The menu our father Abraham offered his angelic visitors in this week's Torah portion seems rather uncharacteristic for a religious Jewish host. "Abraham fetched some cottage cheese and milk," records the Torah, "and the calf that he prepared, and he placed it before his guests. He stood over them as they ate under the tree." (Gen. 18:8)
Sounds like a cheeseburger with a cappuccino to me.
Indeed, exactly 400 years later, G‑d refused to give the Torah to the angels because they had eaten unkosher food at the table of Abraham. The Midrash relates that when G‑d was about to present the second set of tablets to Moses, the angels protested, saying that the Jews had violated the Torah and G‑d ought not to trust them with His blueprint for life.
"Leave the Torah with us," the angels exclaimed, "here it shall be safe and sound."
G‑d responded: "If anything, it was you who violated the Torah by eating non-kosher in Abraham's home." Upon hearing this, the Midrash relates, the angels conceded to G‑d and the Torah was granted to the human race.
All physical substances represent spiritual forms of energy….
Yet, a closer reading of the biblical story suggests that Abraham's menu was completely kosher and would be readily sanctioned by the most ultra-orthodox of rabbis. Let us reread the verse:
"Abraham fetched some cottage cheese and milk and the calf that he prepared and he placed it before his guests." In other words, Abraham first offered his guests cheese and milk, and only afterward did he present the calf's meat, something entirely permitted according to Jewish law. So why did G‑d accuse the angels of eating an unkosher meal?
Balancing the forces
Kabbala teaches that all physical substances represent spiritual forms of energy. In Jewish mysticism, dairy products are associated with the attribute of chesed, or attraction, while deli meat products reflect the attribute of gevura, or rejection.
The serene whiteness of milk and its being a substance that, unlike a solid, flows and expands readily - are physical features reflecting the emotional energy flow of loving-kindness and tender nurturing. The redness and toughness of meat are reflections of man's capacity to create boundaries and walls, to discipline and withhold, to reject and refuse.
One needs to make sure that his acts of loving-kindness outnumber his acts of harshness and severity….
Though both elements are crucial in order to maintain a healthy balance in life, the attribute of chesed must always overpower the attribute of gevura. One needs to make sure that his acts of loving-kindness outnumber his acts of harshness and severity. For example, parents need to discipline and rebuke their children, but their primary enjoyment ought to come from nurturing and creating close relationships with their children, not from constructing boundaries and creating a distance.
In Jewish law there is a principle known as "tata'a gavar", which states that in the natural order of the universe, the bottom overpowers the top. Based on this principle, we may understand why following the consumption of meat one must wait six hours before eating dairy, while one who eats dairy need not wait prior to eating meat.
When man absorbs meat first, the energy of rejection becomes the bottom substance in his body, so that if he were to consume dairy immediately afterward, the attribute of rejection would overpower the attribute of love in his life, based on the principle that the bottom overpowers the top. Only when six hours have elapsed, during which the rejection energy of meat is fully digested in his system, and there is no residue of meat left in his throat, palate or between the teeth, can he ingest and internalize the dairy energy of love in a healthy and productive manner.
Within our frail hearts…the objective of all Creation is implemented….
On the other hand, when man consumes dairy first, so that the flow of chesed is the bottom substance, then he almost immediately may proceed to eat meat. In this case, the prevailing substance would be chesed, and it would dominate the power of gevura that came second.
Earth battles heaven
Why did G‑d establish the natural law to be that the bottom substance overpowers the higher substance? Rabbi Schneur Zalman of Liadi explains that this is because in the cosmic battle between heaven and earth, earth (the bottom) prevailed over heaven (the top).
When did earth prevail over heaven? As mentioned above, the angels, the heavenly creatures populating the spiritual universes on high, demanded that the Torah be granted to them. But it was Earth that triumphed. Our rock-bottom world, a world which is lowly, insensitive and coarse, became the recipient of the divine blueprint for life. It is on our soil and within our frail hearts that the objective of all Creation is implemented. The bottom overpowered the top.
The angels…too, believed that the divine blueprint for life was reserved for the human race….
When the angels protested G‑d's plan to send the Torah down to Earth, demanding instead that it remain within the higher realms of existence, G‑d demonstrated to them that they really did not believe what they were saying. For if they truly felt the Torah belonged above and not below, it would mean that their perspective held that the top ought to overpower the bottom. But if that were the case, they would need to wait six hours after eating cheese before they could consume meat so that the rejection power of meat would not override the loving power of cheese - all this based on their perspective that the higher substance overpowers the lower substance.
The fact that the angels did consume meat immediately following their dairy meal demonstrated that they, too, believed that the divine blueprint for life was reserved for the human race, living and struggling in a lowly and mundane world. They, too, conceded to the fact that the bottom overpowers the top. That's why they allowed themselves to consume dairy and immediately after that eat deli.
[Based on a discourse by Rabbi Schneur Zalman of Liadi, printed in Kerem Chabad, vol. 1, p. 80; Copyright © TheYeshiva.net]