes boring is GREAT.
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But I do feel that internet dating is a very risky business, and not made for everyone. it is like winning the lottery- sometimes you can hit the jackpot and find your soulmate- and other times you can lose alot. So one has to weigh the pros and cons to see if this form of a search is for them or not.
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In case I wasn't clear: only meet dates in VERY public places. Do not give out your address until you know him. If possible, check him out: does he work where he says he does? If he attends a synagogue, find out which one and by all means, ask the rabbi about him! Ask friends and family to fix you up -- don't be afraid of bad first dates. The bottom line is, in our scattered society the only way for some people to meet is on line. Yes, it has its drawbacks, but for me there were few alternatives. Good luck and yes, be careful.
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This story is incredibly beautiful. I got chills while reading it. G-d bless you and your incredible family!
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What a wonderful story, thanks for sharing it with us. I also met the man I love most in the world in cyberspace. It turned out he is from my own community,but had it not been for Jdate we would never have met, all those years ago....Like you, I am grateful for this matchmaker....and for G-d for having given us the tools...
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So wonderful - I love your story and how you tell it. Sweet, romantic and divine. I've adored everything I've read of yours thus far. Please keep them coming!
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i am very happy that people like you share stories that not just for coincidence happened but they are inspiration to believe that the Almighty still connecting us to each others no matter what! blessing for the children and for both of u!
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I loved the story, all the more so as I recently signed up for Jdate. I hope that Hashem shows a wonderful man to me. It's very inspiring to hear that it really can work.
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G-d sends as all the tools we need, for everything in life. It is up to us thow we use them.
I met my beloved husband on Jdate and thanks to this wonderful site we were able to build a loving Jewish home. May you find your Beshert soon. Have faith and G-d will guide you.
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your story is amazing...
well, my experience, that there are no guys on jdate, most them I met only interested in sexual pleasure and it is so frustrating.
also I wanted to stop it after a month payment but as it is an american system they make it hard to discontinue the subsription so they withdraw another month of money from my pocket...
it is so sad that if you are not fully kosher and religious it is almost impossible to find a man as the modern guys just don't want to commit...
ohhhh wish and wish that I will be as lucky as you and don't end up as an old maid feeding my 40 cats...
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What a wonderful story. I've also tried jdate with no success. I've been widowed for 10 years and have given up hope. Reading such a lovely story does gives one hope.
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Lovely, moving story. you're incredibly lucky! I do concur with the other women posters. Sad comment on the men out there. They don't know what wonderful vivacious, passionate women they're missing by having no intention of building truly loving deep committed relationships with us. Their huge loss and our loneliness.
So, just appreciate YOUR good fortune, every single day!
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A beautiful story, for the young.
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I met my boyfriend, the one I will marry (we discuss it regularly) on a different dating site. Reading your story brought tears to my eyes, because it reminds me that letting our hearts be truly open is really the only way to find our beshert.
I literally prayed every night to G-d to send me my beshert, the one who will love me as I love him--perhaps even better. And I sent the prayer up every Shabbos night when I lit candles. It took a few years, some starts, stops, and mis-directions, but I always knew that I would find him, with G-d's help.
Now that I have him, I know that I need to continue to pray with the same open heart, so that our lives together will be loving, happy, healthy, and prosperous.
Thank you for sharing your story.
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I love your story... thank God every day.
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Joseph from Oklahoma posts that he wants to marry and have children, but he's "given up." Why have you given up, Joseph? There are so many wonderful Jewish women out there who would make a wonderful wife for you. Have you given any of them a chance? G-d wants us to make the proper hishtadlus, effort, in our lives. The right woman is not going to fall down from Heaven with a sign around her neck, "I am the predestined bride of Joseph A. Cleary." When you go to synagogue for the High Holy Days this September, ask the Rabbi if the Rebbetzin can recommend any suitable women who might be interested in dating you. Get involved in the activities of the local Jewish Community Center. Go away for Passover or Shavuos to a kosher hotel with a singles program. Sign up for senior singles events targeting unattached people in your age group. Go back to JDate. Try Frumster or SawYou At Sinai. There are so many resources out there. Don't just assume that G-d meant you to never marry.
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My son met his bride of two years online. They met on JDate both living in different places, however, he was "home for the last summer at the beginning of May " because he felt he would meet his Beshert and wanted me tosee him a bit more often.
He dated through the summer with one objective in mind. I'd told him to ask Hashem to lead him, keep his mind uncluttered and peaceful. Just a few days prior to leaving he announced rather excitedly and with a shining smile he was going to meet a girl he'd spoken to over the last two days. The last evening home before returning to school and his job a a college was when they "met for coffee".
The next morning as I made some breakfast he came wondering into the kitchen, "" I have met her Mom.!" He left for work and college and returned every couple late Friday and left on Sunday. Who was she?? A hometown girl who was three years his junior, had gone to the same schools, knew people in common, but had never crossed one another's path.
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how does a jew in jackson mississippi meet another jew nearby for marriage
there is nobody around here
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Last I heard, Mississippi was the only state in the US without a Chabad house. wrrite to Chabad on Campus and encourage them to send out shluchim (emissaries) to Ol' Miss. I have many southern relatives, and my Memphis cousins went to college there. The way to meet Jews is through other Jews. Go to Chabad.org's find a center, and find out where the nearest Chabad to you is -- and spend a shabbat there. Get to know the rabbi and his family. I guarantee that soon, you'll have introductions to more people...and more...and more. There must be a synagogue somewhere near you. Or, contact an organization called, I believe, the Southern Jewish History project that restores old, abandoned shuls throughout the south. Perhaps you can get involved. The key is, you can't wait for people to come to you. Hattiesburg has Jews. Natchez has a few. And stay in touch. Good luck!!!!
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