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Kabbalah teaches that a soul's heavenly source has male and female halves.

Soul Mates

Soul Mates

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Soul Mates
Kabbalah teaches that a soul's heavenly source has male and female halves.

There is no doubt that the "compatible helper" [paraphrasing Gen. 2:18] that G-d has intended for a man may assist him in his task. Yet, there is much more to it than that. A single person is unable to complete the rectification that he is to perform in this world. A soul's heavenly source has male and female halves, which are incarnated into the world as a man and a woman. The incarnation of the two does not necessarily occur simultaneously. As a result, only when the man and woman are righteous do they attain the privilege to meet and wed their real soulmate.

By means of three steps of the marriage ceremony, the three main levels of a man's soul…become bound to those of his wife….

Until marriage, however, a man continues to be a half soul. By means of three steps of the marriage ceremony, the three main levels of a man's soul, the Nefesh, the Ruach and the Neshama, become bound to those of his wife, and they both become one being, with one joint spiritual structure.

Consequently, each spouse may only reach spiritual fulfillment and perfection by means of their union, when their lives are conducted with purity.

Even when the man and woman who get married are not real soulmates - which is often the case in our time - they have to accomplish together a rectification that was assigned to them in Heaven. Sometimes, per divine decree, a person is unable to find a compatible mate. It is nevertheless the unmarried person's duty to keep trying to find a spouse, for one may only reach one's spiritual potential through marriage, and a decree may change at any time that the person achieves whatever rectification is personally required before he can find a mate.

His soulmate is allowed to incarnate with him…in order to help him….

When a man comes into this world without a heavy debt to rectify, he may meet his soulmate and marry her without much effort. The Ari cites the case of a man who sins and has to reincarnate, whereas his soulmate has completed her task in this world and has no further need of incarnation. (Shaar HaGilgulim, 20) In special cases, his soulmate is allowed to incarnate with him, and she will came back to this world with him in order to help him. When the time comes for him to get married, however, he will not find her effortlessly as in the first case, but after an intense search and struggle. Since he reincarnated because of a sin he committed, the Accusers on high speak against him; they want him to be prevented from meeting her, on the grounds that he does not deserve it. So they spread animosity between the couple and they later quarrel. That is why it is written that making couples is as difficult as splitting the Red Sea!

[Translated by Simcha Benyosef]

Rabbi Eliyahu da Vidas d. c. 5353 (c. 1593 CE). Disciple of RaMaK; possibly studied under the Ari zal as well, whom he certainly knew. Wrote Reishit Chochma, a kabbalistic ethical treatise.
Simcha H. Benyosef is a scholar living in Jerusalem. Formerly a close student of Rabbi Aryeh Kaplan, Benyosef is also the translator of the 16th century Safed classic, Reishit Chochma ("Beginning of Wisdom").
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July 16, 2012
Wonderful
This is a nice tale and the comments are just as great as the story itself. I like the idea that we have a soulmate, and I think it is nice to think of refinement of ourselves as a way to work to get closer to having the soulmate that was meant for us.
Anonymous
Israel, Israel
March 1, 2012
Seems I found her.
16+ years of searching, traveled the world and then one day by accident on facebook and a Hebrew dating site in Hebrew that I only google translated I found her.
Several times over the years we would have met up even on travels in foreign country's, I know now that I was not ready and she was not ready until recently.
The connections on many all levels, similarities in past experiences and pure desire to not even be interested in anyone else for more that 3 months video dating, talk of our children and the gran children and many other things is amazing.
It is literally if the appearance of other we might desire is being labeled as UN-attractive or boring and so no desire to stray away from each other.
Being able to daily video chat and then being as if the first kiss or first time our eyes met have that same joy and desire is unnatural.
We literally fit like a hand and glove and will soon get married.
Anonymous
Earth
kabbalaonline.org
October 8, 2010
Soul mates
I have prayed and manifested for my soul mate but he is tied down. I am finding it difficult to wait for him.
Elize
Pretoria, South Africa
March 2, 2010
Wow never knew it this way
I'm not heavy on Kabbalah, but here is the amazing story on how i found my soulmate.
Three years ago she was divorced with 2 kids, reciting Song of Songs in Hebrew for 40 consecutive days. On the 40th day she went to The Western Wall and told G-d: it's all in Your hands.
I was 37, in the middle of praying 40 consecutive days at the Wall. When I came upstairs afterwards, I went to the Bagel shop to get a bite to eat. She was getting coffee to go, then back home. Our eyes met ....The rest is history!
Anonymous
PT, Israel
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