The basic laws of how to fulitll this important mitzvah
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My neighbor has an emotional illness and peace between myself and her and, others has not really been there for an extended period of time. While talking to her I acted like I wasn't suprised by things I was told, and also I asked her why she was surprised at the problems she has. In a respectful way, she listened and I praised her for showing a healthy resignation to all the things weighing her down. Just not acting surprised gave strength, I know, because she says she likes me.
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Any problem with a kohen visiting sick, in a hospital for instance where people die daily? I would think the mitzvah of visiting sick overcomes the problem of being in same building as dead people?
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What should one to do if a sick person has made it clear that he/she is too ill to receive a visitor?
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My friend's mother has a month left to live. She has a cancer that was going to kill her anyway (though much later), but now it has gone to her brain. In addition to losing cognitive function (and memories etc.), she will die sooner than expected (hence the one month diagnosis). I want to do something, but I have questions resulting from reading this. First of all, while I am Jewish, this woman is not Jewish (and neither is my friend, her son). Secondly, she is dying with no realistic chance of recovery, so praying for her to be healed physically seems like it doesn't apply. Thirdly, since she is not really there, so to speak (from the reduction in cognitive function due to the cancer going to her brain), how can I truly console her or even carry on a happy conversation with her that would have any positive effect?
Any response would be much appreciated.
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If the person does not want visitors one should respect his/her wishes and perhaps offer to help in other ways such as helping with bills, shopping, children etc fielding calls.
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When there is life there is hope! One never knows what can happen, while she is alive she is deserving of prayers and good thoughts, so do feel free to pray for her regardless of the serious situation she finds herself in.
I think your presence will be a big comfort to her and the family. Be there. Talk to her, reminisce about fun times you had together. Just be there. Let's hear good news.
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